To report my friend to the Social Services?

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My friend has booked to go and see a band in November. She asked me if I'd look after her kids and I said I couldn't as I was away that week - therefore she's planning on leaving them home alone from 5pm on Tuesday until 8am on the Wednesday. They're 12 and 14.
She always does leave them home alone so they are used to it but over night is different surely?

AIBU to inform the ss?

SS wont care.

how old are your children op?

It isnt ideal, but it is hardly child abuse! I cant believe you would report a mate to SS for this either.

Not much of a friend really, are you.

How come she's not back that night?

It'll probably be fine.

I don't think you deserve the rude comments some people have posted on here, I would feel the same way and personally would not leave my children at that age alone over night, especially if it was just to go to a gig.

I don't understand why she can't call a baby sitting service and hire a baby sitter. If she has money to go to a concert, she should have money for a sitter.

I bet you have already done it, am I right?

I can understand you being concerned. I'm not sure I would leave my 14 year old overnight, but I might if she had a friend over, she's very sensible and has sometimes been home alone until about midnight.

However - reporting her to SS? Really? They really do have better things to do. I'm surprised you even call her a friend, you don't sound like you like her at all.

"I don't understand why she can't call a baby sitting service and hire a baby sitter"

Because she has decided that she didn't need to. The children are used to being left.

Thisis not a situation that needs SS investigation.

Nothing wrong with that, they're old enough for one night

So they have to spend an evening at home together, get themselves some supper maybe, & eventually turn in for the night, without having a massive fall-out or setting house on fire, and they are 12 and 14 ? Should be do-able I'd have hoped ! Also Mum will be back in the morning before they've had a chance to blink awake.

I think it's a good thing to give gradually increasing responsibility through the teen years especially - otherwise independent living is going to come as a big shock ! I was baby-sitting the four neighbour's children including baby regularly by that age - though Mum was next door in case of an emergency. And obviously that was back in the day ... when children went up chimney's and down't pit

I was left overnight alone for the first time when I was 13.
My Mum was a Social Worker!

What a lovely friend you are.

usually i'd be against, but they're close in age and probably able to support each other. do they have someone they can contact in an emergency?

What is a sockpuppet??

Btw I don't agree with calling ss at all, I'm just giving my opinion that I wouldn't leave my children overnight at that age for a gig.

I think they are too young to be left alone personally but not worth ringing ss over.