To be proud of my ds for being beautiful?

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This is troubling me. Two strangers have actually stopped me in the street recently to tell me how beautiful my 18 mo ds is. I think it is the first time I have known what it is like to 'burst with pride' but when I thought about it I think maybe this is wrong? There are things in my life, degree, successes at work etc, that actually have required effort that could be classed as achievements to be proud of, but the fact that average looking dh and I have managed to produce a heart stoppingly beautiful boy is just an accident really isn't it? So why do I feel prouder of this than stuff that requires effort? Disclaimer: I know all children are beautiful etc

He's GORGEOUS Sargesaweyes! Really, really cute

your OH isn't bad either ;)

I always comment on how gorgeous peoples babies are, because I remember the huge pride of people saying about my babies, and how happy it made me.

Dd 6yo still gets comments, mostly about her hair (v long and curly). Ds is the most beautiful boy I have EVER seen. Really handsome! At 3yo he is a shameless flirt, and the older ladies love him .

Dh and I regularly say how baffled we ate to have created such stunning dcs. My dm was always very honest about my looks (stressing what a lovely personality I have). So I would tell my dcs they were gorgeous, even if they weren't!!

lynniep I love chubbly even if it may be a typo. Perfectly describes my DS's legs....

Two words:
Samantha Brick

Being beautiful is a curse [sadface]

ds2 looked exactly like ET when he was born. I remember commenting on it and being told off by the midwife for saying such a thing "about your gorgeous new baby". She didn't seem to understand that his temporary resemblance to an alien didn't take away the overall loveliness of him.

When dgd was born, ds2 did mention that she'd managed not to inherit the ET gene!

I get told a lot that my DS is handsome and asked where he gets his good looks from.

People stop and ask to take pictures with my DS, granted it's probably because we live in the ME and blonde blue eyed chubby babies are few and far between, but I feel so proud every time it happens. :D

As much as I get that lovely glowy feeling from being told a loved one - child, horse, DP, cat - is beautiful, I feel like pride in it is a bit of a difficult one.

To me, pride implies they've done something, achieved something, that it's actively required something on the part of the beautiful person?

My mother - god love her - is very looks focused. I wouldn't say I am above average looks wise, at all, but I grew up with her putting an emphasis on "look how GORGEOUS you are", like I'd achieved something.

As much as it's lovely to celebrate aesthetics and have beautiful things/people in the world, I sort of feel like pride is not quite right somehow. Happy, for sure - there's nothing wrong with wanting to be pretty or loving that your loved ones are. But the pride element is a bit of a weird one for me. But then again, maybe I'm thinking too much into it!

chase - she really is beautiful and cheeky looking. Lovely photos.

It always makes me feel a bit weird to be honest

we are all old and ugly enough (hahah) to know what a looks focussed society we live in

Time after time I see sweet babies, that dont get as much attention as they should as they might have a plain countenance

On the one hand I am pleased that my DS are attractive, as sadly it will make their life easier

But as I was a plain chld, Its a bittersweet feeling