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To moan at a man parked in parent & child bay when he was clearly childless!!

481 replies

Nannyto2 · 11/08/2012 20:09

Had a lovely moan at a man parked in a parent & child bay today at a supermarket!! He told me to f**k off as he could park there as it was the first space he saw and he has a daughter at home!!!!

Carpark attendant saw the incident and told me I was out of order!!! As a result of this idiotic man parked in that space I had to struggle to get a infant carseat out of a 3door car in a normal space.

Was I unreasonable to have a go at the man??

Sorry for the long post

OP posts:
nittyclitty · 12/08/2012 08:03

Sostressed definitely parks under a bridge. Mumsnet HQ please sort Smile

Tangointhenight · 12/08/2012 08:14

Not so much a bridge dweller as she is a complete twunt idiot.

RuleBritannia · 12/08/2012 08:18

What about using a bus?

Fireandashes · 12/08/2012 08:37

There are lots of things in life that aren't enforcable but does that give us all the right to forego courtesy, unselfishness and a little consideration for others if there's no bylaw to punish is if we don't?

What a nasty, selfish, I'm-all-right-Jack society some of you seem to want to live in.

OP, you were out of order to have a go but YANBU to want to park in a space provided for your convenience to make life slightly easier for you.

AngryBeaver · 12/08/2012 08:38

A bus?! 3 kids under 6, pram etc and the weeks shopping?! I have to do two or 3 trips from the car to the house to get it all in. In no way would I be able to manage on a bus with all that!

AngryBeaver · 12/08/2012 08:40

Yep,agree I'm not sure sostressed is a troll. Just a dick looking for a rise

Fourfingerkitkat · 12/08/2012 09:07

Nannyto2 - I'm clearly in the minority here but I don't think you are being unreasonable. If the supermarkets/car parks have thought it necessary to supply P&C spaces then there is obviously a need which should be respected'

If you have a carseat it is unfair to expect you to lift the baby out when it's easier to carry them in the carseat.

Also, with regards to disabled spaces...I regularly see people parking in these spaces (with the blue badge on their car) who are quite clearly able bodied. I have no idea what their disability is, or if they are using someone else's car but it's clearly easy for them to little further than a mother struggling with young children and a car seat !

CakeBump · 12/08/2012 09:10

I regularly see people parking in these spaces (with the blue badge on their car) who are quite clearly able bodied. I have no idea what their disability is, or if they are using someone else's car but it's clearly easy for them to little further than a mother struggling with young children and a car seat !

You silly cow, do you expect every person with a disability to be in a wheelchair? It is NOT for you to question why people have a blue badge, just accept that they do and stay the fuck out of it.

What a fucking ignorant comment.

exoticfruits · 12/08/2012 09:10

Lots of disabled people don't have a disability that is immediately obvious to a passer by and they shouldn't need to explain medical problems with complete strangers.
It would solve the entire problem if all the parent and children spaces were in a far corner. They need the space to open the doors-they can walk!

Sirzy · 12/08/2012 09:10

Fourfinger have you never heard of hidden disabilities? being disabled doesn't mean you have to have a leg hanging off or be in a wheelchair you know.

A mother chooses to take a childs car seat out of the car, a disabled person doesn't choose to be disabled.

exoticfruits · 12/08/2012 09:12

Cross posted with CakeBump-it irritates me to death that a disabled person has to look disabled or get dire looks from able bodied people.

threeleftfeet · 12/08/2012 09:12

"Apartheid relied entirely upon people being subservient, like you."

WTAF?

P&C parking is simply a way to make life a little easier for people with children who may be struggling, it's like priority seats for the elderly.

Apartheid was institutional racism, It was unjust, immoral and caused immense suffering to countless people.

Any law or rule depends on the implicit agreement of the people to actually comply with that rule.

But to compare P&C parking to apartheid is actually incredibly offensive!! And makes you look spectacularly ignorant!

exoticfruits · 12/08/2012 09:13

I think that it was a great idea for supermarkets to give spaces for parents but I hate the 'entitlement' that goes with it. You can manage!

Liketochat1 · 12/08/2012 09:19

His is reminding me of that Michael McIntyre sketch about disabled spaces. Some people seem to need drivers to be struggling out of their car in a wheelchair in order to use those spaces.

Mummynumber2 · 12/08/2012 09:20

Pmsl at the 'use the bus' comment! I suppose the p & c free for all brigade are also those who refuse to move to a different seat on the bus to allow a mother to put their buggy in the appropriate place. Because they are perfectly entitled to sit where tgey want and they don't have to do anything for anyone else!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/08/2012 09:21

My Dd has a blue badge and can run into the shop Wink

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/08/2012 09:23

But if you let go of her for a second she may well bolt in front of a car

Sirzy · 12/08/2012 09:32

There isn't a place for buggies on most buses, its a space for wheelchairs which is used by buggies too often meaning wheelchairs can't when there are no wheelchairs needing the space.

Kayano · 12/08/2012 09:36

I don't understand the whole 'well we didn't use to have them so they are ok to ignore' brigade

We didn't used to have disabled spaces

Or buses you could get wheelchairs or pushchairs on at all

It's not ok to ignore them. They are useful when shopping by yourself and you have a baby. Why do it? It's just arsey and selfish.

whatsleep · 12/08/2012 09:37

I have not read the whole post but I have previously felt extremely irritated by childless people parking in these spaces. I have often wondered why supermarkets etc put these spaces so close to the shop. The reason everyone wants to park here is because they are the premier spots! Why not provide the wide parent parking spaces at the other end of the carpark, after all once we are out if the car with babies in tow we are fully able to walk the two minute walk to the shop? And if not grab a trolley and bung the kiddies in it?

Mummynumber2 · 12/08/2012 09:40

Exactly my point, it's not 'for buggies' it just makes life a lot easier for everyone if it's used for a buggy (as long as it's not needed for someone disabled of course).

Tangointhenight · 12/08/2012 09:46

Agree with the annoyance at the disabled people not looking disabled comment, there arw plwnty if disabilities that are not physically apparent, BUT I work with a girl who uses her mums blue badge to park right outside work. She knows it's wrong but she doesn't care.

She falls into the selfish ignorant bracket really

Tangointhenight · 12/08/2012 09:47

*are plenty of

Sirzy · 12/08/2012 09:51

So why don't you report her for misuse of the badge then?

Tangointhenight · 12/08/2012 09:55

She would know it was me because I'm the only one to have shown disgust. Could make working with her very difficult especially since she is in a position of authority.

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