to let my daughter 'misbehave' in dance class?

[mrscumberbatch]

My DD is an only child. 2.5 yrs old and is the only grandchild on both sides.

As such, everywhere we go, it's all about her as everyone dotes on her.

She isn't at nursery yet as me and DP managed to split childcare/work between us.

She has not long started dance classes (tap,ballet,disco.) And she is loving it, but is prone to getting distracted and running around the class and trying to chat to the other toddlers. She also gets bored during the quiet ballet part and does her own thing.

On one hand, I don't want to intervene, out of fear that I 'squash' her confidence. My thinking is that once she is at nursery with more structured play with other toddlers that she will come into line.

On the other hand, I hate being the only one in the class with a noticeably willful toddler.

WWYD? Leave her to it and cringe inwardly or become more involved and do some hovering?

Mmmmm not sure op is finding it hard really.......she is going to talk to the teacher she has said this. Don't think you have read all her posts.

mrscumberbatchSat 01-Sep-12 12:51:30
I can't see the post at the moment, but I think I will take the advice of the poster who said to have a quick word with the girls that run the class

^^
Think the OP acknowledged she'd be doing that some time ago .

Yes, we're trying the having a chat with a teacher avenue.

I don't find that particularly hard.

Bizarre attacks on parenting styles and my toddler, I shall not condone.

no one is attacking you.
bit riposte
you're giving and getting

Not to be a pedant, but I believe it was received and gifted back.

It was the attacks on your child I found particularly disgusting. You both sound completely normal unlike some other weirdos on this thread!

Hey op. I think you're on the right track with having a chat with the teachers.

Not sure why you're still getting flamed tbh

Don't forget that every oldest child is an only child at some point (my eldest certainly was at your DD's age) and I would be very wary of using the only child card as any kind of "excuse". It'll only make a rod for your and your DD's backs

Good luck. I hope you can all continue to enjoy the class

Agree with the chatting to the teacher approach, and maybe try making conversation with some of the other parents. You'll get an idea of how they feel about your dd's behaviour, and also, assuming they're ok with it, they'll provide a bit of back-up and support to you.

Just an aside though op, (and please note I'm NOT in the flaming of you camp) my ds is an only child and it really pisses me off when people wrongly assume he's gong to be spoiled because nothing could be further from the truth.

I don't know any of the other parents yet, but oddly enough i know THEIR parents as it's all the grandparents who used to bring their GC's to my old toddler group.

I'll strike up a conversation sooner or later I'm sure, although I doubt anyone would say anything. (Terribly terribly polite.) I'd rather sort it myself than wait for somebody to feel the need to say something.

Agreed with the only child/spoiled thing. How do you even judge whether a child is spoiled or not anyway? Is there a scale?
She's a lucky little girl as she has so many people in her life that want to do right by her. As is your DS. That's all you'd really want for a child.

wipes brow wow! This is a tiny toddler we are speaking about. I do believe she is too young to be expected to behave in a structured activity. I can't see that is a ginormous problem though, unless a teacher or another parent has made a complaint about this child being a distraction.
I have four children though, I am always pleased that no one is eating from the cat dish or weeing off the front steps...

talk to teacher, ask what they would like you to do...
DS started dance at 2.5 and it became apparent over a few weeks and some experimenting that he concentrated on the teacher better if I was NOT watching, so all the other parents watched, I sat outside, he behaved just fine. Tried a different teachers class when he was 3 and he didn't take to them and refused to join in at all, decided it was not the class for him. 3rd teacher ( we moved) he started with at 3.5, no parents watched, DS was just fine. Now 6.5, still dancing, pays attention most of the time in class according to his teacher.

Op, you've been around the block a while, you say you've been on MN for 3 years, so my only question is why the heck did you post this in AIBU? Rather than say, Parenting or development?

You know the turf, you MUST have had some idea of how your OP would be interpreted in AIBU, did you just want to start a fight? Blue moon again

I also can't believe I've read all 11 pages of this, I need a life. Or a at least .....

It is compulsive reading.......... I need tea and toast!

indeed,op self professed regular you know aibu
and you know you don't give a shiny fuck op
so the ohmyverygod is a bitty professionally offended

Here we go again!

Cynner, it's a pretty laidback class so not too strict about things, everyday is a winner when you've gotten through 24 hours without mopping up wee!

Toomuch. I have been here quite a while indeed, AIBU is better traffic wise and parenting is a bit serious. I thought that this would be a piddly wee thing with a bit of advice and probably a bit of fun poked.

Silly me, I forgot that AIBU had turned AIBU-Yes and we'll try and tear a piece off you by shoehorning any old argument into your OP.

Should've known better really, but for some reason I had it in my head that MNers never eat regulars, just newbies

That said, if I were new, I'd be pretty disgusted. I am still pretty disgusted, but too jaded with MN to give it much credence!

Also....I can't believe you read this without .

facepalm

Self professed regular? Well I've had this name for at least a year. That's easy enough to check.

I don't understand the last bit. But like I said, if you giveth you shalt receiveth.

you're priceless
I love your quips
face palm and shiny fuck...are you a blogger

Aaaaand that was my first naked person of the evening. Impressive.

blackberry

Nah, I don't think I'm interesting enough for a blog.

I do have a favourite one though if you're into blogs.

(Google the Bloggess....the entry about Beyonce the giant metal chicken had me in fits.)

Blackberry you can't be streaking and wearing a tutu

Mrs.CB...if your little one is enjoying herself, and no one has made a complaint, then carry on. I'm sure you keep eyes on her always, if things seem like they are getting out of hand, then you simply pack her up and call it a day..cheers!

She's a classy streaker. She's covering her midsection!