MIL

[londonandwhere]

My MIL ever said to me 'I will expect you to be there.'' when I made her upset and offered an apology'. She meant to say she would receive my apology when she wants to do. I found these words were disrespectful and she was being bossy to me, which she isnt supposed to do.
Have you ever heard this kind of words from your MIL? Would you discribe she abused me?

Curling, I don't think that's how the birthday thing happened.
I think, but the op doesn't want to confirm, that mil didn't spend as much on op as she did dh. OP complained to mil about this so old decided to stop buying for her. Which, from what I remember ties in with them not speaking.
Dh then wore a jumper that mil had bought dh and tried to hug the op. This made the op traumatised.
I am trying find the thread but can't.

Yum! Cheers ViviPru!

If she (the MIL) has at any point stood like a T-Rex, that may shed some light on the situation.

I don't know where curling came from. I meant duelling.

I'm clutching hopefully to the idea that the previous thread might shed some light on this.... But I think I may be deluding myself.

what the actual fuck?!!

Wasn't there some cheap body lotion involved as well? And a pound shop?

[toddles off to Advanced Search]

Migrating - it was just as confusing.

I vaguely remember some cheap body lotion.

Can't find the Damn thread anywhere.

Oh the body lotion pound shop debacle Ok yes, KFP, I remember that...

I feel a bit sad that the OP may actually have some reasonable grievances in part but fails to put her point across in a measured enough way (and I'm not referring to the English as 2nd language)

I can't find any thread with a MIL, body lotion, a jumper, a hug and a pound shop or ANY COMBINATION of the above.

Spooky.....

I hate my inability to pass up any challenge, regardless how futile...

Do me a G and T while you're at it Vivi, there's a love. You just described my perfect one

Hi OP, I am not from England either, where are you from?

I'm busy wading through literally thousands of MIL/Gift threads, Wilson.

Ah fuckit.

Oh God, I can just imagine how many MIL/gift threads there are. Bahahahaha

Could it have been deleted?

Ok, so you're upset with MiL because she spends more on her son's birthday presents than yours. - Well that a bit bonkers I'm afraid.

She is upset because there is some sort of misunderstanding whereby she thinks you were rude but if you were it was unintentional. - Frustrating I would imagine but probably fairy easy to sort out.

You apologise but she doesn't accept it. - Very rude of her don't blame you for being pissed off.

You and H decide that as the pair of you obviously don't get along you stay away from each other. - Perfect solution all round IMO.

You're still stewing about it all years later. - Bonkers, sorry.

Does anyone else feel sorry for the husband? Maybe his mother is an overbearing old cow but if you neither see her nor speak to her I can't see how it affects you tbh.

OP, are any of these statements true?

You're annoyed because your husband's solution to all these issues was to tell you not to speak with his mother again?

You're annoyed because your husband didn't stand up for you/back you up and that's now affecting how you see him/your relationship with him?

You're upset because you don't have a good relationship with your MIL?

You hate your MIL because she doesn't respect you, belittles and talks down to you?

You're hurt because having a good relationship with your MIL is important to you/your culture.

You're embarrassed because not speaking with your MIL reflects badly on you.

(also, just wondering but are you by any chance using an online translating service to write your posts?)

Vivi Mine is a Hendricks with cucumber if you're pouring

I don't feel sorry for the husband, there seems to be some issue regarding his fidelity...

skins, where have you got the cheating bit from?

Damn auto correct. Not skins aliba