to take this job

[ruledbyheart]

I have been offered a job that fits in nicely with my DCs working nights in a club the money is good the DCs won't know I'm gone its perfect, even my DP is happy with it as its something I want to do.

The only thing is it is in an adult club the naughty kind, I will only be hostessing and not doing anything naughty myself but my friend has gone bonkers and called me a slut tart and a prostitute, asking what my DC would think (who is gonna tell them?).

So I'm not drip feeding, I was offered the job but didn't apply for it - I know the owner, and it is a few towns over so doubtful anyone I know will be there (and tbh if their paying to go there it says more about them than me).

So WIBU to take this job because I'm a mum?

Does your 'friend' pay your bills? No. Tell her to fuck off and take the job

A prostitute who is doing it to feed a drug habit or even just feed her children and keep a roof over her head - exploited, she may FEEL she has no choice but is still "volunteering" to do so.

A worker in a "sweat shop" sewing clothes for some pittance in order to feed their family - exploited, they may FEEL they have no choice but is still"volunteering" to do so.

A farmer underselling to a some giant company for a pittance because that company has a monopoly - exploited, he may FEEL he has no choice but is still "volunteering".

Im sorry but i don't understand your point.

But i actually said that i would want to be sure that not exploitation was taking place before i took the job. I think, basically, we agree.

But i'll take the win, thank you xx

In my area someone has started up pole dancing lessons for girls. Children. The world has gone mad.

Just so everyone is aware, all feminists don't agree.

Oh, and if I fucked a client after doing any of my jobs (Social Services, charity work) I would be sacked. What happens after work, if you have met someone at work, IS the business of the job/manager/owner.

What Raspberry said (in both her posts).

Would you be happy if your daughter said she was working there? Or your husband or son went there on a regular basis? Be honest with yourself, then you'll have your answer about whether you think you should take the job

I know someone who did hostessing in this sort of club for a while as a student. Mainly her job was to chat nicely with lonely business men, keep them buying expensive drinks (drinking with them if they want, but not getting drunk, hard to do) and being good at making polite conversation with dull people.

However, she did say a lot of clientel would assume she was a prostitute - part of her job was to politely decline but to arrange to introduce him to one of the working girls in the club who matched his tastes.

Do you think you can effectively be arranging other men to buy other woman, then fine, if you are going to find those conversation (which could get rather graphic about what they want) even the slightest bit uncomfortable, this isn't the job for you.

You will be working in the sex industry, albeit in a very soft and 'safe' end, but let's not be pretending it's anything else. You will have to come into contact with less 'classy' elements of the sex industry.

People will find out and will assume someone working in that sort of club, even if they claim to be in a hostessing role, is working as a prostitute. Can you accept that your friends and the other mums at the school gate think you are a prostitute? Can you accept that the teaching staff at your DCs school will think you are a prostitute? Do you think your DH, who might be ok with it now, will be ok with people making comments that his wife is a whore? (I know very few men who's pride could cope with that).

I have, over the years, worked with a couple of rent boys (and many, many working women) and it is all part of the same shit. Never met any men who prostituted for women though, although I'm sure there must be some. The closest is probably women who go to Africa or the Caribbean and have a 'boyfriend' for the duration, who they gift and give money to.

yes I am sure she is jealous because you are prettier than her .

2girls

Some examples of exploitation : mentally ill people who go on the Jeremy Kyle show/ X factor

Desperate refugees who are taken into the country illegally and then have to work for nothing to get their passports back

Young girls who get into inappropriate relationships with people online because the person flatters them and boosts their self-esteem

People who sell their stories to the tabloids in the mistaken belief it will be a chance to "tell their story" and prevent further damage to themselves

I could go on ...

agree with Raspberry entirely. I couldn't justify this in my own mind.

sorry that last post was to EggsandHam