to go apeshit about pictures of me on the internet!!!

[WelshCat]

Jesus fucking christ.

I just went on Facebook to delete all the old messages from my inbox on there (because it has apparently saved them from the beginning of time) and I came across one I sent to my abusive ex when he tried to 'friend' me on there a few years ago.

So, being an idiot I thought I would have a quick look at his profile, and there I found a picture of ME in his bed, 19 years old, wearing a very skimpy playboy bunny outfit (which he bought me and made me wear btw). I am not naked, and my boobs are not out. But still, on Facebook???? It was added about 3 years after we split up, and a few people have commented on it appalled that he put it up there because its not his current mrs. I however am appalled that its been on there for 3 years and I didn't know! I'm mortified!

Save your shit about not allowing people to take pictures of you in situations like this, because I was 19, he was 36, and I ended up living in a hostel for abused women after dating him for 6 months. So its not like I did it fully by choice.

So, WIBU to send him a message asking him not very politely to take it down, or should I just try to forget about it???

Report it to FB, you have nothing to lose. I think if you also say this person was abusive towards you and this is more of it, it may rattle them a bit, as that starts to push them into territory where they are already uncomfortable.

I do think people (especially young women) need to be far more aware of the privacy invasion potential of social networks, and their future impact.

I wasn't on Facebook at the time. It was seven years ago and I don't think I had even heard of it. Obviously now I would never let myself get into this situation, but thats the benefit of hindsight!

I did mention abuse to Facebook, hopefully that will scare them into deleting it. If not, fuck him! I guess it has been on there for 3 years. And at least I'm not naked. Thank god!