Would you force a child ........

[sadie3]

To go to Uni if they were financially set up for life?

No

Nope. I wouldnt force a child to go to uni if they werent either.

Uni isnt the be all and end all. Many trades prefer people with experience than those with a paper degree

I don't think I know of any universities that take children

I don't think it's a good idea to force anyone to do something they don't want to do, no matter what their age.

I wouldn't force my child to go to Uni whatever the circumstances were.

Children don't go to uni??

Most people at University are adults.

If they are going to university, they are at least 18 and therefore not a child.

And how can you force an adult!?

In Scotland you can start uni at 17. Or even 16??

You shouldn't force someone to go to university if they don't want to.

I don't know how you think you would achieve it, anyway?

No

Child at the moment hence why I said child. EX DH wants our eldest child to skip Uni and work for him. I want all my children to get a good education for a long as poss.

Actually my DH started uni when he had just turned 17, but I agree that's not the norm.

I don't know about forcing, but I think I probably would put pressure on my dc to go to uni to be honest. I know that doesn't make me sound great or anything. My dc are years from university age so I suppose time will tell.

Wait and see what the child wants when it comes to the right time?

Most universities in Scotland prefer you to be over 18 yrs old

Even if you force your child to go to university you cannot make them study or make any real effort with their exams so the whole exercise would be pointless.

Wait and see what the dc want to do before you worry too much. They might want to do something different to what both you and our ex want.

Forcing them is likely to smack you back in the face big style. Nobody can tell an 18 year old what they can and cant do. If they want to go into the business then let them, maybe try to convince them that uni would be good (depends on the trade, what is the trade sadie?) in the long run but thats as far as you can go with it.

You have to leave that choice to your eldest if he wants to run the family business fine, if he wants Uni fine, if he wants something entirely different (as long as he supports himself/herself) then fine!!!

i don't understand 'financially set up for life' - a young person at 18 is surely only financially set up for life if somebody else gives them that money. Do you mean force them to go to university vs. allow them to sit around on their arse all day spending an inheritance?

I would not give an inheritance to an 18yo who had no motivation to find their own way in the world so in the conditions of the inheritance i would 'force' either uni or a traineeship or apprentiship of some sort until the age of 21 at least.

xpost - depends what the 'child' wants to do.. not many want to work for their fathers.. but if they do fair enough, they can always study later in life if they want. "child's" decision.

Plenty of people with degrees are in jobseekers signing on every week!! You do know that don't you op?

Actually TheCrackFox you are right: there is no point making someone go to university if they don't want to.
We just have to make sure they want to

OP it sounds like the disagreement is between you and your DH at this stage?

I don?t want DS to give up his education and take EX,DHs easy option. I would prefer him to make his own way in life not leave school at 16 to work for Daddy.