TA told my five year old to 'mind her own business'

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There is every chance my DD was trying to give unwanted help and/or advice (although apparently the little boy concerned wanted her to help him with his picture). My DD said that the TA said it in a 'not nice way'. I think is an unacceptable thing to say to a five year old. Or am I being pfb? DD is in Y1 btw.

Beeswax makes no sense - especially to a five year old.

Beeswax makes no sense - especially to a five year old.

hahaha! I have said it to my 5 year old before now. sometimes its the only way they take the hint

What does PFB mean? Is there a list of MN terms somewhere?

precious first born

similiar phrase - special snowflake.

OP you are being precious. Your child was trying to "help" another child with their picture. That's not going to fly with most 5 year olds is it. Her TA was perhaps a bit blunt but is doing her a favour in the long run. Do you want her to be liked amongst her peers?

she appointed herself Chief Executive for general Problem Solving and Peer Related Issues

I'm going to steal that!

For goodness sake, even if the TA did say something slightly harsh to a 5 year old, does it matter?

Heh ... Pag DS2 was just like that!

Still is a bit, he helpfully pointed out to the barber that I had got DS1's age wrong when I was trying to get away with a cheap kid's trim after emptying the family exchequer on shoes and a rather snotty woman in the NH museum actually told him to shut up and go away when he was telling her sprogs rather more about some dinosaur than they wanted to know ... I later overheard his cousins trying to cheer him up by telling him that all the long words were probably giving her a headache and didn't know if I should be peeved at the misogony or chuffed at the solidarity!

OP PFB a bit, sorry ... But don't worry, we've all been there!

I don't like that particular phrase being used. It does sting and she could quite easily have said 'get on with your own work, x'.

Pag Rofl at 'appointed herself Chief Executive for general Problem Solving and Peer Related Issues.'

Oooh yes, I def have one of those as well. I find 'mind your own business' to be a fairly accurate description of what she would best be employed doing. That and 'I'm in charge round here and will deal with this thankyouverymuch'

i think yabu a bit

Love how people find this offensive, but change business to beeswax (which actually makes no sense at all) and its fine.
OP, you are being pfb.

I think many many children this age are like this. Or as my friend winsomely described her PFB 'she has a very strong sense of justice..' (Which I took to mean needs to mind her own etc etc..)

I think people are being a little insensitive to the poster. It is not nice for a TA to say 'mind your own business' to a 5 year old. I have 3 children, and I'm pretty sure that they would have been told nicely to get on with their own work, not 'mind your own business'. The TA doesn't sound very kind. I have helped out in school a lot over the years. Little children are hard work, I know, but there is no need to use words in this way.
It might be useful to explain to your child that adults have bad days sometimes and she might just have been in a bit of a mood! It is very difficult for children to totally focus on their own work. Adults can't do it, so how would you expect a 5 year old too?

Sounds like a case of PFB to me.

You were not there- it is perfectly possible to say it in a pleasant, playful way.

I don't have a problem with the phrase. Does what it says on the tin.

I think it´s harsh tbh.

Could just have told her she needed to do her own work & let the other child do his.

Totally PFB. "Beeswax" would piss me off though, because it is a nonsense phrase. Since when did children need protecting from the word 'business' for crying out loud?

Thanks all :-)

As long as there wasn't a "fuck off and" in front of that mind your own business, then yeah you are being pfb.

I'm forever telling my 4 year old DD to mind her own business, usually when she's telling me how to care for her younger brother little know it all

It's done her no harm whatsoever.

Well, I think her choice of words were not ideal. You might say "mind your own business" to your sibling, OH,or even child, you are in confidence, know each other well. But you would probably never say it to a stranger or even a friend, right? It would be deemed as rude.

I'm not sure why you would euphemise "business" with "beeswax". Is business a rude word now?

DD2 was always told to sit down and mind her own , it was a bit of a standing joke at parents nights she is still nosey and can't keep her mouth shut,

I am sure the T A just wanted her to sit down unless she was really angry at her I would leave it,

Definitely PFB, as, to be fair, the OP accepted on P1