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AIBU to be pissed off with OH

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 12:47

I'll try to cut a long story short

Me and OH are both big football fans & agreed we would go to the first home game of season . When speaking about it before tickets came on sale (weeks ago) we agreed we would until they go general sale so we both could go. OH is a member so could of got his ticket before the general sale. OH basically ignored what we'd agreed and went ahead and got his ticket in the members sale and then lied to me and said he didn't get any in the general sale as they had sold out.
This morning when ask OH what he's doing he informs me he's going to football.

AIBU to have a go at him and be pissed off?

AIBU

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UserNameNotAvailable · 19/08/2012 11:41

Since you've taken what you want to a safe place I would just text back saying you're at your mam's and won't be back, then text him later saying something like you've had a drink so will bee staying over tonight. Thengo home tomorrow change the locks then let him know you know everything. If you say something today he might get in before you and change the locks/trash the house etc.

WhereYouLeftIt · 19/08/2012 11:50

Excellent suggestion from UserNameNotAvailable. I really wouldn't want to show my hand in this situation until I had my preparations (locks changed and my home secured from anything he might do) in place. The whole ticket thing shows a capacity for spite.

MrsTomHardy · 19/08/2012 11:51

I just wrote you a long reply then lost signal and lost it Sad

Text back and say "won't be having dinner later as I'm at mums for the night. I suggest you make the most of the time I'm away by packing up your shit and getting the hell out of my life you lying cheating wanker'.....then wait for his response

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Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 11:57

I've asked him for his plans for today and got a reply saying home shower then going to mums for afternoon I'll be home by 7pm for dinner. Which is perfecto!! Getting locks changed today so he'll return and no get in!! His stuff will be going out a window!!!!

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CakeBump · 19/08/2012 11:58

I think you're right to do it today whilst your feeling strong.

I wouldn't be able to sleep tonight without at least telling him I know, and seeing what he says. I think you do need an initial conversation about what's going to happen over the next couple of days at least.

If you've got no reason to think he'll turn nasty then I would do that.

CakeBump · 19/08/2012 11:58

Oh x post Nanny, fab!

Are you going to meet him this evening?

MrsTomHardy · 19/08/2012 11:59

Good for you girl....get it sorted and get rid

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Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 11:59

Not planning to go anywhere but he'll be back here at some point - conversation through the letterbox!!!

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CakeBump · 19/08/2012 12:03

So you'll be in when he tries to get in later? As long as you think he won't kick off..... are you going to pack his stuff up whilst he's out today?

I know he's been a total shit, but I would want to keep the upper hand by seeming being reasonable through all this. So that would involve:

keeping my temper (as far as possible)
giving him overnight things so he's not high and dry for work tomorrow
Giving him a time to come back and pick up the rest of his stuff fairly soon

As far as where he stays and what he does though, that's up to him!

CakeBump · 19/08/2012 12:04

BTW you're being amazing so far!

BadLad · 19/08/2012 12:05

Put a black shirt on, and, if you have one, a whistle. Keep the door locked and bolted. When he tries to open it, blow this whistle to attract his attention through the window and hold up a red card.

BadLad · 19/08/2012 12:06

CakeBump

"As long as you think he won't kick off"

Intentional pun?

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Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 12:08

I was planning on telling him that my Mum will around Weds when I'm working so he can go get his stuff. Mums agreed that.

I might stick all the printed stuff on the window by the door so as he goes to come in he'll see it.

I think I'm staying strong because of all the lovely words and advise from you lot Smile

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MrsTomHardy · 19/08/2012 12:13

That is good BadLad Grin

MrsTomHardy · 19/08/2012 12:14

Good idea about sticking the evidence on the windows too....shove it right in his face, he can't deny it then!!

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Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 12:15

Right will update later.. Things to do

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CakeBump · 19/08/2012 12:35

haha no BadLad Blush

Ok OP, try and stay strong x

ImperialBlether · 19/08/2012 14:19

He's got a bloody nerve, hasn't he? Home at 7 for dinner? That you would cook, I assume? I note he's already asked what's for dinner.

OP, I'm so glad you're getting rid of this dead weight.

MrsTomHardy · 19/08/2012 14:27

Thats what i thought Imperial.....some men have such a nerve!!

IvanaNap · 19/08/2012 16:26

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Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 16:30

UPDATE
locks are changed! His work stuff is packed and outside door, the messages are on the window. Time for a cuppa and to watch it all unfold

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Thumbwitch · 19/08/2012 16:32

You're a fast worker, Nanny! :)

When are you expecting him?

Hope you're going to keep us updated, live, when he turns up!

I like the red card idea, btw. That was very funny.

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Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 16:36

Not entirely sure hopefully soon - should be no later than 6:30 as he'll be expecting dinner when he returns!!!

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IvanaNap · 19/08/2012 16:38

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Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 16:41

Cost a fair bit - the silly idiot left his bank card soo hes paid for it!!

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