Women who let their hair go grey

[CJ2010]

I don't understand why women, except the very old, say age 70 plus do not cover their grey hair?

I know a couple of women who have just turned 40 who are letting their grey come through and are just leaving it. It makes them
look so much older and washed out. I don't understand it really. I appreciate that some women are into the 'natural' look and are not fussed with make up and hair dye but I think by not having colour on your hair you age yourself dramatically.

Grey hair looks so wrong on younger women. AIBU?

What about the 20 something women who colour their hair grey as is the fashion at the mo? Are they wrong too?

Giddy, i came on to say just that. I have a 20 yo friend who dyes her hair grey. V. In at the mo

Emmylou Harris the singer has been a silver fox for years. She's stunning!!

Im 48, I got a small patch of grey around 30, so started dyeing it then, in anticipation of going fully grey.

18 years on I still have just the one small patch of grey.
I packed in dyeing the lot about 6 months back!
I'll probably go properly grey now.

Im 40 ods and yes all my grey hair is coming through, do I give a shite??? no I bloody dont, I have enough shit in life to contend with without having to think some fucker is judging me because my hair is grey I will leave it at that, but in future mind your own business

I am very lucky as i am 48 and have my mums genes so no greys yet. Unlike a lot of people grey or not i don't colour my hair. It is light brown, my hairdresser says she loves it as it is in lovely condition and has lots of natural highlights. I may just grow old gracefully with my glossy hair

I'm 46.
Slowly turning grey and have long hair which I wear in a platt/braid.
My mum had a "malan streak" so does my brother and mine is developing nicely. My sister went grey quite young and dyes it which is her choice. She says it's a pain in the arse and kind of wishes she'd never started.

I refuse to waste my time on earth doing something I don't need to or want to. I'm embracing getting older not fighting it.
There are much better things to spend my time and money on.
I don't do make up and expensive creams either and I don't give a shit. There's much more important things to care about.

It depends on the hair - silver or white can look amazing- especially if it is soft and shiny.
I have auburn hair with greying temples- not so amazing -so I colour those bits.
Chacun a son gout or whatever.

I can't afford to spend money on hair dye to regularly cover the grey. I always thought I would when the day came.

Not really bothered now. I'm still me.

More important things to worry about. Would never judge anyone else for not covering the grey

I have major issues with the vocabulary used by the OP

Sorry but I'm not not letting myself go grey as if I was too lazy to do it or just not careful enough.
I CHOSE to let self go grey.
Why on earth would I want to spend hours atbthe hairdresser doingnsome colours every 4 weeks that will cost of fortune?
Why should I have to look different than what I actually am?
Why the need to look 'younger' or still young? As if going grey meant you were not worth anything anymore.

I would have loved to be Ike my mum and dad who didn't go grey until they were well into their 60s.
They are now in their 70s and vaguely dark grey.
But as it is, I'm over 45yo and have some grey hairs. And that's OK too.

Buut if you want to judge me in my looks. Go ahead. You'll be wrong though.

I've had a subtle sprinkling of grey hair since I was in my late twenties. Do I care about others' opinions? No.

In my early sixties now, it's obviously become more grey, again does it matter? I also make sure it's cut really well and I wear lipstick, earrings and flattering clothes and I don't consider that I look like an old witch.

Obviously dyed hair with an older face can look terrible imho and can be very bad for the condition of the hair. Dyed hair has to have the roots attended to frequently, so bollocks to that.

I let myself go grey from about 40. My grey looks fucking gorgeous. I get people asking me where I get it done.

Grey hair is NORMAL. It doesn't need to be hidden as if it's some sort of deformity.

There's nothing wrong with grey hair.

I actually know people that think having colour on grey hair is a sign of "tackiness" and being weak.

I suspect the snobbery goes both way in this case...

(btw, haven't rtft)

My first reply!
I'm 52 and have been going grey for the past ten years.I'm proud of my stress highlights,they show I'm not a young thing any more (even though I can act it at times) I like my hair this colour.
I couldn't care less if youngsters hate it or think it looks unattractive - there are things about them that I think are unattractive (fake tan,holey jeans to name 2)
I'm comfortable enough not to conform to society's version of what's attractive any more.

I am currently cultivating a white streak at the front of my hair. I have absolutely no intention of dyeing it, even if I do the rest when I can be arsed Why does it bother you? How does it affect you?

I do respect personal choice but I don't understand why a relatively young woman would allow herself to go grey.

Well you don't really respect personal choice then do you?

Lady

I've actually always liked white streaks. They look quite elegant imo.

Hope on the FIVE years since the OP started this thread they have developed a few greys themselves.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=6Ejga4kJUts

I didn't get it either until my hair turned completely grayish. I'm 52. I don't like the regrowth, the constant dying and spending all that money on colour and dye. When I was little, I saw all these old people with wrinkled faces and completely dark brown hair and thought it looked horrible. I don't want to be like them. I'd rather look like a younger old person than an old person trying to look young (but failing). But if you pay for all the dye and hairdressers I will need between now and 70 I might reconsider, perhaps you could send me £20000 on Paypal as a contribution if you'd like?

Cheap! are you joking? I pay a small fortune to have my grey camouflaged with highlights, except they aren't really highlights, because the colour applied is the same as my natural hair colour (before the grey, obvs). I found dyeing my hair one colour all over was horrendous - roots appear after 2 weeks and I looked like a witch half the time. So now I have partial or half head colour applied every few months, and am happy that some of the grey is still visible. But I'm lucky that I can afford it, and I can see a point in the near future where I stop bothering. Luckily, I'm confident enough in my own skin that it doesn't bother me. Things like looking after my health, fitness, skin, and watching what I eat are more important to me as I approach 50 than bothering about my greying hair. I'm fitter and slimmer now than I was in my 20s and 30s. My OH tells me I look hot all the time. So yes, YABVU, mind your own business !!!!!1

OMG!!!! Zombie thread! wish I'd checked first…..!!!

Had a friend who was early silver from 35. She looked great. 5 years ago she did the let's go blonde bit which didn't suit her. She's back to silver aged 60+ and looks younger and natural.

Come back OP and tell us your thoughts.

On a different note, I have seen young people dying their hair silver grey (I guess they bleach it first) and think it can look really good. Maybe it depends on your confidence and if you associate it with ageing or not. I also hear blue rinses are a 'thing'.