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to let an obviously poorly DS (6) still go to the Olympics?

349 replies

lechatnoir · 09/08/2012 07:51

DS has been so excited about to going to the Olympics all year (he's written stories about it, made a countdown calendar, sleeps with his Wenlock toy, boasted to anyone who'll listen - typical 6 year old over excitement) and at bedtime whispered to me that it was going to be the best day of his life!

Unfortunately not long after then twice more in the night & again this morning, he's had his head in the toilet being sick. Initially I thought it was just over excitement but 4 times in one night must be a bug (family macaroni cheese is definitely not the culprit). Of course he swears blind he's fine despite clearly not being right BUT I just don't have the heart to say he can't go Sad DH is still ok about taking him & thinks he can't miss this once in a lifetime opportunity but AIBU & should I make his stay at home?

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EmilieFloge · 09/08/2012 11:09

I don't mind if you just want to be insulting and 'clever' Bupcakes, I'drather talk straight with you than try and make you feel small, but I'm not having a hard of thinking day.

The having you thing was a joke btw.

BupcakesandCunting · 09/08/2012 11:18

Meh.

RaisinDEritrea · 09/08/2012 11:19

Cor I miss the days of Cat Me You Cunt

Grin
SlackSally · 09/08/2012 11:21

Christ, what hysteria. It's just a little vomit.

HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 11:24

Just a little vomit?

Would you be saying that in 48 hours' time if you had been sat next to the OP's son today and had caught his bug, SlackSally?

SlackSally · 09/08/2012 11:33

Yes. I would think, 'well, it's a shame I don't feel very well, but it's just a little vomit.'

HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 11:37

Hmmmm, I think you would probably feel a bit more annoyed than that, especially if you found out that someone you had come into contact with had been knowingly ill but out in public.

SlackSally · 09/08/2012 11:39

Well, obviously, you know far better than me how I would feel... Hmm

Maybe some people are just far less bothered by vom than you?

EmilieFloge · 09/08/2012 11:39

I guess it doesn't bother some people.

I know it bothers me, and it bothers my children when they're ill.

Slacksally, perhaps if your child caught this thing from the OP's son, and was ill enough to have to miss a special day out, it might bother you more.

I dunno...perhaps it wouldn't.

Sassybeast · 09/08/2012 11:39

OP YABU but I suspect that you had no intention of keeping him at home. Poor little guy Sad and I fully anticipate a thread later claiming that he had a wonderful day and wasn't sick at all Wink

To whichever moron came up with the gem that immunocompromised people should stay at home - slow hand clap......

'Tranlplant surgeon' - "Yes of course we can provide your child with a new heart to save their life. However, they must live indoors in solitary confinement for the rest of their natural life because of the entitled idiots who still think that it's okay to knowingly spread infectious illnesses around and who won't follow HPA/NHS guidelines"

LookBehindYou · 09/08/2012 11:40

Hexagonal, you're thinking from the perspective of sitting at home or at work and posting on Mumsnet. If you'd been to the Olympics and had a fab flag waving time I don't think it would register. You keep on calling it a bug. He threw up three times (the OP corrected the 4) and had had macaroni cheese for dinner on a contracted very excited tummy. The dh is likely not dumb and has taken precautions and is keeping an eye on his son I'm sure. Children of 6 can warn before being sick.

HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 11:43

Chances are it is a bug, dress it up however you like LookBehindYou.

And I have been to the Olympics, but I would still be thoroughly annoyed if I caught a bug because someone had selfishly taken an ill child along because they can't say no to their child.

noddyholder · 09/08/2012 11:58

I have had a transplant and am immunosuppressed bugs can floor me for weeks but I try to minimise risk using hand rubs and if I see anyone a bit spotty or snotty I move! I think it is up to the parent to think of the wider implications and not take an ill child to a large event if they are ill.

sugarice · 09/08/2012 12:06

Christ, never ask AIBU about a vomiting child and going out in public then expect to be told you are then take him regardless, what on earth is the point of posting in the first place?

BigBoobiedBertha · 09/08/2012 12:14

Since I am sitting here with a streaming cold, which I caught from DH who thinks he caught at an Olympic event, I am not very favourably disposed towards people who go to events when they are ill. I doubt the child will be sick again, you know what these things are like, but he has to be very miserable and still contagious.

I wouldn't take my child. If it were me I would look into getting Paralympics tickets as a consolation for missing today because you'd never swap your own tickets at this stage (obviously since they have gone). Not quite the same but at least he will have had the Olympic experience.

BoneyBackJefferson · 09/08/2012 12:26

I would be concerned about several things.

DC throwing up over other people (If I were thrown up on I would be expecting a change of clothes to be forthcoming from you)

and

If at somepoint your DC did throw up, Exactly how long is it going to take him to get back?

HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 12:33

I agree BoneyBackJefferson

There is also the issue that the OP's son will inevitably be travelling on public transport, and therefore exposing even more people to his germs.

This thread displays perfectly the sense of entitlement that some people, and their children have. 'We want to therefore we will'. It's no wonder there are so many spoilt brats around

YouOldSlag · 09/08/2012 12:35

You should also think that even if he can give notice that he's going to be sick, there's no way he would make it to the toilet in time if he his seated in the Olympic Stadium.

CockyPants · 09/08/2012 12:41

Usually I'd say keep child off away for 48hours after last vomit. BUT the Olympics is a once in a lifetime thing...
My criteria would be
Is there v
Is there d
Is there a high temp
If 2 of these things I wouldn't let child go.
Dd TA had treatment for breast cancer during Dd reception year. TA would take absence when any major dv or cold bug doing the round.
Hope OP child enjoys the sport. Lucky git!

CaptainRex · 09/08/2012 13:19

As an emetophobe, I too err on the side of caution and would leave the poor boy at home to recoperate, and to also consider the health of others. Plus self confinement certainly reduces the spread of these diseases.

I would like to thank those of you who are happy to the risk the health of others with the following:

I went to a wedding, where someone attended, who obviously did not worry they were vomiting previously. Over half the wedding party caught it (it was so bad the local health authority investigated). Including dh & myself, also the bride & groom who missed their honeymoon. Half the guests from Spain were unwell enough to return home. All because it was just a little vomit.

This news report should also be included:
www.peterboroughtoday.co.uk/news/health/health-news/water-park-re-opening-date-still-uncertain-as-checks-continue-1-4141652

one ill child, taken out to the wrong location, 64 children ill.

Nah nothing like that could happen at the olympics - lets hope, the child here has nothing but excitement nerves (although I know of no one who voms with excitement) - but maybe he will be near the front row, spew over an athelete who misses their chance to race tomorrow from a bug

LookBehindYou · 09/08/2012 13:24

FGS, spew over an athelte, lol.

Hexagon, there's spoilt brat and then there's precious and then there's an excited little boy who has been waiting for this for weeks.

Captain Rex, I absoulutely know kids who vomit with nerves and excitement. I used to get a sore throat because that's how I held my tension but my sister would throw up all over the place. Just because you don't know, doesn't mean it's not true. It's a big world out there.

HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 13:25

Well said CaptainRex. Glad to hear someone else on here is speaking some sense

HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 13:29

Yes LookBehindYou he has been waiting for it for weeks but there are MORE people in the world than the OP's son. Other people deserve consideration too. Perhaps someone he comes into contact with on the tube today has a holiday booked at the weekend that they have been waiting for for weeks but will be unable to go on as they will catch his bug. Perhaps the person he sits next to at the event will have a wedding to attend on Saturday that they have been waiting for for weeks but will be unable to attend because they'll catch the bug too? See my point? Why should the OP's son's desires and excitement come before the wellbeing of others?

hillyhilly · 09/08/2012 13:30

Hope we get an update and that he enjoyed his day (& didn't spoil anyone else's!)

HexagonalQueenOfEveything · 09/08/2012 13:30

And if anyone is being precious, it is the OP, adamant that her little darling should not be denied the chance of doing anything he wants to do, whatever the consequences may be for anyone else. To knowingly inflict a stomach bug on other people is selfish, ignorant, and something that only total arse holes would do.

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