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School photo

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Piplysmelie · 12/09/2012 12:30

My DD started Reception this week and yesterday she came out of school with an informative leaflet for parents. The leaflet had a group photo on the front page of all the children in my dd class. My issue is that my daughter in sitting there in the front row with her skirt rucked up to her waist with legs akimbo. AIBU to think this is an entirely inappropriate photo for the school to have taken let alone sent out to parents. The leaflet will sit on people's fridges for the term as it has important dates in and may well be shown around family and friends. TBH it makes me feel slightly ill to think my dd is being viewed in this position by gods knows who.

If you have any suggestions on how to deal with this at the school I would appreciate it.

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scentednappyhag · 12/09/2012 12:32

YABU.

WipsGlitter · 12/09/2012 12:34

I would not be happy. I would bring it up with the teacher, but I'm not sure if they would be prepared to re-do them.

honeytea · 12/09/2012 12:41

I assume she is wearing knickers? I think most people won't notice your DD's position if you ask them to redo the leaflet they will need to give a reason and it may make people notice your DD even more.

If she isn't at the stage where she can sit in a skirt without showing her knickers and you are not happy about that maybe you should consider putting her in trousers untill she is older?

bigTillyMint · 12/09/2012 12:46

It is entirely normal for little girls' knickers to show to some extent when they sit on the floor with legs crossed. I bet the people who chose the photo didn't even notice!

Some parents choose to put them in cycling type shorts under their skirts or dress them in trousers to avoid it.

WorraLiberty · 12/09/2012 12:52

I bet they won't even notice either.

I've got loads of reception class photos where little girl's skirts are up or their legs are apart. I hadn't even thought about it til now.

They mostly wear tights anyway.

sashh · 12/09/2012 12:52

Didn't we do this months ago.

littleducks · 12/09/2012 12:53
Blush

If I was there I would have asked you dd to put her skirt straight before taking a picture.

However if she is wearing the outfit you sent her in the school prob thought you don't mind. My dd wears shorts under dresses and skirts as I dislike knickers on show. It is disapproved of by many on here, which is why the school prob assumed you didn't mind as fine parents don't.

WhatYouLookingAt · 12/09/2012 12:55

Yabu. And weird. Hmm

WorraLiberty · 12/09/2012 12:58

WhatYouLookingAt I'm laughing at the irony of your nick name on this thread Blush Grin

gordyslovesheep · 12/09/2012 12:59

YABU - how will it harm your DD? ... it wont - so move on

WhatYouLookingAt · 12/09/2012 13:01

Worra,on another thread I was told I was obviously a hard faced chain smoking knacker covered in tramp stamps, so laugh away! Grin

gordyslovesheep · 12/09/2012 13:01

hahahaha seriously Grin

WorraLiberty · 12/09/2012 13:03

Worra,on another thread I was told I was obviously a hard faced chain smoking knacker covered in tramp stamps, so laugh away! Grin

They must have you confused you with me Grin

WhatYouLookingAt · 12/09/2012 13:05

Must be it alright!

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Piplysmelie · 12/09/2012 13:13

Weird really! I don't really consider being concerned about my daughter as weird!

Thank you for the comments about shorts under skirts, useful I may consider this for the future.

Yes she was wearing knickers :) but her legs were straight out in front of her not crossed. So you get a very good look at her knickers, tummy and all her legs.

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catgirl1976 · 12/09/2012 13:18

I think YABU and wierd as well...sorry

catgirl1976 · 12/09/2012 13:18

*weird

honeytea · 12/09/2012 13:18

But why are you concerned? What do you think is actually going to happen?

gordyslovesheep · 12/09/2012 13:18

why are you concerned about your daughter - WHAT do you think will happen?

kilmuir · 12/09/2012 13:21

I don't think you are being unreasonable.
The photographer and school should have noticed.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 12/09/2012 13:24

Was she a tally lifting her skirt up then?

I'm struggling to imagine how she had her legs straight out in front of her, but also akimbo, and how she had her tummy on show.

Looking at it differently, it's quite nice that a photo has been sent home of all the new reception children. Parents can use it to talk to their dc about the others in the class and help them learn names etc. its a nice idea, it just seems to have gone a little wrong this time! I suspect they didn't notice until the letters had been printed.

Vagaceratops · 12/09/2012 13:25

How is she sitting so you can see her knickers and her tummy?

missymoomoomee · 12/09/2012 13:35

You must have signed the consent form for her picture to be taken. You must also have chose her outfit. I put thick tights on DD2 because she always has her skirt up round her ears unladylike just like mummy What can you do about it now anyway? Force the parents to hand over the pictures? They won't even be looking at your child anyway.

NatashaBee · 12/09/2012 13:38

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OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 12/09/2012 13:40

I doubt they hired a photographer for a photo for an information letter. It was probably taken by the teacher or TA.