To not want DS(6) to sleep in the dorms at the youth hostel

[rookiemater]

DH and DS away for a few days of camping. As the weather is meant to be unpredictable DH said they may go to the youth hostel if its too wet.
I checked a few ones in the area and said that most seemed to have beds available but wasn't too sure if there were family rooms - they have booked a room for 2 for some of the nights.

DH said that they could get a room in a dorm and DS would sleep on the top bunk but instinctively I don't like the idea of it. I don't think I am particularly PFB or overly stranger danger conscious but DH is quite a heavy sleeper and the thought of DS sleeping in a room with strangers worried me.

DH has said they won't do it if I'm not happy with it but I'm wondering if I am just being overly precious so thought I would ask what people think.

Risk aside, a family room will be better from the perspective of getting a good night's sleep. Presumably your 6yo goes to bed earlier than most adults, who will probably be coming into a dorm, chatting and putting the light on, up to normal adult bed-time. Some people may get up early in the morning too, might not be so much of an issue.

Overly precious definitely

But why go camping and book a hostel in advance?

I mean how do they know when it's going to rain?

How old is DS? Another point that would worry me - I stayed in a YH once on a hen night and it was filthy. They openly admitted to having bed bugs :(

This might not be typical though as it was the only time I have been to one!

Family rooms, or rooms for 3 or 4 are good but can be expensive though, to the point that a room in a B+B might be the same or cheaper.

Worra - you can cancel hostel rooms with 48 hrs notice so DH has booked a couple of nights during the week with the intention of cancelling if the weather is ok.

We stayed in a YH a few months ago lottiegb and yes I thought it was dear as it was £68 for the room then £2 per towel and £5 for breakfast, but its only £34 for the two person room which is what they booked. Good point about the noise although DS is quite a sound sleeper but he does like to get up early too.

I have just booked a family room for us. If it is a YHA hostel, then I am oretty sure that under 16s are not allowed to sleep in the dorms.

I think under 5s aren't allowed in the dorms, but they are from 6-16 provided accompanied by an adult.

What do you think is going to happen? It'll be fine- you're being very a bit pfb.

And I have only once come across a dirty YHA hostel in 30 years.

Sorry, I was wrong. Under 16s must be accompanied by an adult sleeping in th same room. Does not specify a family room or dorm.

He will be fine. No worse than sleeping bin a tent, if someone wanted to get in they could

What are you scared of?

Sorry, don't understand??

Exactly what are you worried about?

Ignore the weirdo's on here who say yabu

You don't want your child sleeping in a room full of strangers...he's 6....that's reasonable and you need to do as you see fit.

I have nothing against YHs in general.

It's the fact that there will be other adults in the room sleeping with them who if they were so inclined could follow him if he went to the toilet and DH was asleep.
I realise this is all highly unlikely but it just seems a bit risky to me and to rationalise it with oh everyone who stays in a youth hostel must be a good egg is a bit disingenuous. At least with a tent to get in someone would actually have to unzip it and if DS needs to go to the toilet in the night as DH is beside him he will either wake him directly or DH will be awoken by DS getting out of the tent.

DH - assume he lives at home with you all and is a hands on parent. Bit dismissive of you to undermine his parenting skills.

FYI Youth hostelling is a brilliant way to get about cheaply, efficiently and more importantly it is regulated.

Was going to do it myself this summer down in the South of France with DS3 (11) but I was sidelined by the Olympics. Don;t see the problem, have a lot of friends who have done this for years, since their little ones were very little, all over Europe.

If you're worried about strangers, then tbh surely in a tent with your dh in a deep sleep would be just as 'risky'? Indeed perhaps riskier- I mean who on earth is going to try something dodgy in a dorm full of people with dad on the bottom bunk?

I just can't see the issue here tbh. It will be fine, hostels are a great cheap alternative to camping.

If the toilet is the specific worry, tell him to wake dad if he needs the loo- which is what he'd do if they were in a tent anyway.

PFB?...

kissmyembroideryhoop weirdos? Where?

Such a shame. So much damage has been done by this paedosteria thing.

How about you suggest that your dp qnd ds share a bed? Ds could sleep on the wall side so he wouldn't be able to get up without waking his dad.

If your DH is a heavy sleeper and would be unlikely to wake if DS needed the loo in the YH, he would surely be unlikely to wake in a tent. At least in a YH, your DS is less likely to get lost. Also, there will be other adults around too who would likely be awoken. This is less likely in an outdoor situation.
I think the YH is actually safer.

The only weirdos I can see are those who get hysterical at the idea of a boy and his dad doing a really special little trip away together