To moan at a man parked in parent & child bay when he was clearly childless!!

[Nannyto2]

Had a lovely moan at a man parked in a parent & child bay today at a supermarket!! He told me to f**k off as he could park there as it was the first space he saw and he has a daughter at home!!!!

Carpark attendant saw the incident and told me I was out of order!!! As a result of this idiotic man parked in that space I had to struggle to get a infant carseat out of a 3door car in a normal space.

Was I unreasonable to have a go at the man??

Sorry for the long post

I think it is (usually) rude and unsociable to park in a P&C spot if you don't have any DC with you, but I really see that it's a problem to use a normal spot. If you are about to wander around the supermarket then a extra few hundred yards isn't going to be a problem for 99% of people. You can always half park, get the DC's out and fully reverse into your spot in about 5 seconds!

My DF struggles to walk but doesn't have a Blue Badge, he thinks they are for people who are properly disabled. I wouldn't be bothered if someone like him parked in a P&C spot.

I had a friend, who has since died, who had Cystic Fibrosis who looked young and healthy but really needed the Disabled Spots, it was truly awful for her when people made snide comments or have her looks. I witnessed it myself.

So, OP, YANBU to be annoyed, but YABU to moan at the man.

Cakebump - Silly cow...ok, whatever I've been called worse...Think I'll change my nickname.

I apologise for my poorly worded post. I appreciate that people do not need to "look disabled" to have a disability. What I was suggesting was the fact that I'm pretty sure lots of people park in these spaces whilst using a disabled driver's car. A former work colleague was only 25 when she was given a blue badge and had to put up with snide remarks as her disability was not obvious. But I know from talking to her that plenty of people abuse the blue badge system that is driving their parent's car etc...

You don't need to change your nn. I think some people do abuse the system, but it was just a poorly worded post and its one of those things that gets me going!!! :)

I didn't intend to chane it...just being sarcastic...I'm sure if I stick around long enough I'll find an opportunity to call you a silly cow back

:)

YANBU!

Are you kidding, doitonce? Put a 2 yo on the footpath/road whilst you reverse a car?

Err, seriously! accessorizequeen
No, I would just let him sit in the front seat, for the two or three metre 'drive' into the parking spot. Really, not an issue AT ALL and I don't know about your standard of driving but there would be zero chance of an accident if it was me driving

amazed at suggestion I would think it OK to leave kids in traffic Duh!

Pull the other one, it has bell on, next... And yawn.

Sorry doitonce, your post just said get them out of the car! My reversing is dire, I wouldn't even bother.

YANBU OP

It is the sheer selfish mentality of people who do things like this which really, really annoys me.

This man clearly knew that by parking in a P&C space he was potentially making it more difficult for someone with a baby to get said baby out of car when they subsequently had to park in a "normal" space.

Sadly there are so many examples of utterly selfish behaviour in this country - from people who park in P&C / disabled spaces when they neither have DC with them nor are disabled, to noisy neighbours, benefit cheats and people who don't pay their taxes to bankers who gambled away all our money in the pursuit of huge bonuses.....

If we were all a bit more aware of how our actions impacted other people then the world would be a much nicer place.

Every time one of these threads come up, I'm amazed at how long they get and how long they last.

Ridiculous.

Yabu.

It is my firm belief that people using car parking spaces allocated for disabled or p&c without good reason/need to use that space (visible or not) are doing so because they are unable to park their car and can only manage manoeuvres in to bigger spaces.

This act of social awareness should be applauded as they are obviously doing so to save the rest of us getting cross when they hit/bump/scratch other cars. Their narkiness is a defence as they can not admit publicly to their lack of driving skill.

Saying that whilst I can't get worked up about p&c spaces I don't think it is too much to expect disabled spots are not abused. P&c spaces are a nice convenience, disabled spots are for those in most need of them.

tidy it's probably because a seemingly straightforward question like the OP's raises all manner of grievances and frustrations that many of us experience on a daily basis. If we all had a go at everyone who annoyed or irritated us every day then we would descend into anarchy. We all have to function under a very thin veneer of civility for the sake of society after all. In the OP's case her veneer slipped a little.....

A forum such as this, gives people the opportunity to vent those feelings in a risk free way and must be cathartic. Surely better than everyone yelling at everyone else in RL

FirstMum, I think it's more likely because people do not understand that P&C spaces are a marketing tool and not a right or a requirement, and therefore get very upset over something that is a non issue.

But thanks for the 'explanation'....

But that's just it tidy it has got nothing to do with the P&C space but it has everything to do with the selfish, "stuff you" attitude of an unpleasant man who clearly had no problem with the fact that he had made life a little more inconvenient for a young mum.....

Anyone parking in P&C labelled spaces may well consider themselves to have a greater need for the extra space. It is not your place to judge that, neither is it mine, and I say this as a parent of two DCs.

These spaces should not exist, they are a manipulation by the supermarket to get parents thinking they are caring, when really it just causes bad feeling towards people who don't deserve the bad feeling.

Life is inconvenient I'm afraid. You don't get to have it made more convenient for you just because you have babies. It doesn't work like that. There is a reason these spaces are not legally required.

The OP was rude and confrontational, and while I wouldn't endorse her being sworn at, I'm not surprised she got a rise out of the man she had a go at.

But that's just it tidy it has got nothing to do with the P&C space but it has everything to do with the selfish, "stuff you" attitude of an unpleasant man who clearly had no problem with the fact that he had made life a little more inconvenient for a young mum.....

Young mum? I thought it was the nanny with one of her charges.

Just out of interest OP, do your employers mind you shouting out of the car window and getting into fights with strange men while their children are in your care?

That's not your place to determine though Stinky.

Personally, I think if they are going to have these spaces (and I wish they wouldn't), they should be at the far end of the car park next to the "I can't park for shit" area that also has big spaces.

Oh, and they are not being lazy or selfish, they are just parking in space that is convenient. As are parents....

But yes, I don't expect you will agree with that.

I don't disagree with you tidy but the reason I don't think the OP was BU is because sometimes selfish, antisocial people need to be told that their actions have a direct and negative impact on someone else and I'm not just refering to childless people who park in P&C spaces.

Selfish and antisocial can certainly be applied to the person who has a go at another shopper for parking in a space she wanted.

Your overall opinion, that antisocial people need to be told, I agree with. I just don't agree that the man who parked his car was antisocial.