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AIBU?

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Original poster

for booking a summer holiday?

91 replies

NarcolepsyQueen · 06/08/2012 13:47

Dsil is due to have DC2 in September. We have booked a 2 week summer holiday, and fly back on her actual due date. We couldn't book a holidat for earlier in the school holidays as I was in hospital with hyperemesis, then we moved house and also I have got my 20 week scan and a GTT to fit in. Dsil and DB aren't talking to me. Am I being unreasonable to book a summer holiday whilst I am still allowed to fly? (Disclaimer - they went away when I had my DS last year - and didn't see him for a week after they returned either!) Judge me please - I can take it!

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 06/08/2012 13:48

Yanbu.

AnnoyingOrange · 06/08/2012 13:50

They are bonkers. YANBU

BarredfromhavingStella · 06/08/2012 13:50

Am I missing something??? Why do you need to be around on her due date-are you her birthing partner? Hmm

Also might be good to gently remind them that very few babies actually arrive on due date...............

WorraLiberty · 06/08/2012 13:50

I'm speechless

Is their child the son of God or something? Confused

ENormaSnob · 06/08/2012 13:50

Yanbu at all.

She needs to get over herself IMO.

theboutiquemummy · 06/08/2012 13:50

yanbu

Pascha · 06/08/2012 13:50

Eh? What has your holiday got to do with DSIL's due date? Are you her birth partner? I mean, I couldn't give a flying fig where my sister or any of my in-laws are when I give birth, as long as they aren't in the same room.

shineypenny · 06/08/2012 13:51

Of course YANBU. My sis was on holiday when dd was born. It didn't bother me at all - but she sent her a fluffy bunny in case the plane crashed on the way home! Grin

Pascha · 06/08/2012 13:51

Book the holiday and tell them to stop being so precious.

TiddlyBears · 06/08/2012 13:52

Enjoy your holiday! Smile

Alameda · 06/08/2012 13:54

have you promised to look after their other children when she goes into labour?

Rosa · 06/08/2012 13:55

What do they expect you to do - pace the hospital corridors rush in with towels or hote water - or just be there to say 'ohh well done isn't he/ she lovely'? They will get over it and go and have a wonderful holiday , should they mention anything say that you thought they would like some time alone with the baby.

PenisVanLesbian · 06/08/2012 13:55

thats an autumn holiday.

Flyingwithoutwings · 06/08/2012 13:56

Yanbu.
She's clearly suffering from "I'm giving birth and anyone who is remotely connected to me must put their lives on hold for this event" syndrome.

She's probably contacted the local news reporters to have a piece on standby!

My best friend was on holiday when I gave birth I had some great texts saying she, and all the Americans she was with (in a bar) were rooting for me - made me chuckle at a frightening time.

Enjoy your holiday Grin

Chandon · 06/08/2012 13:56

Yambu, unless you pro,ised you would be there to look after other child, or similar

pictish · 06/08/2012 13:57

Yanbu.
It's fine for them to be away when you have a baby, but it's terrible if you want a holiday when they do??
No. Nope. No way.

Tell them to take a hike up the hill to get over themselves.

Original poster
NarcolepsyQueen · 06/08/2012 14:05

No - I am not her birthing partner, and I have not been asked to look after their DC1 (although I offered). I asked my Mum and Dad if they would like to come with us (we would pay as their xmas and birthday presents), but when Mum mentioned it to Dsil, Dsil shouted at her, started to cry and put the phone down on her. Mum and Dad feel they can't come on holiday - and they so need one! I am amazed at her reaction - but wanted to check in case I had missed something and was actually being really selfish. Bejesus - how on earth do I play this one - she isn't talking to me or answering my emails of texts! Oh fart!!

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Birdsgottafly · 06/08/2012 14:11

So this isn't about you being on holiday, but you wanting to take the baby's GP's.

Does she usually have support from them? Is there a lot of rivalry between you and her for your mothers attention?

Birdsgottafly · 06/08/2012 14:13

She has her reasons, which will be part hormaonal, why are you not discussing this with your DB?

pictish · 06/08/2012 14:13

Err...well hmmm....I think now that you've added that your parents were meant to be coming along as well, then that slightly puts a different slant on things...it would seem to your brother that his whole family are fucking off for a jolly when their baby is due, which I think is a bit off. Possibly.

I wouldn't have given a hoot if my brother had gone on holiday when I was due...but I think I'd be a bit put out if my mum had!

Birdsgottafly · 06/08/2012 14:13

hormonal

BarredfromhavingStella · 06/08/2012 14:14

Hmmmm not sure really. Does she only get support from your family & not have one of her own?? She would appear to be taking self-centred to whole new level..........

pictish · 06/08/2012 14:16

Ok, your parents aren't going now - but if they had, and they had the baby while you were all away together, I can imagine how it would feel.

Flyingwithoutwings · 06/08/2012 14:16

Does she have her own family nearby? Sounds like she wants the GPs to be there, probably isn't worried about you and her brother.
I agree that it's not about you going on holiday, it's the GPs potentially being away. The more people that are away, the less options to look after DC1 when she has her new baby, that might be worrying her.

pictish · 06/08/2012 14:20

It will feel to them as though you are trying to take your parents away from db and his dw at this pivotal time in their lives.

Even if this is not what you intended at all (and I'm sure it isn't) - I know how it would make me feel.

It's a bit "never mind their new baby....come with us...we'll pay...come on!"

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