to ask what is the biggest sacrifice you've made for your family?

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what have you sacrficed, or what would you be willing to sacrifice?

I miss having a social life. And going a day without peeing on a stick.

I'm amazed at how many feel they have sacrificed themselves, its .

Is motherhood and family life just not what you thought it would be?

Living in my home country and seeing my best friends more than a few times per year, going on romantic/exotic/child-free holidays, about £700 pa in plane/train tickets to UK and back, my earning capacity as a non-native speaker of my new country's language, my dreams of living in a city as opposed to the suburbs/small towns.

Not for DCs, I don't have any. But for DP and DSS. I unexpectedly fell in love while I was here on what was meant to be a 1 year stay, and so as long as I want to be with DP, and his DS lives here, so must I.

Settling for mediocrity instead of trailing a blaze.

My vagina and breasts are the same, and my breasts were very big to begin with so am surprised, and not sure I buy into the whole "my body is ruined thing". I have always slept well, and being a mother didn't change that either.

However, I can no longer believe that my anger is rational, so I have sacrificed that sense of always doing the right thing, but I still try and live by it, though fail regularly.

BTW, there have been some great things I have discovered as a result of having a child, but that is not what this thread is about I guess.

Bigger capacity to love, sometimes painfully so.
More experimental in life, really.
More mature i.e. forced to grow up and face irresponsible people and their damage.

going out on the lash
sacrificed reluctantly

Body, face & fanny are intact.

My headspace frequently bursts out of my ears however.

I wasn't built to engage with people for 18 hours a day.

& anyone all a bit about that - it's fucking life - don't be sad for yourself, it's ok to mourn the loss & still be happy with the small bastard anarchists that appear to have infiltrated your life & sapped the freedom & firmness from it.

& to the sorry for people whose cups aren't continuously overflowing that their wombs have spawned progeny - I'm glad you're so happy, happy, joy, joy - rejoice in your endless positivity.

lilac its not that motherhood isnt what id thougt it would be, if anything its more i dont think i realised how much i could love something despite tempr tantrums strops and the constant washing pile but simply wonder at how strong the feeling of unconditional love is.

I would quite literally kill for my children

Given up a fulfilling career

and given up a social life

Ending a 7 year relationship with someone I loved because he didn't want children.
And giving up a highly paid job when my second DD came along.

My health. Catamenial epilepsy is a bitch.
My weight, ballooned a fair bit. My self confidence.

Our biggest sacrifice (DH and I) has been to come back to live in the uk and be stuck here forever for the sake of our son with special needs wo needs special education and be settled. Huge sacrifice.

I wonder if there is anyone who would come on and say I sacrificed having DC in order to keep my figure and be financially well off?

Myself. I don't know where I went but I'm not here anymore.
I was still here after 2 DCs but the 3rd one finished me off.

Lie-ins. I would love a lie in until 12pm......

Lastnight " & to the sorry for people
whose cups aren't continuously
overflowing that their wombs
have spawned progeny - I'm
glad you're so happy, happy, joy,
joy - rejoice in your endless
positivity"

I'm assuming that is aimed at me? Actually, I don't have endless positvity, far from it sadly. I can give you a run down of the health problems that my DC have that we battle daily if that would make you feel better about my lot in life? Can't have anyone feeling happy, happy, joy, joy now can we? God forbid.

My stomach, my social life, my free cash and my mental health.

Oh and sleep!

My career, me.

It definitely has not been worth it. Being a parent sucks your brain dry.

Oh loads of things, I'm sure, but most don't keep me up at nights...

But the main sacrifice that I seem to come up against every day is the loss of freedom. Since the day my DC arrived I am no longer free to make any meaningful decision in isolation.

Loving the replies on here.

Body - DS is now 4 and I'm still not there.
Sleep - more please
Career - doing better then I was before DS in my new job
Marriage - has been up and down but has been consistently up & extremely happy for a year now
Boobs - only a C cup so they are still where they are & haven't changed
Stretch marks - ggggrrrrrrrr - not any on my tummy but a few on my sides & legs etc

I wouldn't change it though. I love my little 1.

Career and pension.