To be proud of my ds for being beautiful?

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This is troubling me. Two strangers have actually stopped me in the street recently to tell me how beautiful my 18 mo ds is. I think it is the first time I have known what it is like to 'burst with pride' but when I thought about it I think maybe this is wrong? There are things in my life, degree, successes at work etc, that actually have required effort that could be classed as achievements to be proud of, but the fact that average looking dh and I have managed to produce a heart stoppingly beautiful boy is just an accident really isn't it? So why do I feel prouder of this than stuff that requires effort? Disclaimer: I know all children are beautiful etc

Not all kids are beautiful. My cousin was so arrestingly ugly as a child that even my (and his) grandma commented that he had a face only a mother could love. He grew up to be an incredibly handsome man though.

I was a very pretty kid, and grew up decidedly average.

Moral: don't be too smug OP.... yet

I am sure all your babies are lovely but...

...I never fail to congratulate a new parent on how beautiful their DC is

...I never fail to compliment a dog owner on how handsome their dog is

Unless I live in an unusual world, only a small proportion of the babies and dogs who receive my compliments will be significantly better looking than average. But I think they are all lovely!

Funnily enough, some of the most gorgeous adults were not that beautiful as babies...

A lot of parents are told their children are beautiful/cute?

I have a friend who has a very very beautiful daughter - she is so beautiful it's untrue!

Actually panic I think your point illustrates that we should make the most of it. If my child is going to get comparatively uglier then I'm going to enjoy the positive attention at the moment

I suppose that's a fair point panic - I think everyone knows someone who was the best looking person in school and then you bump into them 10 years later and they're hideous!

So many gorgeous children on here. Feeling quite broody!

Ahem
My children are all astonishingly beautiful.
People used to stop me a lot when DD was little. They a did it all her life actually.
My pride was undiminished even by the remarks like 'are you sure you are her mum?'
Happens with them all but it was a daily thing with DD.
I remember her friends mum having a go at me because someone was raving over DD and ignoring her DD. very rude but hardly my bloody fault as I wasn't even there.
I have no clue how I managed to produce such an exquisite creature.
My boys are stunning too. Dark skinned, curly hair and blue eyes.
I don't care if it's vulgar to boast about the beauty of children. I grew up being told how I would never be pretty.
My kids know that kindness is more important than beauty but they DO they are beautiful.

Threads like this make me feel like a terrible mum!

The first, literally the first, thing that went through my mind as I was lifting 5mo DD2 through the water out of the birth pool was 'Oh my God, she's hideous, look at the size of its nose '. We did the whole aww, nice new baby appreciative noises bit around the MWs and when they left us to it to do some paperwork 10 mins later all I could do was hiss to DH about how unattractive she was! 5 months on she's a bit better, her nose certainly seems to have diminished in size due to her giant round face and 7 excess chins. Lovely eyelashes though

DD1 is a cutie but I'm itching to wax her eyebrows. Will try to upload some photos....

Hmm, not sure I can upload photos via the iPad. You'll just have to take my word for it that neither of my children are that beautiful

Sargesaweyes

Of course they are really ever so gorgeous. Perhaps not conventionally beautiful but stunning nonetheless :)

ds has always been stopped and told how lovely he is, he loves the attention but is quite shy but had the cutest dimples of course i feel very proud especially when they say he has your lovely eyes :)

i did too as a child and remember getting lots of fuss made over me until i was about 8, my mum tells me i went through a very plain few years

doobie don't worry, the first thing I said to ds2 was "arnt you ugly" I blame all the gas and air

2 people told me today how beautiful my DS2 is (he is 2 years, 4 months) its not something I feel especially proud off - as you say its just random, was the same when DS1 and DD were babies. They are both above averagely attractive now (aged 6 and 8) but no one comments now.... however DH tells me attractive people apparently do better in life... neither me or DH particularly attractive.

Sarge there is a LOT to be said for being a late bloomer!

DN is take your breath away good looking, so is his now grown up HB.

Their dad isn't, I'd always assumed The older boys good looks came from his mum (who I've never met), but DN looks just like he must have done as a child.

If I was their parents I couldn't help noticing and feeling a bit smug.

They are both lovely too.

I'm sure most parents get compliments that their babies are beautiful - I never take it too seriously, it would be silly to. My son has the longest eye lashes and all the little girls around his age are very taken with him. My daughter is a cutie too but I don't sit and think wow I've been told my kids are gorgeous! They are to me and they are lovely but them so are most kids.

I have seem plenty of kids I don't think are beautiful at all though but I keep that opinion to myself and gush about them anyway if needed!

Ahhhh all these babies are beautiful :)

My womb is twanging

OP-that can´t be the first time you were "bursting with pride"-wasn´t that when you first looked at him??

Doobie, ds wasn't the prettiest baby either. He had a cone shaped head from a 24 hour labour and a black eye from forceps and looked a bit like a martian.