To find Kim Marsh's wedding pictures in incredible bad taste

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Selling your wedding pictures may not be to my taste but each to their own but making money out of posing in your wedding dress with your dead son's ashes leaves an incredibly bad taste in my mouth.

I understand if she'd wanted to take the ashes as a private tribute but exploiting it for financial gain I find frankly disgusting.

Totally agree. I can (I think) understand wanting to ensure that all your children are part of your life on an ongoing basis but the photo of her staring mawkishly at the ashes was sick.

Ummmm.......well I suppose you don't know how you would react to such a tragedy and whatever gives people comfort is ok with me

But....yes, the photos make me feel uncomfortable. Is she getting financial gain? Maybe she is donating the proceeds to a neonatal charity or something?

I really don't know how i would cope with a loss of a child :(

Poor woman. I don't suppose I would know if I would do this but am not in her shoes. If she feels as though this helps her with her grief who are we to question her.

I don't think it's bad taste. I think her son's ashes are a solid reminder that he would have been there on her wedding day and she wants to include him in any way possible. Since the whole wedding has been sold, he's part of the photos.

I just think selling your wedding, period, is in bad taste. Even if it's done to fund the lavish wedding itself.

I don't know how I feel because, and I thank god, I've never been in her position

I actually think that's a lovely photo, and she's raising awareness of babyloss. It needs to be brought out into the open, it should be something that people feel more able to discuss.

Ah, the disgusting sick bereaved parent thread cometh around again!

OP, yabu. Unless she was licking them off her fingers or something, in which case you may have a point.

I don't think she is exploiting his death. I think she is still grieving.

YABU

There is no one way to react to death.

She will have been thinking of him all day, no doubt. Why shouldn't anyone who wants to look at her wedding pictures also be prompted to take a minute to think of him?

The ashes are strange but I have no idea how I'd behave if id lost a child (god forbid).

But did anyone see the pictures of them in a swimming pool at the weekend? She was wearing some hideous black chain mail style bikini ...

it's a bit weird but maybe that's how she is trying to cope?

DD2 was buried, so I can't carry her around with me - I do have a lock of her hair in a locket though, and I wear that to places I want to 'include' her in.

It may seem "mawkish", and is not to everyone's taste - bereaved parent or not - but it is her choice, and she shouldn't care about making others uncomfortable... why should she forget her son, or not include him, in which ever way she thinks is right?

YABU - I thought it was good to see that her child is not forgotten and raising awareness of parents dealing with bereavement is surely a good thing.

YABU, although I understand how it could be viewed as being in bad taste. However, being open about it will help others in her unfortunate situation.

If it was still brushed under the carpet then there would be a lot of people feeling desperately sad, misunderstood and alone - like back in the good old days when such things were not talked about.

Not sure I would have agreed to have the picture taken, but who knows? I have thankfully not been in her position.

OK wedding pictures are generally done in naff, bad taste. On that count YANBU.

I think this is a clear case of each to their own.

If she had already planned to carry the ashes anyway, she couldn't really stop the magazine from including it in the article....and why should she if she wants her lost baby involved?

I agree, one of the comments on the DM website is something like " these people will pose as anything for money" and that seems to be about right.

It is a lovely photo but not one for the front of Hello magazine.

Good for her to not do the comfortable for everyone else thing .

YABU

What a horrible thing to say.
He is still her DS and the only thing she has left are his ashes.

Everyone reacts differently to death.

Should he never be mentioned again in case other people (you) feel uncomfortable?

She wanted him to be there. That was the only way he could. YABVU.

What is she supposed to do, not bring him up or have him there because it makes random people uncomfortable?

I find it frankly disgusting OP that you see fit to judge how a mother grieves for her son. She will never have a photo with him. Ever. If she wants to carry his ashes with her on a special day then good for her. She's fine. It's you who suffers from a lack of taste.