To be proud of my ds for being beautiful?

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This is troubling me. Two strangers have actually stopped me in the street recently to tell me how beautiful my 18 mo ds is. I think it is the first time I have known what it is like to 'burst with pride' but when I thought about it I think maybe this is wrong? There are things in my life, degree, successes at work etc, that actually have required effort that could be classed as achievements to be proud of, but the fact that average looking dh and I have managed to produce a heart stoppingly beautiful boy is just an accident really isn't it? So why do I feel prouder of this than stuff that requires effort? Disclaimer: I know all children are beautiful etc

My DD is so beautiful, I'm a very proud mum. At the hospital the midwives told me she was unusually pretty and came up to check on her in the postnatal ward (that could be because I'd had a horrendous time and they felt sorry for me though).

Even though she's only 6 months old, she tries to catch peoples' eyes and then when they make eye contact she gives them a huge winning smile, it's really funny! Particularly when she does it to teenage boys trying not to engage with a baby.

I'm loving all the lovely beautiful baby photos too. I'll out myself with mine as they're also on my facebook but oh well.

My DD was like that Chased. We used to go on the train once every two weeks and she would be making eyes at all the men on the train. One young studenty type man said to me "I dont usually like babies but she's got personality" .

I look at my DCs and can't believe how beautiful they are. I fully accept that others won't (but they are wrong ) but when I look at their faces I could burst. DD has the most beautiful smile in the world and DS's eyes could make you do anything for him. I would find it weird if people didn't find their children beautiful.

doobiedoobie etc. My mum didn;t think I was beautiful either but apparently it is easy to make the most of oneself - some good advice for your DDs there.

and even more at mrsdevere - "Are you sure you are their mum?" Seriously - how rude is that? And are they expecting you to say " Well , now you come to mention it I'm not so certain......."

My DS is blonde. His friend at nursery is dark. Pair of heartbreakers.

I think all 3 of mine are beautiful...all different looking (from each other) too.

I think its natural.

YANBU op

My kids are beautiful on the inside (actually the jury is still out on our youngest!), but to be honest they are not beautiful to strangers, I would say.

I dearly love them, but I see kids much better looking in the purely aesthetic sense.

my DS (nearly 3) is gorgeous, and was a beautiful baby - flawless skin, big brown eyes, massive grin. always getting people telling us how handsome he is, but am pretty sure that's more due to him being super-polite at the moment and thanking everyone he meets for something or other. he was a bloated and bruised newborn, but soon looked better.

DD on the other hand - gorgeous newborn, now, not so much. pretty gormless looking, atrocious skin, ridiculous hair. but she is such a smiley wee thing (at 7 weeks) I'm hoping she loses her 'face only a mother could love' looks and blossoms!

(whispers to doobie)

Basically all babies look like drowned rats when they are born. And all look like mini jabba the hutts when they are a bit older.

Everything else is just the hormones speaking.

Powerful things, hormones.

Children don't really start to differentiate until they are at least 3 years old, and even then cuteness makes for most of it....

All the other hormonal beings, please ignore my post.....your children are all beautiful, scrumptious and clearly out to give Kate Moss a run for her money. Honest .

emmm why not wait until hes a teen before being proud? Loads of kids are cute, another story once those hormones kick in!!

Oh yes be as proud as you like, and why not!

I do remember a little girl at primary school everyone was jealous of - blond hair, elfin face, huge blue eyes. She was a very odd looking adult though.

I have been ultra average all my life. No ups or downs. Ho hum

Not necessarily so bornstroppy, I have a 14 and 16 yr old and they haven't really caused us a lot of bother, and still give us a lot to be proud of.

Ds2 who never had beautiful comments is 9 now and has lots of people commenting on how funny he is. He is very bright and has a very quick wit.

kvita and sarge I have pics on my profile of ds3 as a skeleton, he didn't mind that. It was being dressed as Santa he really objected to!

Strangers can't see your DS's massive IQ though. That's why they comment on his looks.

Ds2 was a pumpkin once he sulked the whole time

My DD1 is nearly 16, when we are out shopping etc we get stopped by random people in queues/on checkouts commenting on how beautiful she is. She is very striking looking, not conventionally 'pretty' - but when I see 'men' doing double takes at her I want to kill them

Ds2 is very cute, it makes it much more fun walking around parks and supermarkets. People smile at him and are nice and friendly.

He also got a compliment from the scan person, how's that for super early.

Both my kids are beautiful. DS1 gets commented on because of his looks, and DS2 because of his personality. I also happen to think DS2 is the cutest kids in the world and can't stop kissing his lovely little chubbly face, and DS2 has a smashing character (when he's not in a 5 year old strop) and cracks me up.
Nothing wrong with being proud of any of their traits imo.

I have three beautiful daughters, but youngest is a stunner and I am stopped in the street to be told by total strangers. I have always felt uncomfortable as other daughters look on... However we all agree that youngest got the best genes for looks and has beautiful skin and hair. Have to say that she has the worst tantrums and is a total nightmare sometimes so it all balances out.

My Ds1 and DD are lovely to me. But DS2 is beautiful- he's 6, longish blonde curly hair, dark eyelashes and bright blue eyes (and no teeth!!) He's also camp as anything and cheeky and gets away with murder.

When he was a baby, an old lady stopped me in Tesco and asked his name - she commented that was her husband's name and he had been a good man, and she hoped DS2 would be too. Made me cry! And that was nothing to do with his looks.

My DD probably isn't conventionally beautiful. I think she'll improve she is just over a year old and at that funny stage where she isn't a baby but isn't quite a toddler either! She has hardly any hair and she's skinny.

She's beautiful to me though.

Some people have been mean about her because she's ginger and I always want to tear their throats out.

I really think proud is the wrong word here. Pleased, sure, but proud? Proud is for things which require effort and/or skill, IMO. A child's beauty requires neither unless he's had plastic surgery or wears lots of makeup.

Teapots, sadly none of my kids have red hair, all shades of mouse - I hoped that at least one of them would take after my mum and her beautiful bright red hair. Anyone who disses red hair deserves their throat ripping out. Wankers.