Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

AIBU to be pissed off with OH

180 replies

Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 12:47

I'll try to cut a long story short

Me and OH are both big football fans & agreed we would go to the first home game of season . When speaking about it before tickets came on sale (weeks ago) we agreed we would until they go general sale so we both could go. OH is a member so could of got his ticket before the general sale. OH basically ignored what we'd agreed and went ahead and got his ticket in the members sale and then lied to me and said he didn't get any in the general sale as they had sold out.
This morning when ask OH what he's doing he informs me he's going to football.

AIBU to have a go at him and be pissed off?

AIBU

OP posts:
stifnstav · 19/08/2012 10:20

Forgot to say how sorry I am OP. Feel for you. There's a ton of bastards about at the minute.

CakeBump · 19/08/2012 10:21

Alternatively you could text "I dunno what's for dinner, I might have fish fingers. You'll have to ask OW what she's cooking cos you sure as hell aint going to be eating here you lying sack of shit"

:)

Original poster
Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 10:25

I'm not there gone to Mums then planning ongoing back tomorrow when he's at work.
My reply to text is going to be
'don't care what you do for dinner, I'm out all day with Mum & going to stay there. When you go to work tomorrow leave it tidy & sort some where to sleep tomorrow night as u ain't welcome at home!!'

OP posts:
MrsTomHardy · 19/08/2012 10:33

Thing is if you send that then what if he calls in sick tomorrow and you can't get rid of him!!
Best to let him go to work as normal then get locks changed....but then i don't know him, you do.... Good luck

CakeBump · 19/08/2012 10:34

Sounds fair enough Nanny. What do you think his reaction will be? Is he likely to leave without a fight?

CakeBump · 19/08/2012 10:35

What has your mum said?

ImperialBlether · 19/08/2012 10:38

Have you sent it yet?

Could perhaps come up with something different if you haven't.

Original poster
Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 10:40

He won't call in sick as he is strongly against it if your not actually sick.

Mum is keeping out of it and letting me sort it although her words when I told her were 'what a lying twat'

OP posts:
Original poster
Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 10:40

Not replied yet and to be honest I do t really want to

OP posts:
CakeBump · 19/08/2012 10:42

:) @ your mum, glad she is supportive.

I would need to speak to him face to face soonish though, otherwise it would play on my mind.

Oh well, see what he says! He'll know you know straight away though, presumably.

CakeBump · 19/08/2012 10:43

If you don't want to reply, and you're not going to be there all day then leave it, by all means.

Then reply when you're feeling a bit stronger. This is about you, not him!

ImperialBlether · 19/08/2012 10:45

Just don't reply.

What's he like when he's angry? If you let him go home to pack while you're not there, do you think he'll just take his stuff and go?

Original poster
Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 10:45

Mum did make laugh, im going to reply saying meet me In x pub at 8pm and be prepared to talk lots

OP posts:
ImperialBlether · 19/08/2012 10:51

But what happens when you talk? He persuades you that you haven't seen the things you've seen and that he's behaved entirely reasonably?

OP, he's a lying cheat. You will be wasting your time if you have a talk like that with him. You need to knock it on the head.

I would pack his stuff up, ask my mum to be there and then when he gets home I'd give him his stuff and ask for his key. If he asks why, say it's because he's a lying, selfish, cheating bastard and does he want you to go into detail?

Thumbwitch · 19/08/2012 10:52

Nanny - I wouldn't piss him off just yet. Save it for when you've got back into the house and sorted the locks - if you haven't already done a reply, then just say "I don't know what you're having, I'm at Mum's" and leave it at that. No need to let him know you've rumbled him just yet, or you might find more missing than you'd like tomorrow when you get home.

Original poster
Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 10:56

I've printed everything I've found on facebook - comments on statuses, messages. He's not no chance in denying it

OP posts:
TerraNotSoFirma · 19/08/2012 10:57

I would not let on that you know anything as yet, txt back saying your mum needs you today so you are staying over, then get all his stuff out whilst he's at work tomorrow.

He is a lying scumbag. Am sorry this has happened to you.

Original poster
Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 10:58

I've already taken what I want from the house - iPad, laptop, pics etc. all I left was clothes and things I can replace if he does take them

OP posts:
MrsTomHardy · 19/08/2012 11:10

I agree, i wouldn't let on yet, and i don't think i would meet up with him either...whats the point!!!! Hes a lying cheat

Original poster
Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 11:13

I want him to know that I know what he's doing,

OP posts:
Thumbwitch · 19/08/2012 11:15

Oh yes, but not today - let him know tomorrow when he gets back from work. :)

Original poster
Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 11:18

I'd rather get it done and over with today while I feel a little bit strong

OP posts:
WhereYouLeftIt · 19/08/2012 11:35

If you really must do it today (and I'd personally prefer to deal with the locks/packing up his stuff first) it might perhaps be best to do it by a means other than text.

Your idea of a text for him to meet you in a public place is good, but you're still forewarning him with " be prepared to talk lots" - and forewarned is indeed forearmed. Don't hand him the advantage. Maybe text him along the lines of "let's eat out - meet you in x at x pm". You could take him an overnight bag for work tomorrow, demand his keys (save on changing the locks if he complies) and tell him to come and pick his stuff up after work. Would that work for you, do you think?

Original poster
Nannyto2 · 19/08/2012 11:39

He wouldnt hand over the keys so I'd have a fight on my hands which I don't want in a public place. I'm happy for him to stay there tonight and then sort locks etc tomorrow

OP posts:
confusedpixie · 19/08/2012 11:41

Good luck Nanny, how fucking awful of him :( Though you might be better off sorting out locks and things so that he cannot get back into the property after you've spoken to him.

Swipe left for the next trending thread