to tell father how to parent?

[Flojo1979]

My gorgeous, naive, innocent 7 yo DS told me this evening that if one of our female guinea pigs turns out to be a boy then we'll have babies guinea pigs. Really? I asked.
He that went on to tell me, boys have sperm and they look like tadpoles and they give them to the girls and they swim to the egg etc etc. "Daddy bought me an encyclopedia last wk and it tells me all about it in there".
AIBU to be fuming that he buys him adult literature? AIBU to think it highly inappropriate? AIBU to tell him he's a complete tosser who doesn't have the first f....... idea?
Kids lose their innocence quickly enough these days surely. Pls for gods sake let kids be kids.

Can take or leave ITNG, but I must admit I'd be delighted if my nearly 8yo DD suddenly decided an afternoon of cuddles with mummy and Peppa Pig was on the agenda!

I really miss those .

Ah yes that's brought back a similar one with DS except he said they were giving the other a piggy back!
Maybe I should have corrected him then instead of going awww how lovely!

DD2 (5) found the piggybacking ladybirds hysterical this summer. When I told her they were making baby ladybirds she found it even more hilarious and told many people!

I must have been 5 when my mum fell pg with my sister. I had lots of questions. I was pretty sure daddys seed went in through mummys tummy button! We had a similar issue with five yo DSD this year, but she just wanted to know that the baby wouldn't starve in there, bless her!

But its good he's got a start on the whole thing, and factual too, not playground rubbish.

seriously SERIOUSLY words cannot explain just how ur you are

Flojo has accepted that, Socknickingpixie.

thats good news indeed. didnt read whole thread

Yes, sorry YABU.

My six year old knows the....ahem....ins and outs of it all.

I really don't see the issue. Have you seen the book 'Where Did I Come From?' my parents read it to me at 5, and my kids now have it. Kids have been learning this stuff at a young age for years. YABVU.

We had a beautiful book with colour photographs from inside the womb of swimming sperm and the developing foetus and a newborn baby. This was the 1960s and I'd have been about 5. I don't think it corrupted me for life. I was delighted to find it is still in print.

My DD is 6. I find the conversation really awkward (childhood hangups!). Any chance I could borrow your ex to explain it to her?

Your DS seems to have a good understanding and feels comfortable talking to you about it. Success all round I'd say!

Perhaps his dad just realises he isn't a baby anymore.

Yabu

It's only basic biology and no more info that's in many books aged at primary school children, or you can see on wildlife documentaries. If he ever asks why people look the way they do you have the basics to build upon.

It's fine if he like cbeebies and cuddles. My 7 year old is into Th Clone Wars but loves his blanket and cuddles. He still holds my hand walking into school and rushes out to hug me when he's collected. My eldest wasn't a cuddly boy so it's nice.

I'm sorry you have issues with your ex-P that myst be very difficult.

Ideally he should have discussed this with you first or warned you.

However I am always entertained by the idea that children lose their innocence earlier 'these days'. Not so long ago the childten would have shared a room (if not a bed) with their patents and would have no doubt been witness witness to their siblings being conceived as well as being born.

Children who grow up in farms see animals mating pretty early - it is just a fact of life. Not noticed hoards of deviant farming families rampaging through society so far.

BTW I am also a bit surprised that an 'advanced' 7 yo likes ITNG.

My 4 year olds think it's boring. Nice characters sure but lots of repetition, no character or plot development no learning points. It's not even funny.

DS1 was four when he asked how babies were made and how they got out, so I told him.

He wanted further details at 6 when I was pregnant with his brother, so I filled him in and we watched that Human Body thing that the BBC did.

He appears unscathed. He also likes to help with the lambing when we go 'home'.

At 8.5 he still enjoys elements of cbeebies with his little brother, but definitely prefers the older stuff.

He is still a little boy in many ways, knowing the mechanics of reproduction has not effected his 'innocence'.

They're not too young to have periods, they're not to young to have erections and orgasms.

Really!? (the orgasm thing not the erection thing)

It's biology he's being taught; not fisting or anything.

I asked my mother where babies came from (in the body) and she pointed vaguely, saying, "There." I thought she meant that they came out of the navel. I was about 9.

It was only chat with my friends that told me where they were and whence they emerged.

Haha! I might ask my husband to buy me some adult literature for x-mas this year :D

Ridiculous OP! Totally agree with the poster who commented about the confusion between ignorance and innocence. DD asked at 5 how babies were made and I told her the mechanics in age appropriate language I would think doing anything else would be wrong. What should I have said? That a fluffy stork left babies under gooseberry bushes?

Crikey, dd asked how babies are made and I told her. She's 4. I think you are unreasonable op. i'd be grateful that his dad had done it properly and not misinformed him.