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AIBU?

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for booking a summer holiday?

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NarcolepsyQueen · 06/08/2012 13:47

Dsil is due to have DC2 in September. We have booked a 2 week summer holiday, and fly back on her actual due date. We couldn't book a holidat for earlier in the school holidays as I was in hospital with hyperemesis, then we moved house and also I have got my 20 week scan and a GTT to fit in. Dsil and DB aren't talking to me. Am I being unreasonable to book a summer holiday whilst I am still allowed to fly? (Disclaimer - they went away when I had my DS last year - and didn't see him for a week after they returned either!) Judge me please - I can take it!

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NarcolepsyQueen · 07/08/2012 13:18

Thank you. I think I will have to. Makes me sad though! I am pregnant too - she doesn't have all of the rights to hormones! If I carry on sending messages, it is a bit bullying isn't it? Just want to ensure they understand that I want to sort things out with them. Hate the thought of them bitching about me to everybody.

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pictish · 07/08/2012 13:26

All you have to say is 'I want to put this behind us' or words to that effect. You've thrown in your lot with that. Nothing else needs to be added...and they cannot read any malice into it.

Then relaaaax.

pictish · 07/08/2012 13:27

Stop texting them, yes.

They will have it down as 'a barage' to any listener. Self preservation OP.

honeytea · 07/08/2012 13:42

YANBU a baby isn't going to change that much in a couple of weeks! I would be sad if my MIL and FIL went away near my due date but not if my SIL went away.

I would just send them a message saying something along the lines of you are sorry to upset them but your family needs a holiday and this is the only option to go away, Add that you look forward to meeting the baby when you get home and you are excited to have babies so close together :)

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NarcolepsyQueen · 07/08/2012 14:01

Good advice:

I sent: I am sorry to have upset you, but our family needs a holiday and this is the only option to go away. I am looking forward to meeting the baby when you get home and am excited to have our next 2 babies so close together. Can we put this behind us please? Xxx

And have just had this reply: Your mum is talking bollocks, I couldn't care less when you go on holiday. I hope you have a lovely time

WTAF?????

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PenisVanLesbian · 07/08/2012 14:02

What. A. Bitch.

honeytea · 07/08/2012 14:08

Wow! well SIL is very rude! goodness I wish we could choose our family!

AKMD · 07/08/2012 14:12

YANBU, major drama queen behaviour although I can see why she would be upset about your parents going.

The last message is odd - have you actually spoken about this directly before or has it all been second hand information?

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NarcolepsyQueen · 07/08/2012 14:16

We haven't spoken about this - I only found out that she was upset with me a couple of days ago, and I have sent a few messages asking if she is OK etc with no reply at all. I am absolutely stunned. No idea at all what to do now!

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RichTeas · 07/08/2012 14:17

YANBU

honeytea · 07/08/2012 14:17

I'd leave her to it, send her a postcard when you are away and buy something pretty for the baby. Sounds like she is being irational.

AKMD · 07/08/2012 14:19

In that case it sounds like crossed wires. Carry on as normal.

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NarcolepsyQueen · 07/08/2012 14:42

I don't think it is crossed wires though - otherwise her message would be upbeat and friendly. Her message is just plain RUDE!!

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honeytea · 07/08/2012 14:44

I agree it doesn't sound like crossed wires. Nothing much you can do about it, she sounds a little crazy. I hope things get better after the birth.

Enjoy the holiday :)

Lambzig · 07/08/2012 15:16

Thats just nasty. She is being a complete mare. Just don't engage, as she is clearly going to behave badly whatever you do. Go on holiday, buy a nice present for the baby and carry on as you would do normally.

Belinda495 · 19/09/2012 17:33

It does sound a bit mad, however, my mum has booked to go to Turkey when I am due and for a fortnight after, when I was 7 months pregnant. I could really have done with my mum here as this is my first baby and I have no other family on my side but my in laws have kindly said they will help if we need anything. They purposely postponed their holiday as they are desperate to see their fourth grandchild, which is just so lovely. All I can say is there isno accounting for some folk but I would not expect my sister in law to be around, I did not expect my parents in law to be around, they kindly insisted. I think sometimes people think they are at the centre of everyone's universe and they need to get over it. Remember if you don't engage she cannot upset you. Just let her geton with it. Xx

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