to throw out a photo disk, dh's ex?

[uselfullife]

of a lovely holiday they had together?

disclaimer- we are separating, and I'm very annoyed with him right now

Give it to him, along with the rest of his possessions.
Is he leaving you or you leaving him?

Give it to him but scratch it first

No. Childish petty spite like that is going to make most people think, well, no wonder you got dumped.

It depends whether his ex is involved in your breakup I think , if she is then snap it in half !

If not , give it back to him.

that's lovely sgb

tut tut uselfullife

Why do you want to do something so nasty then?
I agree with sgb, it's a petty thing to do.

If you were staying with him, I'd say accidentally lose it, but as you're splitting up anyway, leave it with him. He's not worth any hassle.

ftr
I'm a firm believer that you shouldn't really get rid of any photos, as they are a snapshot of your life, good or bad

His ex has nothing to do with our breakup, more his abuse, anger and lies.

But these photos do make me angry as we were together then. He has on a sweatshirt that I bought him. I found out and he finished with her. It brings back more of the lies

"I see you sent my letters back, and my LP records and they're all scratched...'

Could you have not posted this as a reverse AIBU?

Then the replies would be different and you would be told, as you have been, that you are well rid of someone so petty and nasty.

But you are female, so it's ok to destroy the property of someone male.

Just give it to him. Don't give him any excuse to be unpleasant to you.

the photos are of years ago

but yes, we were together, he had a relationship with her, I found out, he finished it, apologised, begged. then we went on to get married

They're not yours to destroy, so don't.

So she's an ex OW, and the photos were taken when you were together? That puts a different slant on it.

Yabu to consider it. Whatever the past. Your forgave him and married him.
Its his property. Would it be ok for him to do the same to your things?

Any other ex photos, that's fine

but this is of a holiday they went on together, when he was with me
It's just bringing back all the lies

gosh what a complicated set up

she is not an ex, as you stated in OP, she was the OW, yes?

ok
thank you
I am a bit upset and confused right now.

Then stop brooding and start chucking all his stuff into bags so that he can clear out. Do you have children? Is it your home?
Because if it is, move some furniture, redecorate and don't waste time hating. The best revenge is to be able to live happy.

x post with OldLady

honey, don't destroy the disk, put it with his stuff and move on

SGB has a point

Honestly, the more spiteful you are towards an XP, even one who had affairs, the more people start to think well, someone that nasty and selfish, no wonder the other partner cheated.
Bag it up with the rest of his stuff and contemplate a happy life for yourself without him in it.