Women who let their hair go grey

[CJ2010]

I don't understand why women, except the very old, say age 70 plus do not cover their grey hair?

I know a couple of women who have just turned 40 who are letting their grey come through and are just leaving it. It makes them
look so much older and washed out. I don't understand it really. I appreciate that some women are into the 'natural' look and are not fussed with make up and hair dye but I think by not having colour on your hair you age yourself dramatically.

Grey hair looks so wrong on younger women. AIBU?

I started colouring mine when the grey hairs started appearing and wish I'd never started. I'm now hostage to the hairdressers and it's costing me a fortune.
YABU - each to their own I say!

What do you think of grey haired men op ???
Yabvu

I am letting my hair go grey. Sorry, but some of the ladies I see with hair that is obviously coloured actually looks worse than the grey would.

I like to think of it as reflecting my time on the earth and showing my increasing age and wisdom.

My mother colours her hair, for the most part its ok, but she has to pay £65 ever two months as hers is all grey and colours badly. I am not paying that amount of cash out, no way.

yes YABU

I'm 37 and don't have a single grey hair yet. No real point to this comment, just wanted you all to know. (I do however 'let myself go' in lots of other ways though).

My mum went grey in her twenties, and by her mid thirties had brilliant white hair. She was/is a very strikingly attractive woman and I don't think it ages her. But, a few years ago I did decide to stop dying my hair (which is greying, but not so dramatically), and I did look washed out. It was as if my skin looked grey too. I'm going to leave it another few years until there's some more white in and see how it looks then.

Basically I think it suits some women, and not others so much. However, regular dying is such a pain in the arse.

And what exactly is wrong about looking your age? I'm not one to harp on about how women are brainwashed into wanting to look a certain way, but FFS, when celebrities everywhere still look 25 when they are 50, people end up thinking that's normal. It's not. Wrinkles and grey hair and everthing slipping south a bit are normal. I am going to age gracefully, dammit.

CJ2010 - Because we don't care about looking older
There are probably loads of things I could do to make myself look younger but I am perfectly happy being & looking the age I am so why on earth would I?!

It's up to the individual, but I get bored with my hair and have to dye it. I used to henna it when I was 13 and now I have foils. My hair is not grey, just a few strands but I do agree, I find it strange when women don't bother to colour it.

It's personal choice.

Different people have different priorities and likes/dislikes. What else is there to 'get'?

The same reason some women want to be, blonde, brunette, red.

WHat is with all these threads just now???? Isn't school back yet?

I don't get you

I've been getting the odd grey hair since I was 18 because of DS PCOS, so do dye it, but not religiously, and currently have a good inch of roots showing. My choice.

Do you feel blokes should dye their hair too?

The problem with hair dye is its chemical crap...

I don't due my hair because I have wrinkle free fresh looking skin. People act shocked when I tell them my age and that I have children. No one looks at my fucking hair to guess my age.

Why do I want to anti-age myself, exactly? Am I suppose to be ashamed to be 43? According to whom?

Why would I want to look 20? I'm not 20.

I don't mind looking older. I don't look older than I am, I just look older than a younger person. I'm not a big fan of died hair on older women (my mother is peroxide blonde, I think its awful) but I'm not so blinkered as to literally not understand why someone would make a different choice from me on something so inconsequential as their own hair.

I'm not into the natural look, I wear a lot of make up sometimes (and sometimes non) I have had died hair before, I had a blue mohawk many years ago but I'm just not that interested in going around in a disguise.

Are you are one of those women who sees the 'younger looking skin' adverts and is sucked in to thinking that younger looking is almost virtuous?

"Hair colour is a simple anti ageing tool."

What's wrong with ageing?

DYE. Why doesn't iPhone recognise the word DYE?

One of my best friends went grey at 17 and she looks beautiful. What is wrong with looking older anyway?

Very little looks more aging than a 50+ woman with obviously dyed hair. You do realise that, right?

Besides, why is your vitriol all reserved for women? What about men who don't dye heir hair?

I´m nearly 50 & have some grey.

I love it!

I do sometimes put a red colour on so that they go pink.

I´m getting older-& I´m OK with it.

I want hair like <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=cdn.indulgy.com/Zd/pM/UA/5559199509849623UOHOIGtEc.jpg&imgrefurl=indulgy.com/post/nl8vUKAqD1/grey-bob-interesting-that-the-young-are-dyin&h=500&w=300&sz=68&tbnid=LijTXB0URz-mXM:&tbnh=97&tbnw=58&prev=/search%3Fq%3Dgrey%2Bbob%26tbm%3Disch%26tbo%3Du&zoom=1&q=grey+bob&usg=__5oBKZyW9A9j2k8zemDtf1MGH76w=&docid=X1Wz3zepu29hTM&sa=X&ei=wqpRUPO3AsXxsgbfv4CQBg&ved=0CDgQ9QEwBQ&dur=626" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this, <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.com/imgres?q=long+grey+hair&hl=en&client=firefox-a&hs=pZm&sa=X&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&biw=1525&bih=741&tbm=isch&prmd=imvns&tbnid=kYPkLvn6LoWj0M:&imgrefurl=www.birdsontheblog.co.uk/to-dye-or-not-to-dye-that-is-the-question/&docid=NlNMRNLOdB_dxM&imgurl=www.birdsontheblog.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/Grey-hair-model.png&w=299&h=399&ei=HatRUJTvBsvltQbf-4GwAg&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=1288&vpy=338&dur=1905&hovh=259&hovw=194&tx=151&ty=129&sig=113154146177469131116&page=1&tbnh=180&tbnw=128&start=0&ndsp=24&ved=1t:429,r:16,s:0,i:177" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this or <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.com/imgres?q=long+grey+hair&hl=en&client=firefox-a&hs=lbm&sa=X&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&biw=1525&bih=741&tbm=isch&prmd=imvns&tbnid=sTpNxpTAvk3XcM:&imgrefurl=brightonwoman.blogspot.com/2009/02/long-grey-beautiful.html&docid=NENAwFi9eI9VsM&imgurl=blstb.msn.com/i/E2/799C44B1E7ED35714F1D5748A41D9.jpg&w=350&h=350&ei=latRUO2RAc-VswaR54HABw&zoom=1&iact=rc&dur=517&sig=113154146177469131116&page=1&tbnh=149&tbnw=152&start=0&ndsp=24&ved=1t:429,r:19,s:0,i:187&tx=76&ty=62" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this

If someone doesn´t like the way I look-that´s their problem!

Well, she doesn't 'allow' herself to go grey, does she? Nature makes that choice for her. Or him. Men go grey too. I know, I know, you're saying 'away you go Wilson with your crazy men-talk' but 'tis true.

What I don't get is WTAF it has to do with you. Who made you the boss of what looks old?

Each to their own of course. Grey hair can look beautiful, on an attractive woman.

However, for the most people it's just going to make you look worse.

Some people are blessed with a lovely, silvery grey but most people have a horrible dark grey hair that looks really coarse.

I respect people choices but I don't understand it. Surely you want to look as good as you can?

"Do you feel blokes should dye their hair too? "

It's interesting this, isn't it - because if anything, men that cover their grey hair are thought to be vain, and the whole Grecian 2000 thing just makes everyone laugh. When Tom Jones stopped dying his hair everyone applauded him. Older men with unnaturally black hair are unwitting subjects of ridicule for not giving in to nature, but for some reason women are supposed to fight it all the way. Screw that!

Hmmmm. I agree with EmmaB it suits some women and others it doesn't. It can look cool. It can look massively ageing. It also depends on what kind of hair you have. My mum went white/grey quite early, but her hair was so fine and lovely she just looked amazing.

Those of you who are so above caring that they look older, it must be nice working in a area where this doesn't matter. Unfortunately, I think in a lot of professions age DOES matter, and a youthful appearance becomes really important (for both men and women).