to tell father how to parent?

[Flojo1979]

My gorgeous, naive, innocent 7 yo DS told me this evening that if one of our female guinea pigs turns out to be a boy then we'll have babies guinea pigs. Really? I asked.
He that went on to tell me, boys have sperm and they look like tadpoles and they give them to the girls and they swim to the egg etc etc. "Daddy bought me an encyclopedia last wk and it tells me all about it in there".
AIBU to be fuming that he buys him adult literature? AIBU to think it highly inappropriate? AIBU to tell him he's a complete tosser who doesn't have the first f....... idea?
Kids lose their innocence quickly enough these days surely. Pls for gods sake let kids be kids.

At least he will learn about washing his stones

My nearly 11 year old took the people doing it for pleasure bit in her stride, then couple of weeks later the penny finally dropped as to how she got here and has been a bit weirded out since

Jamie, does it bugger have broad appeal! There's no speaking, no storylines, it makes no sense and the same thing happens every week!

That's Eastenders, surely?

Look, an Encycopaedia will contain facts, not sauciness. The best book my cousins had was The Body Book by Claire Raynor. Cartoon pictures of babies crowning and anuses. Aimed at 8 year olds. And that was in the 1970s

Believe me, cbeebies is his choice! I try to encourage his to be a little more age appropriate with his peers but he doesn't want to. He likes cbeebies and he likes lots of cuddles. His idea of the perfect day would be sat on my knee watching cbeebies all day, even when they repeat several times a day!

And of course he can read too, he's 7, and advanced if anything.

My 7 year old told me the other day that he knew babies came from mummies' tummies, from a special hole that he didn't have. He then proudly told me that men have sperms instead. When I asked how he knew that, he told me it was in his science encyclopedia. I was pleased he could read well enough to get the information and understand it!
I taught the basics of reproduction to my class of 7 year olds last school year, they then used the toy frogs in the small world pond to mate and lay frog spawn. Are they all sexual deviants? No, just exploring their learning. FWIW, we are a faith school, but we still have to cover the science curriculum- none of us would argue about that.

OP - I am with you on the CBeebies and cuddles

I have never watched In The Night Garden. I regularly thank my lucky stars that youngest DC had grown tired of CBeebies/was outnumbered in TV demands by older siblings when it started. The thing you all need to know is that they don't remember this stuff. I dedicated hours of my life to The Tweenies and now DS3 doesn't know what they were/are. Years I spent watching Engie Bengie and he has no recollection of the handy mechanic. It was time wasted.

Telling a7 yr old about sperm and how babies are made isnt about sex to a 7 year old - its about mechanics.

I'm surprised you're so horrified - I'd have been horrified if your ex had given him a copy of Penthouse but an Encyclopedia? The Bastard.

I remember watching dirty dancing when I was 5 with my cousin. Took me til I was 15 to realise there had been an abortion lol

Age appropriate Sex Ed for Year 2's, was introduced to my DS's school nearly 3 years ago now.

Hassled. So true. They have forgotten so many of them. Bloody Hoobs at sparrow's fart in the morning, and it's all forgotten

I remember the Body Book! :o I remember reading it aloud to my friend and pronouncing penis 'Pennis'

hahaha

Ok you've all convinced me, u r probably right, its nature etc. I think this probably has more to do with me not seeing eye to eye with his dad and I guess i'm a control freak thought I would perhaps be the one to explain this kind of stuff.

Worra re eastenders ha :-D! And you can't link a proclivity for baby tv to affection, ds at six is very affectionate but will happily listen and sit still during the wordy adult bits of 12a's at the cinema. He also knows where babies come from!

I have a copy of the body book. It is on the bottom shelf of our bookcase. 16 mo DS could reach it if he so desired.

I can't imagine how you'd have reacted, op, if your son had been given a horrible histories book. They are far more graphic than any encyclopaedia and I think fairly age appropriate for a 7yo.

Sorry flo, cross posted. I think you're right that it is due to your understandably poor relationship with ex dp.

My son was read a horrible histories book at school and he was most upset for days. Bless him!

Your son sounds sensitive and sweet. And interested and questioning.

Reception he was read 3 little pigs and didn't bother to wait for the ending before being in tears because the poor pigs had nowhere to live!
In year 1 he was told, totally children we r going to the moon, he didn't bother to listen to the rest he was too busy crying that he'd miss his mummy!
They usually take him out if its going to be something like horrible histories or at least prepare him first!

*today
(not totally)

Some kids are having sex by age 10 you know

Really? Abused maybe, but not knowing and willing participants.

Yes sensitive is the word I've gotten used to using over the past 7 yrs!
Glad he's not thee only one who still like cbeebies!