to tell father how to parent?

[Flojo1979]

My gorgeous, naive, innocent 7 yo DS told me this evening that if one of our female guinea pigs turns out to be a boy then we'll have babies guinea pigs. Really? I asked.
He that went on to tell me, boys have sperm and they look like tadpoles and they give them to the girls and they swim to the egg etc etc. "Daddy bought me an encyclopedia last wk and it tells me all about it in there".
AIBU to be fuming that he buys him adult literature? AIBU to think it highly inappropriate? AIBU to tell him he's a complete tosser who doesn't have the first f....... idea?
Kids lose their innocence quickly enough these days surely. Pls for gods sake let kids be kids.

Your child is 7 and is still interested in the Night Garden yet can read well enough to find 'reproduction' in an encyclopaedia and make the link between that and his guinea pigs? Very unusual child.

If he's been bought an encyclopaedia, then chances are that he will have found something else fascinating in there tomorrow, and will move on from reproduction. I really wouldn't worry - and it is better that he learns the facts rather than picking it up from garbled playground chat.

My kid is 3 and he has asked this already. I have answered with basics that a 3 yr old can understand. Surely the younger the better - then it is just a fact and not something to laugh about.

YABU. And well done your DH. Can you show him this thread?

Sorry but the Night Garden thing is so strange. Not that he watches it but that there are a number of threads periodically when 8 year-olds are 'fine' to play Call of Duty and Grand Theft Auto. When does the Night Garden to 18+ video games change happen? Maybe as soon as they hear the word, SPERM.

No smell cos he dumped me at 8 months pregnant cos I was cramping his freedom, and only decided to grow up and bother to see/pay maintenance once DS was 2 yo. and has been a pain in the arse since
Not a religious school so no idea.

You are going to get a big shock when they start sex ed then. I was somewhat surprised when my friends 8 year old announced loudly to her younger sister "Put your legs together or everyone can see your clitoris" (younger sis had tights on so was unlikely to happen) but this is what they cover in the class.

Right, can I just dispel this myth that Night Garden is for weirdo 7 year olds. It's very soooothing

I am baffled to be honest. I nonchalently tried to explain what a period was to my 2yo the other day, when he saw me go to the loo and expel a load of blood. It's biology he's being taught; not fisting or anything.

Has your child never asked where babies/kittens/puppies come from?

My two knew this stuff at age 4, so YABVU - your ex gave your DS something that would provide him with factual information. Far better that he learns this now so that he doesn't believe the crap his peers will spout in the playground.

DD1 did sex ed in Yr 5 and definitely covered reproduction, though she knew it already. And if you want to see the effects of really good sex ed, look up the teenage pregnancy statistics for Holland, where they start earlier than 7.

Have another .

My 11 year old was a bit weirded out by the idea of people doing it for pleasure and not just making babies.

I read the facts of life in leaflet at the local chemists at that age.

My mum was when I told her that evening in graphic detail how babies were made!

Seriously - it's really not that big a deal.

"adult literature"? It's hardly the Joy of Sex....

It's the basics of simple biology. Surely most 7/8 yr olds know the basic idea? They don't need any more (unless interested!) but knowing the basics is normal for this age, surely. Many of them will have smaller siblings which will have prompted the dicussion by now anyway. Sounds like his father has approached it in a reasonably sensible way TBH.

My DCs are 8 and 10 and were both taught were babies come from by age 7 in school and by age 6 at home. As a result of my answering their questions on the matter further recently (they are soon to have a half-sister on their dad's side), they also now know all about the concept of contraception.

Some kids are having sex by age 10 you know. You are doing yours a disservice if you don't furnish him with the basic information.

Sounds like you're trying to keep him a baby forever! Night garden?! My 6mo watches that!

I am so glad they mention clitorises nowadays. They weren't invented in the 1980s

Kayano - Night Garden has a broad appeal.

My 11 year old was a bit weirded out by the idea of people doing it for pleasure and not just making babies

Lol. When my eldest was 7.5yrs, me and my exH told him he was going to have a baby brother or sister.

His reply was, "You two had sex? When? You didn't tell me?!"

Like we were going to walk out of the bedroom and announce it

I really don't believe your ds watches night garden and actually enjoys it? Mysix year old hasn't watched anything on ceebeebies since he was four. Are you trying to keep him a baby forever?

Yes he still loves cbeebies, hence why I said he's naive (meaning a very young behaving 7 yo) if he'd have ask his dad and his dad had fumbled his way thro the answer then maybe.
But that's not how it was, his dad thrust the book on him and said read this u might learn something and DS being DS would have followed his dads instructions to the letter.

Worra.

Enough about Night Garden

Jamie, does it bugger have broad appeal! There's no speaking, no storylines, it makes no sense and the same thing happens every week!

his dad thrust the book at him

Oh so you were actually there then?