to feel bereft since my DS got married?

[GluttonDressedasLamb]

I didnt expect to feel this way. DS has lived in a different country from me for 10 years, so Im used to him being away. He lived with his girlfriend for three years before marrying her, and I was fine with that, too.

But I cried all through his wedding service, and the tears are still welling when I think of it.

I am glad he found someone he loves, and who loves him, and yet I can`t stop crying

Ive always got on well with his wife, and have no intention of morphing into the mother-in-law from hell, but I suppose I feel shes taken him from me, and where I am is no longer home. AIBU?

Yes, DontmindifIdo, I think the wedding really does make the difference between working abroad and building a new life in another country, it has confirmed that his move is permanent.

My DD and her DH and DCs live in the same country as me, so I see them regularly, whereas I see DS just a couple of times a year.

I love all my children without preference for gender or otherwise, they are each very different and I love each for what he/she is.

Ive already said in my OP that I am <strong>glad</strong> DS found someone to love, and that I like my DIL, so why do people keep accusing me of being possessive and wanting DS to stay single? Why dont they at least read the OP properly before diving in to flame me?

I have been very taken aback by the reactions of some people on this thread. I dont know if they intend to sound so mean and callous, not to mention downright rude - everyone is free to have an opinion, but it really isnt necessary to use terms like unhinged and psycho to get your views across. Do you do this in RL too, or just when you`re hiding behind the anonymity of Mumsnet?

As YouOldSlag said, I was merely exploring emotions that took me by surprise when i began this thread. I would like to thank her and so many others for their kind and thoughtful posts

You're welcome, and I don't know why you have had a hard time. I am so surprised by people sometimes.

Good luck in the future and I wish you adorable grandchildren!

LOL, I was suggesting the gender preference was the other way round actually!

Just sad for the son that she is bereft rather than overjoyed for him at what is a wonderful new stage to anyone's life or delighted at the prospect of a new member of the family.

Also you posted in AIBU but sounding defensive about opinions put forward. You did IMPLY that DIL was possessive and that he limited his time on the phone because of her.

She never said she wasn't happy for him, she was implying her role in his life is over and he was probably going to stay abroad for good.

You are allowed to defend yourself on AIBU.

meh, not much point in being on AIBU if you get all het up about the responses...or maybe it is..

At least she had the guts to come back and speak! lots of OPs on AIBU just bugger off when it gets feisty.

Then you have a go at her for defending herself- you can't win!

Im pretty thick-skinned in general, <strong>brass</strong>, Im just and by the virulence of some replies, I didn`t expect this thread to develop the way it did.

Is it because MILs are a widely-scorned species? But maybe that should be another thread...