MIL

[londonandwhere]

My MIL ever said to me 'I will expect you to be there.'' when I made her upset and offered an apology'. She meant to say she would receive my apology when she wants to do. I found these words were disrespectful and she was being bossy to me, which she isnt supposed to do.
Have you ever heard this kind of words from your MIL? Would you discribe she abused me?

[enters thread at a run]
[heads straight to the imploding corner]
[only just makes it in time]

Anyone care to join me in a large gin?

Hang on, are you the one that got pissy that dh wore a jumper his mum bought for his birthday and she no longer got your presents. Because you complained they hadn't spent enough on you on your birthday so they stopped buying altogether. You found the jumper really upsetting?
If so OP I am sure she is not a bit bothered by you imagined power games of the fact you don't speak to her.

I'm pregnant. Virtual gin is okay, right?

I dont care whether she isnt bothered that I dont see her. I dont think she is worth.

AGilchrist - I wondered that. It sounded familiar.

All bothers me is that someone upsets is my husband's mum that is a pitty.

Virtual gin will have to do for now scrambled - but just to be absolutely sure I'll have yours for you - you know, so it doesn't go to waste or anything!

Sometimes people just don't get along. Its regrettable, but I think too often we feel we need to force a relationship, good or bad.

You don't see her. She doesn't see you. Your DH accepts this. Move on.

and what makes me sad I cant do anything about changing my situation as long as I'm with DH.

Ah, but you are making yourself look bad to your DH - all he can see is that you've taken against his mother and are behaving childishly. You'll probably stay angry and resentful towards MIL, and then it will all blow up at some nameless point in the future, when everything will end very, very badly.

It would be far better to move on and let the anger go, for your relationship with your DH's sake.

Yeah I will move on.

Well, I'd have been a bit pissed off about the birthday money and her sticking her nose in about when you were getting a job (but then, that's what MILs do!). But the row about the apology doesn't really seem worth worrying about, particularly if you don't see her anyway. Forget it and move on, OP.

My head hurts......please may I have a large, emphasis on large, gin madge?

If you don't care, stop caring
Simple.
You obviously do care.
So what are you doing to resolve this with your dh?
And it was you wasn't it, the one with the birthday present drama.

sorry i cant fathom whats happened

I realy don't see wht MIL has done that is so awful

If someone was rude to me, I would expect an apology too...

I can I have some Madge.
I have been up since 4am, usually get up at 7am so its really 7pm for me.

I think if you really want revenge on your MIL, you should see her frequently and ask for her opinion on decades old arguements and disagreements.

So you asked her politely not to keep telling you that you needed to get a job plus you are upset that she gives money meant as a gift to you to your husband instead of to you and then he doesn't give it to you?

Hands Chased a perfect G&T, (Bombay and Fever Tree, with lime squeezed round the rim and a wedge dropped in for good measure) for that, the most helpful and insightful post yet