Not to tell one collegue.

[DefinitelyDarwin]

I'm about 6 weeks pregnant and work with three other girls.

I've told the two I get on with, I kind of had to because I was tasked with lifting some really heavy boxes and I said I couldn't and manager wanted to know why. (I've had 2 mc's so I'm really trying to be as careful as possible)

Anyway there's only one girl left who doesn't know and I don't want her to, at least not until its really obvious.

I'm not really very pally with her as she's quite two faced and she's quite centre of the universe.

She never has anything nice to say about anything and actually put in a complaint last Xmas because I couldn't work ( childcare being non existent) and her favourite comment is " well you should have thought about that before having him".

I feel like I'm justified in keeping it shtum

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP. Don't listen to the posters who are being nasty.

To answer your question in your op (for those of you who clearly didn't understand or ignored what the OP was asking, she wants to know if she should tell her colleague about her pregnancy or not) I don't think you should tell her, she'll find out anyway and telling her could result in her making negative comments, don't give her the satisfaction of providing an opportunity for her to make those comments.

Don't tell her OP.

And ignore the biatches....

FWIW my DH works 365 days a year too running his restaurant. We're closed one day a week but he still does all the ordering, shopping, preparation etc its shit

Some people on here need to reaquaint themselves with a few episodes of Mr Ben!

Off the top of my head, jobs that would/could require 365 days graft - live-in caretaker, catering and newsagents come to mind. Not to mention anyone who's on call like Doctors and Electricians.

Btw Congratulations on your pregnancy Darwin.

YANBU to tell or not tell whoever you want. YANBU to arrange with your boss which days over a holiday period you do or don't work.

But I don't believe that anyone has to work 365 days a year. If they are self employed and choose to well that's another matter. My bfriend is a nurse and my mil is a pharmacist and neither of them work 365 days, or even close to it, as someone has suggested.

Thank you Trazzletoes. Its usually people who havent lost their parents and inlaws that make gross assumptions in my own experience. And that question was based on an assumption.

What a holy fucking mess the first half of this thread was!

I expect the OP has hidden this thread, wouldn't blame her in the slightest - what a completely unnecessary battering she has had :(

BUT - to the poster who complained about OP's usage of being "completely stoked" - would it be beyond your ability to stretch to the idea that the Darwin in the OP's name might just indicate that's she's Australian? In which case, being "stoked" is a completely normal turn of phrase.
I'm starting to get seriously pissed off with the parochial attitudes on MN now, despite being British myself - this may be a largely British site but there are plenty of overseas posters on here and the smuggety "oh that's such an awful way to speak" crap is really grating, when it's a regional/national difference.

My bro in law is a fire fighter and is on call 365 days a year. He cannot keep the children, even on his days 'off', as if there is an emergency he has to get to the station as fast as possible.

My sister knew this before they had a family, as I'm sure OP knew about her husband.

Why such spite towards her - I hope she comes back.