Women who let their hair go grey

[CJ2010]

I don't understand why women, except the very old, say age 70 plus do not cover their grey hair?

I know a couple of women who have just turned 40 who are letting their grey come through and are just leaving it. It makes them
look so much older and washed out. I don't understand it really. I appreciate that some women are into the 'natural' look and are not fussed with make up and hair dye but I think by not having colour on your hair you age yourself dramatically.

Grey hair looks so wrong on younger women. AIBU?

I know what you mean. Young faces. Old hair. But that's just because we are not used to it. And also we can hold back time on our faces a bit with good food and creams and make up and what not but unless we dye our hair we can't. So it doesn't match up. But I think it's nice when women just go grey. Stuff it. Life's shot.

I believe silver is incredibly difficult for the young 'uns to achieve. Probably why it's become rather sought after with that group.

I've heard stories of them stopping women in the street asking who has been doing their hair, but the women were naturally grey .

I am 50 and have had some grey hairs for years now. At least a decade, and I am gradually getting more and more of them.

I really can't say I have ever worried about it, and I have certainly never been tempted to colour it. I don't care what anyone else thinks.

I take the view that life is too short, so don't worry about it. We can't hold back the passage of time in the end, no matter how hard some might try.

I can see both arguments. On the one hand, why on earth should women have to dye their hair, pluck their eyebrows, shave or wax their legs, wear make-up, paint their nails, enhance their breasts with push-up bras, suffer high heels, and all those other things we're expected to do by society?

On the other hand, most people care at least a little about their appearance and want to look their best, so why not dye your hair when it's a fairly easy thing to accomplish and can make a big difference to how you look?

So not sure. But what I really can't understand is people who do dye their hair but too infrequently, so they end up looking like a badger. That has to be the worst of both worlds.

Personally I've never dyed mine as I like the colour and don't have any grey yet (in early 40s), although I am blonde so there could be a few grey strands hiding. I haven't really decided what I'll do, but I'm not hugely into expensive grooming habits so I suspect I'll just let it turn grey naturally.

I've stopped dyeing my grey hair (I have "wings" of grey hair at my temples), and as a result am so much more confident about it. I also think it suits me better.

Is this a zombie thread? The OP is from 2012, when I had way less grey hair 😂...

What's this? Deja vu? Not another ZOMBIE THREAD!

Why does it matter that it is a zombie thread? It is still a valid discussion for many of us if we just avoid addressing the OP directly.

I'd rather have grey hair than alopecia :(

My MIL stopped colouring her hair in her early 50s, and pretty much stopped wearing make up. It aged her by 10 years overnight. It drained her of colour, and made her look tired and faded.

My Mum is actually older than my MIL, but because my Mum still makes an effort with her appearance (colours her hair, wears good make up) she actually looks like my MIL's much younger sister.

YADBU the latest dye colour is wait for it grey! So all us going grey are in the know yah boo sucks op

I knew this was a zombie thread why oh why do you have to spoil it and tell ppl !

If grey hair is good enough for George clooney it's good enough for women.

I don't dye my hair because my hairdresser advises me not to. Initially I didn't because doing it well would have been too expensive, but now I could afford it and am considering it, partly because of society's attitude towards older women in the workplace. However, I often look around the carriage on the train to work and can't see a woman who hasn't dyed her hair. To be honest, many of them have awful hair, blonde hair that has the consistency of straw, black hair that washes out their complexion, and half a head of roots on many. At least my hair, although silvery, is shiny, swishy and in good condition.

Zombie zombie zombieee eee eee

I once dyed my hair grey when I was 20, loved it but was very harsh on the hair. As soon as I see signs of going grey I shall fully embrace it

I don't understand why a relatively young woman would allow herself to go grey

OMG no! because a woman might be mistaken for one of those dreadful old dried up old women. How absolutely awfully horrendous.

I do love a bit of sexist ageism on a sunny Sunday.

My mother (RIP) never dyed her hair and just aged in a very normal way. She never looked weird. Her dsis dyed her hair and by the time she died looked rather strange to be honest, with dark hair in her 80's.

I am in my 60's and very grey. Have never sought to disguise it. My hair matches my face and I have no problem with that. I would rather "look my age" than look like someone who is trying to pretend they were younger.

Yes I know it's a zombie thread

Ive gone grey since this thread started (not joking) as it was too high maintenance but mainly as I started to get an allergic reaction to dye. Preferring to be alive with grey head than dead I made the decision to stop colouring. People couldn't be less interested how I look

I got my first grey hair at 22, I'm now 28 and have quite a few more and am planning on just leaving it until it's completely grey. I like my grey hairs, they're sparkly and I'm actually getting a streak growing along my forehead, which I think is cool. Despite my grey hairs I still get asked for ID when buying (non-alcoholic) wine and people still think I'm younger than I am.

PS, I know this is a zombie thread.

I would much rather see naturally greying hair than roots showing through and obviously dyed colour that doesn't suit the skin tone.

Skin tone changes with age too, and looks better with the right colour hair.

What I find unattractive is roots growing through at any age, bleached hair with dark eyebrows and sallow skin, and all manner of atrocities inflicted on the hair, grubby looking blue and green that has not been maintained for one.

If it is pepper and salt that you are referring to, yes that is less attractive and is the reason I have continued with highlights until I am grey enough to be grey.

I think that regular maintenance is needed regardless of hair colour, and there is nothing wrong with being natural as long as it is clean.

You may change your view when you are more mature.

Why do these zombie threads keep spearing? There seems to be a spate of them recently.

It's because we don't give a shit what people like you think. ;-) I don't wear make up or bother immac-ing my moustache either! Because, and here's the real thing, it doesn't matter what you look like. It matters how you treat people and the way you conduct yourself. It's called self esteem. Have a lovely evening. :-)

There is apparently a trend among young black women to shave their heads. Cara D. was also recently seen with a shaved head. I can't understand this myself, except that it does make getting ready of a morning very easy and quick! But it's darn cold when it rains and the drops pitterpatter on your bonce. I know this cos mine fell out when I had chemo. I suppose that's why I can't understand this fashion but it's personal choice in the end.