Women who let their hair go grey

[CJ2010]

I don't understand why women, except the very old, say age 70 plus do not cover their grey hair?

I know a couple of women who have just turned 40 who are letting their grey come through and are just leaving it. It makes them
look so much older and washed out. I don't understand it really. I appreciate that some women are into the 'natural' look and are not fussed with make up and hair dye but I think by not having colour on your hair you age yourself dramatically.

Grey hair looks so wrong on younger women. AIBU?

In the spirit of Fuck You OP, I went to the hairdressers this morning to talk about getting the copper dye stripped out of my long hair and blending it in with my 4-inch grey roots. I'm a natural redhead but as I said in a pp, I lost much of the pigment when I had kids and had been dyeing it back to red ever since. I got sick of the high maintenance a few months back and decided to let it grow out but it does currently look a bit ridiculous. So I'm going Full Grey on Thursday
I did have one of the young lasses in the salon say to me while I was there that if she had my colour when she went grey she'd be well chuffed, and that her pals pay a fortune for it. Redheads tend to go proper silver or white so I'm getting these really cool white streaks coming through. It might age me, it might not. I don't give a shit quite honestly. Really looking forward to binning the hair dye for good and if I look like some mad witch with long wavy silver white hair, so much the better goes off to find her dragons

I'm only 29 so haven't got grey hair just yet.
I haven't dyed my hair for about 5 years, but the minute I spot a grey I'l be straight to the Salon!

I just have a massive fear of looking old

I haven't dyed my hair for about 5 years

About the time the OP posted, then.

I just have a massive fear of looking old

No need. I'm in my mid 50s. It's fine. Lots to be said for getting older. Better than the alternative!

I'm 27, and I have great big streaks of white/grey hair all over. I've been going grey since I was 21.

My husband could not give a damn, loves my hair whether I choose to dye it or let it be - and I have SO MUCH MORE MONEY to spend on, you know, things that are actually fun.

And whenever I think for a second about dying my hair again, I remember all the old white corporate dudes who profit from me feeling bad about my natural state. Fuck that noise.

OP, you are basic as fuck.

Ginger I am envious and would very much like to see photographs when it's done, if you'd be so kind 😊

I'm 35 and probably 50% grey, and am allergic to hair dye. Lots of women are - it's an incredibly allergenic, dangerous substance.

I sometimes have brown highlights (doesn't touch the scalp) to blend in the greys a bit, because I do think I look washed out and would prefer to keep the dark for a while yet... but it's very expensive and quite frankly, I have other things I'd rather spend my money on most of the time. I think grey hair looks beautiful, and am delighted to be aging - I'd far rather that than dead. I'm also quite happy to look my age. Why shouldn't I be?

And additionally - no, I don't want to look the best I possibly can. That would require untold amounts of effort that I just cannot be faffed with anymore. I'm happy with how I look, besides being overweight, and am far more concerned with doing my job well, being a good partner and friend, making my new house and garden pretty, reading more books and completing my Pokedex.

Oh, go and get a life op. I started to go grey in my 30s - expected it as my mother did the same and we have exactly the same kind of hair. By 40 it was almost entirely grey and constant colouring was ruining the condition and the results were wrong - disastrous carrot colour for my father's funeral anda lovely purple for millennium which was not intended. I let it grow out.

Went to a party last weekend where I was complimented by several people on my hair. Friend a similar age looked awful - tired, hassled etc - and then commented that she has to have her roots done every three weeks.

Age or being washed out is not about hair colour - it's about being interesting, vibrant, having energy and doing what makes you happy. And that for me includes not having to listen to rubbish like this from the op.

I would imagine they have got a life in the last few years.

I was going grey because of allergies to chemical hair dye and a Bad Hair Life in general (splitting, breaking, dull). I thought I would take the grey if I had to, but I have experienced hair loss in the last couple of years and it was getting back to normal and growing back and then, the grey happened, very quickly. I just wasn't ready for it, I just wanted my old normal hair back for a bit.

But anyway, just discovered organic hair dye. I tell you what, it is bloody brilliant. The answer to all my prayers. But there is nothing wrong with grey, all power to you. www.itspure.co.uk/herbal-hair-colours.html

I assume OP is on a windup. Each to their own of course but I find it a little sad that almost no women in their 40s (an age by which easily around half of people of both sexes are greying at least a little bit) have natural hair colour. I really like seeing a well groomed, attractive woman with well maintained natural hair.

I would never let my hair go grey..

So, the thought police are running this thread.

1. Looking around me and seeing a very large percentage of attractive women with dyed hair they take the contrary view that grey hair is lovely for all mature ladies.
2. Anyone who disagrees with them is sad, winding them up and has no life, indeed those who disagree should be "spoken to" by their employers and converted to the cause.

3.It is OK to over egg the stats about cancer etc to frighten women not to dye their hair. I'm quite entitles to my views, which I suspect a large number of people would agree with, I'm quite happy to leave the grey hair flat shoes "bunty" types to their own devices, but I think they are protesting too much!

Nasty thread in 2012 when it started, and still nasty today

I think there is no "one size fits all" and we should respect that each of us has a choice, and makes different choices depending on many factors.

I'm going grey, it's the right choice for me. But others want to dye, and that's the right choice for them.

My only comment on the fact that so many women colour their hair, is that some of them, at least, are only doing so due to society expectations that women should try to look as young as possible for as long as possible.

I want people to be able to make their choice, grey/no grey, without these additional societal pressures.

Because the word tart implies you are or look like a prostitute!

Why is it expected that grey-haired women will have flat shoes, Constance ?

I have grey hair & wear flats, heels, high heels, depending on what I am doing, as was ever the case

ZOMBIE THREAD!!!!!
(I will never ever allow my hair to grey, though. Blonde till I die )

If you read the thread there are many posts about adopting what I would call "the comfort over style" approach - flat shoes are specifically mentioned. Good on you for the heels.

When I started to go SILVER I had my hair tinted to my natural dark blonde colour. Unfortunately people assumed I was much younger than my 60-70 years and had great expectations of my abilities. My hairdresser said my natural silver hair colour was stylish so I went with silver and am now relaxed, people give me their seats and don't expect me to do things for them like lifting down heavy loads from high shelves, what is more people often say "I wish I had hair like yours"! As you get older you become more relaxed about keeping up, comfort and relaxation become the order of the day. Have to say I don't care for long, straggly grey/silver hair, it looks better short or done up in an elegant style. You can tell I'm old can't you?

Well IMO you are being EU and extremely judgemental. What on earth is wrong with having gray hair if your hair is naturally gray with age? Who the hell are you to judge whether a woman should feel comfortable being gray?

I respectfully suggest you might like to get a life. Maybe you could concern yourself about the wrongs of FGM? Maybe you should be slightly more concerned over 'honour killings', or maybe the recent rise in 'acid attacks in London'? Or are those not really very important matters? I suspect you vote Labour or Lib Dim, but then I am possibly BU!

Whoa there!

What has hair colour got to do with voting preferences????

user1492679224 - any chance you could think of a proper username ?