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AIBU to be pissed off with OH

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 12:47

I'll try to cut a long story short

Me and OH are both big football fans & agreed we would go to the first home game of season . When speaking about it before tickets came on sale (weeks ago) we agreed we would until they go general sale so we both could go. OH is a member so could of got his ticket before the general sale. OH basically ignored what we'd agreed and went ahead and got his ticket in the members sale and then lied to me and said he didn't get any in the general sale as they had sold out.
This morning when ask OH what he's doing he informs me he's going to football.

AIBU to have a go at him and be pissed off?

AIBU

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 15:04

I know I know, he'd be wise to avoid me for at least 24hours!! AngryAngryAngry

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 16:47

After a lot bit of looking at what he has commented on on fbook I've found he commented on a status from a woman whos gone to the game.
The status said 'person's name .... Is.......'
My OH commented on it saying 'mineWink'
What should I read that as??

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Rollersara · 18/08/2012 16:54

I'd get a screenshot of that if I were you (in case it 'disappears'). Do you know the woman?

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 16:57

Already screenshot it!! I know her through Facebook but that is it. OH has known her years

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fuzzpig · 18/08/2012 16:57

Yes. Screenshot. But don't tell him.

Doesn't look good.

What's your relationship like other than this?

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 16:59

Not great - his family in particular his mum hates me.
Lack of trust I guess

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CakeBump · 18/08/2012 17:06

mine??

That'S rather odd OP. I think I'd be snooping a bit more on his facebook in the next few days!

Have you had issues before where he has broken your trust?

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 17:07

Yeh a month after being together he was still 'seeing' his ex but I forgave him.

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CakeBump · 18/08/2012 17:10

How long have you been together?

Do you think he's cheating on you?

Sorry if I've read too much into it, I just think to comment like that on someone's status is really weird!

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 17:12

Cake - been together about 2 years
Now cheating has been mentioned I do think he may be

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CakeBump · 18/08/2012 17:14

Is there anything else that makes you think that?

Do you have kids?

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 17:17

No kids

Sorry if this is too much info
Never wants sex, hardly ever kisses/hugs, hides phones & deletes all messages/call log

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CakeBump · 18/08/2012 17:19

Why are you with him?

I mean it seriously - can you list what you get out of the relationship?

ListenToYourHeart · 18/08/2012 17:21

Does sound a bit suspicious, I'd stay quite for a bit and show your angry about the football tickets and to be honest in the mean time I would do some snooping.

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 17:23

I'm with him because I love him
Also when together we have a really good time laughing etc, treated like a princess

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Clytaemnestra · 18/08/2012 17:43

So, combined with your thread on relationships. He's maybe cheating on you, he lies to your face and his mum is a total fruit cake who shouts abuse at children (and you) regularly in the street.

He must be showing you a REALLY good time to overcome all that, because it sounds like hell to me.

Pancakeflipper · 18/08/2012 17:47

I was going to ask "is he off to the footy with his mum or other members of the family?"

But having read your other thread about his family and what you say here, you really do need to sit down and talk with him.

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 17:48

When it's just OH and me we do have a good time being carefree and doing what we want,

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 17:50

He went alone, his bro is in Afghan, his mum hates footy & his dad is in France working,

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Thumbwitch · 18/08/2012 23:37

But he could easily be meeting up with/sitting near this woman, or some other woman (which was kind of my point in you finding out why he doesn't want you there).

He's a grade A bastard for texting you that, btw - is he really worth it? Do you have that little self-esteem? :(

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 23:46

I managed to guess his Facebook password - he's a fucking lying two faced twat. Has to be at least 100 messages from the suspected woman.

Hes text saying I'm staying at friends tonight as going for drinks, replied with yeh ok c u tomorrow. Won't be seeing him tomorrow as bags are packed and I'm off to Mums!!

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Thumbwitch · 18/08/2012 23:48

Good - that's a much better reaction!
Go, stay away, take all your stuff with you and don't bother with the lying cheating bastard any more.

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 23:49

Am off to Mums until Monday then when he's at work having locks changed and throwing leaving his stuff in bin bags for him to collect when he tries to get in

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Thumbwitch · 18/08/2012 23:52

Is it your home then? His name isn't on any paperwork, he has no claim to it? Cos if he does, changing locks is a waste of money. Just so you know.

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Nannyto2 · 18/08/2012 23:53

Rent is in my name Grin he stands no chance, now I need a lodger to help pay the rent

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