to go apeshit about pictures of me on the internet!!!

[WelshCat]

Jesus fucking christ.

I just went on Facebook to delete all the old messages from my inbox on there (because it has apparently saved them from the beginning of time) and I came across one I sent to my abusive ex when he tried to 'friend' me on there a few years ago.

So, being an idiot I thought I would have a quick look at his profile, and there I found a picture of ME in his bed, 19 years old, wearing a very skimpy playboy bunny outfit (which he bought me and made me wear btw). I am not naked, and my boobs are not out. But still, on Facebook???? It was added about 3 years after we split up, and a few people have commented on it appalled that he put it up there because its not his current mrs. I however am appalled that its been on there for 3 years and I didn't know! I'm mortified!

Save your shit about not allowing people to take pictures of you in situations like this, because I was 19, he was 36, and I ended up living in a hostel for abused women after dating him for 6 months. So its not like I did it fully by choice.

So, WIBU to send him a message asking him not very politely to take it down, or should I just try to forget about it???

I'd contact Facebook and see if they can make him take it down.

Would FB do anything if you reported it?

You could try reporting the picture, FB would more than likely take it down.

Xpost with justabigdisco, I wasn't trying to imply any doubt about FB taking action.

i think you can report to facebook and one of the options is that it's a pic of you that you'd like removed.

I have no idea if there's any way you can get facebook to take it down, but if it was a choice between asking him to take it down and forgetting about it I would probably go for the latter. Because I don't think he'll take it down. If he's an abusive man then he may very well enjoy the fact that it upsets you and try to take the opportunity to rub it in your face a bit more. Or send it around or highlight it somehow so it shows up again. Don't get in contact with him, just see if FB removes it and hope he doesn't notice.

• shows up again on everyone's feeds I mean.

FB won't take it down...it's his photo.

You could always ask him OP, but that might give him the impression you care about him...otherwise how would you explain looking at his profile?

Id want it off. Does he have any others of you? I'd contact Facebook and just see what you can do. If you don't mention his name you can just see what the policy is and mull it over.

I think fb can remove it, if the person in the photo objects.

If you are tagged on the photo, de-tag. Then at least it won't show on your profile and people might not know its you

actually facebook can and will take down other people's photos.
you can click on "options" at the bottom and one of them is report.

one of the options after that is something like "i do not want people seeing this picture of me"

I think fb can remove it, if the person in the photo objects

Nope sorry

It has to be either pornographic or your intellectual property.

In fact, FB used to have a message that flashed up to say you couldn't report a photo simply because you don't like the way you look in it.

You can report it and say its harassing you. What a prick. OP I've been through the same, I let an ex take photos of me when I was sixteen. I was stuoid I know. A year later someone on a forum recognised me and linked me to a forum called 'dumpster sluts'. Fucking dumpster sluts! I was mortified.

Don't contact him, but jus report it.

But bare in mind: 'Facebook FAQs: If you live in a country where the law does not require the removal of unauthorized photos for privacy reasons, including the United States, we will not remove unauthorized photos at your request. You may want to consider contacting the user who posted the photo in order to request that it be removed'

You could sue him. Sorry that doesn't help much does it..

They won't delete it just because you ask them to unless it is offensive in some way.

If you're tagged, untag it. Then ask him to remove it, but don't be surprised if he says no.

thisisyesterday

If you select the option that says "I do not want people seeing this picture of me"...when you click report it just gives you these options...

Message the person and ask them to remove it

Unfriend the person

Block the person

But Facebook will not remove the photo because legally the person who owns it, has every right to put it on there.

Ok. Fuck. I knew there probably wasn't anything I could do.

Because I'm not naked I don't think Facebook can take it down.

Grr. I think you are right though not to contact him. He would love it.

I'm not tagged in it btw either.

I don't suppose you can see even a tiny glimpse of nipple/areola? Because FB would almost certainly delete it if you could and you reported it.

Try reporting it, if they don't take it down you'd be no worse off.

Dont ask him, you know him, is he the kind of person who would do as ask or use this to be curel to you?

Report to fb and hope for the best.. if they won't do anything just be happy everyone else on his fb thinks he is being a twat and that he is so sad all he can do is save old photos of teenagers he abused up on his fb to look good.

"do as asked, or use this to be cruel*

What about telling Facbook the girl is underage?

Could you not say you're underage in it?