to tell father how to parent?

[Flojo1979]

My gorgeous, naive, innocent 7 yo DS told me this evening that if one of our female guinea pigs turns out to be a boy then we'll have babies guinea pigs. Really? I asked.
He that went on to tell me, boys have sperm and they look like tadpoles and they give them to the girls and they swim to the egg etc etc. "Daddy bought me an encyclopedia last wk and it tells me all about it in there".
AIBU to be fuming that he buys him adult literature? AIBU to think it highly inappropriate? AIBU to tell him he's a complete tosser who doesn't have the first f....... idea?
Kids lose their innocence quickly enough these days surely. Pls for gods sake let kids be kids.

They start PSE [personal social education] in P1 in Scotland so 5 years old have done for years my youngest DD got it shes now nearly 17 YABU

YABU and looking for trouble I think.

And no sex ed until Secondary? Many girls will have body changes and started their periods before then, boys will be experiencing changes too. The deserve to know what's happening to their bodies and why.

That's hilarious! Really? You should be proud that your ds is reading something educational and clearly learning from it. And pleased that father is buying an encyclopaedia instead of something like killer zombie video games for over 18s! Sounds like there is some bad feeling here and you are looking for reasons to pick fault.

Ok, so I was with my ExH when Our DD was this age!!

My DD asked me how babies were made. I answered in an age appropriate manner and told her 'A daddy tadpole gets to swim to a mummy egg and they get together and make a baby'

Wait a minute

They're not too young to have periods, they're not to young to have erections and orgasms.

So why the fuck would your school deem them too young to be taught about human reproduction?

It's not like most of them won't already know by then. They need proper teaching to clear up all the silly playground myths.

My eldest did reproduction, puberty, periods, sexuality, etc in year 5

I don't see any harm in knowing the basics at age 7. YABU

YABRidiculous, sorry. He's learning about basic mammal biology, not the 'ins and outs' of adult relationships. No innocence has been trampled on, and TBH your post says a lot more about you than your DS's dad.

They teach reproduction in Year 6 in most schools. I guess not in Religious Schools

It may embarrass you if he talks about sperm but really, it's nothing to be embarrassed about. He showed a level of interest in how baby guinea pigs happened. How would you have explained it?

Why is he a poor excuse for a father? Because he buys your son educational books and by the sounds of it, sits and explains things with him?

Ok ok I guess I was just quite shocked while my son was sat on my knee watching night garden that he'd suddenly mention sperm, it sounds all wrong coming out of his mouth. But I guess I should put the kettle on and have a brew instead to go with all the biscuits I seem to be collecting!

Oh, and how does knowing the basics about reproduction mean he loses his innocence and stop him being a kid?

Of course by the age of 7 your DS is going to be wondering where babies come from. And he'll be asking questions, and working things out - all children do that. My DCs all knew about the sperm and the egg by 7. Why wouldn't they? It's nature, it's science.

It sounds like his father has responded well with appropriate literature. Your problem is not the father - you need to have a bit of a think about your attitude a) to natural questioning and curiosity and b) to your immediate link between sex and "inappropriate".

he is 7 and he watches night garden? most kids grow out of it at 3?

My 6 year old has been reading lets talk about where babies come from since she could read. I encourage it and talk about it with her. It's done in an age appropriate way but it's information that should be available to kids from birth.

sperm is the correct scientific term.

Coming out of his mouth?

You might want to rephrase that...

Perhaps, as his father, he thought it was his "role" to talk to his son about the basics? Sperm isn't a dirty word btw.

Jamie mine went to a small cathokic school and got it from an early age I'm all for it the earlier the better as they aren't going to be embarrased about asking things of parents unfortunately still seems some parents are living in the dark ages.

nailak - hang on. My DS1 was still watching Night Garden at 7. But he also knew what a condom was because he asked me very loudly in a crowded public toilet

I find it more shocking that a seven year old watches in the night garden? Wtf?!

dotty - sorry. My wrong assumption. I agree about early factual expalanation.

It's so sad when people confuse innocence with ignorance.

Knowing what actually happens in reproduction is more likely to make him keep his innocence so that he doesn't believe all of the bullshit he hears in the playground about it!

YADBU and ffs Adult literature?! My favourite computer game at that age was the Encyclopaedia Britannica disc and it had far more detailed explanations than that on it!

worra