To think MNHQ were crass and unprofessional to send me a sensitive e-mail on a PC which my DH and DC have access to?

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Last night I posted a bulimia related thread, which received a large number of responses. Today it was transferred to Mental Health by MNHQ: no problem there in as much as they run the site and they considered that there were good reasons for doing so.

However, MNHQ have tonight sent me an e-mail providing an explanation for their actions (which I had not sought - i was a bit unhappy at the thread being moved TBH, but respected their decision). The e-mail refers to mental health issues. It was sent to my e-mail address which is that of the family PC, which my DH and DC use regularly. Very fortunately - and actually quite unusually - I happened to get to the PC before anyone read this message and deleted it - or I would have had a lot of explaining to do. I would have been mortified if my family had found out about very personal and private things - which i thought were being treated in the greatest of confidence and believing I had anonymity.

I now feel that i do not dare to risk posting anything else of a sensitive nature because it is not being treated with sensitivity and confidence. i would just say to others, you need to beware of this.

I do accept that i provided my e-mail address as a contact address, but i really think that, in a matter as sensitive as this, MNHQ could have just e-mailed me in the first instance to check whether the link was secure and/or asked me to telephone them, which I would have been happy to do.

Dawn that made me laugh Now imagining Justine as JAck Bauer

I agree with everyone else - and would add that it really is high time you got over yourself! Who do you think you are? Stella bleedin' Rimington? Do you have attention seeking issues?

'They're mumsnet not the CIA....'

Don't be so sure...

I'll go against the grain and say I think YANBU. They could have sent you a private message on MN which would have been more secure. Even if you had a private email acc someone could have a controlling DP who accesses and reads it.

Further point OP - mumsnet is annonymous in theory only. There are hundreds of thousands of people using this site and you have no control of what is seen or circulated. If you don't want it out there then don't put it out there!

Oooooh can you really telephone MNHQ or is this just part of your weird alternatve MN as CIA thing??

Viva - if they're that controlling they'll read PMs too.

As everyone has said - YABU.

For al the reasons already said

Yabu. They are not mind readers to know that some people don't have their own email account.
I don't share my email account, in the same way the mail through the post is addressed to me, not to the household.

Viva, why would a controlling husband be more likely to have access to a private email account than an MN password?

YABU. You can get a zillion email accounts for free, so set one up if you want privacy.

I've never understood the logic of a 'family' email account tbh. I'm sure DH isn't remotely interested in the drivel that I exchange with my friends, and I most certainly can't be arsed sifting through his bike shop offers and internet shopping receipts. For those with shared accounts, why?

I suppose

1. I did not intend to divulge anything personal so never expected it to be referred to in an e-mail received by my home PC. So far as I was aware, all messages were read through the forums.
2. In the absence of any complaint or contact on my part, i was not expecting to be contacted. It simply never occurred to me.

Sorry MNHQ, if i am being over sensitive - I hope you can appreciate why this is. I just want to say to other users, please be careful and be aware that nothing is ever really private. It is easy to be sucked into the cocoon but you may do so at your peril.

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But if she's not logging off. then a private message comes in a very clear little yellow envelope. Which anyone can open with a click. If she wants privacy, she ought to put some basic thought into how to achieve that.

Who on earth has a 'shared' email address?

As the others have said, you're the one who registered with a shared email address. In your shoes I'd say it was a lesson learned and set up a personal address. It's hardly MNHQ's fault you share your email address, is it?

You need a email address of your own, even dh hasn't got my password for personal email.

No, my stuff is perfectly private. Really.

' I just want to say to other users, please be careful and be aware that nothing is ever really private'

Most of us know that OP, and most of us teach our children how to be safe on the internet.

I thought that MNHq was right to email and explain you posted on a public forum with a very private personal problem they moved it so you could get support and advice in the correct section they were letting you know what happened,you should have your own email address imo,

YABU and ridiculous.

HQ are not at fault here, whatsoever.

You seem to be a massive attention-seeker though.

You need to get your own email address; if somebody PMs you on here it will show up in your email account.

I specifically created a hotmail account for my mnetting. Job done.

orry MNHQ, if i am being over sensitive - I hope you can appreciate why this is. I just want to say to other users, please be careful and be aware that nothing is ever really private. It is easy to be sucked into the cocoon but you may do so at your peril.

are you not reassured that MN looks after its forum members even if they dont moderate heavily.