Women who let their hair go grey

[CJ2010]

I don't understand why women, except the very old, say age 70 plus do not cover their grey hair?

I know a couple of women who have just turned 40 who are letting their grey come through and are just leaving it. It makes them
look so much older and washed out. I don't understand it really. I appreciate that some women are into the 'natural' look and are not fussed with make up and hair dye but I think by not having colour on your hair you age yourself dramatically.

Grey hair looks so wrong on younger women. AIBU?

There is such a contrast with men

Every time I see a grey hair on dh's head I make him go up to the bedroom lmao

kayano You're right, dying your hair doesn't make you shallow or vain. Thinking that not dying your hair is "wrong" does make you shallow, vain and an idiot.

Kayano, I was going to say that!

I once went for a haircut at a trendy hairdresser and discovered that ALL the young and hip staff had got grey hair. Clearly a new batch of dye had arrived and they'd all fallen in love with it. It made them all look fascinating and gorgeous and some of them a bit like Marie Antoinette. Of course it was a very flattering tone of grey and most of us aren't going to be that colour, but in that example it did look wonderful.

My partner (male) is going grey at 29, but I don't see anyone calling for him to break out the Just For Men. No, it's all "oh it makes you look sexy".

I doubt I'd get the same if I were going grey.

Load.Of.Shite.

Kayano - no, dyeing your hair doesn't make you shallow or vain. But passing judgement on women who choose not to dye their hair does.

Well glad I don't then

Judgmental much?

GettingOnWithHerDayLaughingVeryHardAnyoneWouldPostThisTiggaxx

I'm almost 41 and I don't need to yet. I won't be though, IMO there is nothing more silly than a woman with peach roots!

Maybe its already been said, but, silver/white hair is usually more flattering than out of the box jobs anyway.

OP, to quote Hullygully, "Oh fuck off".

Folk Yesssss! I love it when I guess right.

My hair's been every colour of the rainbow so I'm the last person to disapprove of another person's choice to dye their hair. But not dying it is an equally valid choice too. Although I now do fancy looking a bit like Marie Antoinette...

I felt liberated from hair dye and my hair is now absolutely white. The colour suits my skin tone and while many women have complemented me, a couple of men have said it is very ageing like I give a shit what they think.
I replanned my wardrobe colour to suit my hair and feel great. Why would I want to look younger when I am hitting 60?

Same brain underneath.

I work with a woman in her late 40s - whippet thin, stylish, all pixie-like and gamine with a cropped silver do. Plus she is just lovely and a very clever academic.

If it wasn't for the fact that she's so lovely, I doubt she'd give the likes of the OP the time of day.

I am VERY tempted by the all-grey idea. Am about 5% grey at the moment (on very dark hair hence the grey shows up a lot, the OP would fall over frothing with horror if she passed me in the street).

I henna it sometimes, but that doesn't cover the grey as such, just makes the whole thing shinier and bouncier.

I think a woman in her 40's looks better than a woman the same age with bright pink, purple or any other out there colour.

I do colour my gray but only because my natural hair is very dark brown and my skin tone is olive. The salt and pepper look at the front doesn't look good and makes me look like a witch but when i start going all over grey i shall leave it and or use some thing to enhance the grey so i get that silver look.

Directions was my friend when I was younger. I tend to favour a tamer, but not really any more natural shade of red nowadays.

Sometimes I do it a very natural auburn for a change, but it doesn't generally last long.

I don't do it to cover my grey though, I do it because I like the colour

YABVU have a
I've been going grey since I was 14 and I have spent a fortune on dying it over the years. It started with the funky student colours (once I had left school) and then on to the grown up bloody expensive colours. I've had periods where I haven't bothered and on one accasion while working in India illicited comments from an employee as to whether it is normal in the UK for women of my age to marry a man of DHs age; I am only a year older but my lovely employee thought I was 20 years older than him, in my forties - I wasn't yet 30 at the time! That prompted me, upon returning to the UK, to dye my hair and have it all chopped off! I spent a fortune over the next 6 years dying it at the hairdressers, but not only got fed up of having to go back every 4 weeks (I have black and white hair - think badger! ) I started to have minor allergic reactions to the dye (puffy eyes 12 hrs after colouring) and decided I didn't want to end up as a statistic or on the local news!
I have young skin and few wrinkles and frankly I don't give a toss anymore what people think of whether I colour my hair or not. It is more important to me that I am a good wife and friend to my DH, a good mother to my DS (and soon to be DC2 ) and a generally nice, kind and generous person in the world at large. My self worth is not measured by how my hair looks! I might occasionally go for a funky colour (think teal or bright purple) because they work really well on my white bits, but that is once in a blue moon, only semi-permanent and purely for me .

Erm I'd say yabu on the whole. Although I agree it looks better imo dyed.

But there maybe perfectly good reasons why folk let their hair go grey. Money, time, they are ill or depressed. Who knows.

My mum dys her hair but uses such a cheap dye on purpose to not cover her greys all up

All the women in her family have stark white hair at very young age and she says she wanted to ease herself into it

When she has roots it because you would never think it was dyed in the first place because of te visible grey!

I know it's odd to understand this but we are all different and so some women are happy with their grey hair. Dye it or don't, whatever you are happy with. Don't worry about it though

"Money, time, they are ill or depressed."??!!WTAF?

Or, we are OK with our grey hair & aren´t going to dye it lest we offend some random shallow twat others.

I'm 27 and going grey silver. I don't mind it. But then, I'm not vain.

YADBU..each to their own! Not really anything to do with anybody else to be honest!

I have been going grey since I was 28. I have long dark hair, so you can see it.

My step brother commented on it and I said 'and'.

If you don't like my grey hair and it makes me look washed out, tough!

Why should I spend a fortune on hair dye that I can't afford just to please you.

I would also look washed out if I did dye my hair, what would you say then?

hahahahahahahahahaha - it is a wind up - right????

I have my hair how I like it and anyone else can have their hair how they like it... anyone can comment on anyone else's hair if that sort of thing floats their boat, but does it matter one iota what anyone says about my natural hair.....

nope.......

p.s. I don't dye mine because I don't want to

diddl calm down dear.

I'm talking about people who judge or wonder why anyone would let their hair go grey.

Yes ok some women do it by choice. I've never met one tbf.