3am really is too late for a teen to be sat up playing on his Xbox - even if it is the holidays

[sixthsense]

I really am a farking kill joy arn't I......

13 years ao age - novice teen really - "but mum I just ant to talk to my mates"
me "nope - bed - 3am is really too late"
DS "but mum...all my mates are still up"
me "really!!!!!!....I couldnt give 2 hoots"

Im so wound up now, Im really sick of this stupid conversation - this isnt the first time btw.....He is generally a good kid, but these nocturnal activities are absolutely no good - he will then spend most of the next day in bed!!! what a waste...

DS says "who said daytime is for being awake and night time is for sleeping!!"

me "I did...now go to farking bed!!!!!"

I have a 2 year old currently up watching Beauty and the Beast!

By the way my brother is nearly 13 and probably doing the same as your DS. He will be caught when my little brother or sister wake and my mum hears him

SP you make me smile...lol @2yo watching beauty and the beast..I remember those days.......snoozing on the couch in a child proof living room while DS and DD watched ANOTHER dvd at an uneartly hour...and them then noticing i was snoozing and trying to pryse my eyelids open :D

I'm still trying to chase my 15 & 12 yr old DS's to bed.

they'll regret it when I'm jumping on the ends of their beds at 8.30am when DD gets up.

He loves it! Someone actually tried opening the back door and was banging in garden so it woke him up. He got scared and this film is his comfort.

WandaDoff....my sympathies :)

SP...awww poor little man - hope he settles soon xx

My son will stay up,late too, he's 14. So long as we are not going out early in the morning then I don't sweat it! It's the holidays and I can't be bothered to fight about everything, besides it means he lies in a bit longer and gives me peace in the morning!

Being nocturnal myself by choice, I've never understood why being awake from sunrise to sunset is virtuous and from sunset to sunrise is sinful.
If I get enough sleep for me, what's the problem with when I take it?
Different if I have to be awake for other family members.
There have been quite a lot of studies on teen sleep patterns and how they change, showing that teens don't function as well in the mornings.
But you are in charge, so you set the rules.

My DD stays up quite late on her PS3. I don't mind. The rule in this house is up by 11am. So she needs to remember that otherwise she'll be knackered and it will take her ages to do her chores.

YANBU - 3am is way too late at that age holidays or not. He can stay up all night when he's a student but at his age he needs his sleep. 12 or 1 maybe but it's not good health wise to stay up until that time and can cause sleep problems as it messes with your body clock.

They all do it though.

Be grateful when the damned thing acquires the ring of death. And don't replace it.

Unless he's got things to do the next day I would say to leave him to it. It's the middle of the holidays, let him chill. But i'd make a deal with him over nights when you want him to be alert the next day and also say it had to get back to normal the week before he goes back to school.

Turn off the wi fi at midnight

Xbox live? Its the talking to friends bit that's so attractive I think. Its like having a 8 boy sleepover without the mess.

I have a 13 year old and there is no way i'd let him stay up that late playing x box, holidays or no holidays. He's also a total grump if he doesn't sleep, as am I so it would be for the sanity of everyone in the house.
I agree with Bertieboots turn off the wifi

jumping they don't all do it. Midnight/1am maybe but not 3 - 4am unless of course you let them.
sixthsense I dont think you are a kill joy... I appreciate it is the holidays but he is only 13 and needs to interact and be part of the family in the daytime. He surely wont be able to do that on a small amount of sleep. Mants idea of a rule up by 11 sounds a good idea when they are slightly older teenagers but at 13 surely you decide. Or maybe these views just show my age!!

YANBU
I'm a total night owl, but even I pay for 2.30-3. So does DD1 (14), who can do 12-1 and get up for school at 7.

I work with 'problem' teens and all the boys without exception stay up 'till 3-4 am playing xbox like this on school nights and weekends. I often wonder why their parents don't take some control regarding this. Can't help wondering if allowing it in the holidays is the thin end of the wedge - just wondering mind..

My 15 yr old DS gets kicked off the PC at 1am at the latest, even if it is the holidays. Still does the teenage sleep all morning thing, which is fine - I get lots of tv watching stuff done.

Maybe a couple of times in the holidays, but I wouldn't let it become a regular thing.

Goodness, I get cranky and pack mine off to bed if he's up later then 11. It's taking him an hour to get off his sodding laptop and get himself to bed at the moment though. 3am is far too late. How's he going to cope when he goes back to school?

I agree with Fallen - I don't see why this should be a problem.

Staying up really late is one of the fun things about being on holidays when you are a teenager.

LOL at a causal relationship between staying up late when you have fuck all to be up for the next day and delinquency :o

I work with 'problem' teens and all the boys without exception stay up 'till 3-4 am playing xbox like this on school nights and weekends. I often wonder why their parents don't take some control regarding this

Many factors contribute to wayward teenagers - not just faffing about on an box.

My boys are 15& 17, I couldn't tell you what time they finally go to sleep. I think it is around 2 ish. They are allowed to watch the TV downstairs, if they are very quiet, or in their rooms and have the use of their lap tops and iPads. I get them up about 11 unless we are doing something, and then they are in bed earlier.

The way I see it is they are really good boys, they don't cause havoc anywhere, don't let me down, or piss about on the streets, so this is a battle I am not prepared to fight or start!

My 13yr old thinks he's hard done by cos he has to be off by 11pm

We have an up by 10.30am rule but they're normally up by 9.30am anyway.

There's no way I'd let him sleep all day and stay up all night