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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to think that mums who send their toddlers to groups with colds...

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MrsBucketxx · 14/09/2012 11:31

are irresponsible

can't they keep their dc's at home till they don't have snotty noses and infecting the other children there.

kinda sick of nursing colds everytime they go to any sort of group.

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Evasmum12 · 14/09/2012 12:22

My dd is extremely prone to infection, a sniffle to another child is a full blown chest infection and weeks of antibiotics to her. She is constantly ill. And I still think YABU. I do not expect other people to get a child with a mild cold off from nursery, or soft play or anything else, even though I know my dd will likely catch it. That's life. My dd would be a very very lonely, miserable child if I kept her away from everywhere she might catch a cold. (ie anywhere outside her bedroom)

Chestnutx3 · 14/09/2012 12:22

I seem to have the worlds least snottiest/ill children - I think its their diet - mini chocolate rolls, quite a few biscuits, ice cream, minimal vegetables for my DS, high meat diet for my DD.

Think you need to change the diet of you child, he/she obviously has a poor immune system if they can't fight the colds.

TheEnglishWomanInTheAttic · 14/09/2012 12:22

With some kids if you stay at home for a cold you'll only leave the house ever during about 5 months of the year... If you have several preschool children (of your own or as a child-minder) and stay at home every time any one of them has a cold you will be lucky to leave the house much at all...

Children who have normal immune systems benefit from being exposed to common, relatively harmless germs early on as they start to build up some immunity before going to school etc.

grobagsforever · 14/09/2012 12:23

OP you are hilarious. Thanks for brightening up my day. And good luck with home educating your DC as that seems to be your only option. That or hazmat suits.

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MrsBucketxx · 14/09/2012 12:23

missmac i have two not one.

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imnotmymum · 14/09/2012 12:24

Oh what will you do when one gets cold then OP isolate it so as not to infect other.

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MrsBucketxx · 14/09/2012 12:26

no they both tend to get it together. always a few days after the local toddler group i go to.

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PosieParker · 14/09/2012 12:28

Well if my children ever had green snotty noses they didn't go and mix with other children, one reason being a little boy at nursery (for one of them) had recently recovered from a bone marrow transplant. And the other os that so many of the children at nursery or playgroups had tiny babies at home. Besides I am a nice person who is rather considerate of others and I remember how awful it is to have a baby with a cold.

And it's not hard.,

PosieParker · 14/09/2012 12:29

Oh and my children of 3,5,9 and 10 are exceedingly well. Had their fair share of colds without ever knowingly spreading their germs.

BigBoobiedBertha · 14/09/2012 12:29

YABU. If they are properly unwell they shouldn't go out but more for their sakes than anybody elses. They must be miserable. The average toddler cold is no big deal though. They can't stay in for a cold or they would never venture out into the world and all life would have to grind to a halt for months on end. In fact, my DS's infant school tells parents to send in children with a cold for this very reason.

Catching mild illnesses like a cold are good for children - they do boost immunity. Wasn't there some research a while back that said you had to catch a certain number of colds in your first few years of life to lower your risk of asthma?

Besides, not every snotty nose is a cold. Sometimes it could be an allergy. Should those children stay in too just in case you get paranoid? As I understand it, colds are at their most contagious in the first 3 or 4 days. A child could still be snotty but passed the contagious stage and no threat to anybody. You are making massive assumptions about the risk.

Do agree about the parents who let their children out too soon after D & V though. That is far worse in my book.

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot · 14/09/2012 12:31

Posie that's just silly. Your told by tbd nursery they don't need to be kept off with a cold, it's common practise. You can't prevent a child catching a cold. If your likely to come across a child with immunisation issues that's a very separate thing and I would imagine you would have prior notice and act accordingly.

Nothing to do with being nice. I am nice. Very very nice.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 14/09/2012 12:32

YABU

And if their snotty nose has time to go away between one trip to a toddler group and the next then you aren't taking them out often enough.

imnotmymum · 14/09/2012 12:32

Maybe you should go to a different toddler group OP as IME going to toddlers did not equate colds each time. Maybe they need a multivitamin to boost their immune system

Molehillmountain · 14/09/2012 12:33

So-between the ages of one and three, dd (pfb) had a cold or similar nearly constantly. Now, at the age of nearly seven, she has not had a day of school in two years. Colds are infectious before symptoms, so keeping children home whilst showing symptoms would not solve the problem. And children's immune systems would be weaker. Not to mention the effect on the mental health of parents keeping their children in for months in the winter. D and v is a different thing-whilst it's active it's most infectious. We never go anywhere if they have it and it drives me mad to see children out and about who are ill that way. Certain infectious diseases like chicken pox require isolation. Yabu to ask people to keep away when their children have colds, although yanbu to hope that their noses are wiped.

Trazzletoes · 14/09/2012 12:33

How about YOU stay home then, OP, if you're bothered by your DCs getting sick? Do make sure you don't go to the supermarket either, or open the door to the postman... Get over yourself.

JarethTheGoblinKing · 14/09/2012 12:34

We always get colds a few days after catching up with friends we don't see very often - always a few days after seeing them. I'm not going to stop going to friends houses though!

2old2beamum · 14/09/2012 12:35

YABU but having said that I get furious when mums say they have been up all night with child with D&V and bring child to nursery or school.

Molehillmountain · 14/09/2012 12:35

Btw-I'm not claiming good parent points for exposing her to the common cold when small. Or saying that it's cause and effect even.

LilRedWG · 14/09/2012 12:36

Colds don't bother me - d&V does, but a cold, nah!

nipersvest · 14/09/2012 12:38

lol, are you seriously being serious op?

we are talking a simple cold, not the plague. what would you prefer, send them home and daub a red cross on the door?

what do you do when you are ill yourself?, put your dc's in quarantines so you don't infect them??

lljkk · 14/09/2012 12:40

YABU.
Just wait until your dears go to school & bring home true horrors, like lice, worms & vomitting bugs. You'll feel nostalgic for the days when all you had to worry about was catching a snotty nose.

CailinDana · 14/09/2012 12:42

How old is your child OP, out of interest?

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MrsBucketxx · 14/09/2012 12:42

i rarely get colds even when my little ones get one, i dont tend too. BTW my diet is not great.

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nipersvest · 14/09/2012 12:43

oooh yes!! just you wait till they are all sharing their threadworm eggs

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MrsBucketxx · 14/09/2012 12:43

my children are 13 months and 2.5 years.

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