To not want DS(6) to sleep in the dorms at the youth hostel

[rookiemater]

DH and DS away for a few days of camping. As the weather is meant to be unpredictable DH said they may go to the youth hostel if its too wet.
I checked a few ones in the area and said that most seemed to have beds available but wasn't too sure if there were family rooms - they have booked a room for 2 for some of the nights.

DH said that they could get a room in a dorm and DS would sleep on the top bunk but instinctively I don't like the idea of it. I don't think I am particularly PFB or overly stranger danger conscious but DH is quite a heavy sleeper and the thought of DS sleeping in a room with strangers worried me.

DH has said they won't do it if I'm not happy with it but I'm wondering if I am just being overly precious so thought I would ask what people think.

Ignore those saying you are being precious - of course you are NOT being precious and it's ridiculous of people to say you are. If you are not comfortable with it, say no. Yanbu at all.

Hello back, at that time it wasn't spelled out so clearly and in all this detail on their websites.
However, when booking, then this tiny little detail emerged.

And it was through all the UK, my daughter and I spend our holidays in various regions and holiday spots, and everywhere and every hostel was the same.

And all explained , that this is UK policy and all hostels have to adhere to it.

That's all I can say to this.

You can call the Youth Hostel association and any hotel even right now and ask about it, and you'll get an answer.

And then, you might not even have to worry anymore...as it has been cleared for different reasons

50shades a lot of sensible advice on here... Why should op listen to you and 'ignore' it?

I meant to write any hostel and NOT hotel, that was a typo, sorry

also means that a parent/adult cannot check-in with under-16's into a dorm

You can sleep in a dorm in a YHA with a child of at least 9 years old - I have done it on several occasions

ivykaty44

You have done it, that's great, I wish I could have done the same, I was told on different occasions it isn't possible...

For me, it would have been great and wonderful to check into an all-female dorm, when my daughter was 9 and 10, so I'd suggest to the OP, call them and find out, that won't take longer than a few minutes and you're much wiser, especially after you mention your son's age.

try and book for a single person and a child of the same sex and it will state under 5 own room, 5-15 then must can stay in same sex dorm with adult over 18

picking random hostels and they are all the same when you go to book and give you the same rules - over 5 dorm fine and under 5 own room

I'm pretty sure from the YHA website that children over 5 can sleep in the dorms but perhaps it might be different when you get there.

In any event it is hopefully unlikely to happen as the weather seems to be holding up.

It isn't different when you get there - they are fine with children over 5 in dorms - I do think they state you have to be over a certian age to sleep in the top bunk - but I am not sure and as my dd is now much older she has to sleep up top!

Like I said though if you are worried get them to pitch the tent in the YHA garden - most do camping and then they get a warm dry lounge dinner and kitchen and sleep in a tent

Spent lots of time in YHA as a child in Scotland,I have all the stamps in my book, never had a problem, it's great fun, I wouldn't worry.

It's sad, basically you don't trust your husband to keep your son safe.
I'd be very pissed off if I was him.
DS and I YH a lot and have done since he was small, we booked a double room and our choice of hostels was limited by that requirement.

And so she just overrules her DH 50shades? How weird-is she senior parent? I trusted my 18yr old with his brother-he is responsible and sensible. I can't see why she married him if she doesn't trust him to keep his DS safe in a youth hostel!

You also can't take your DS into a ladies toilet for ever-by 8yrs at the very latest- they have to cope without mother!

hows she over riding or not trusting her dh? hes asked her if she is comfortable with it and said if she isant he wont.

I haven't read the whole thrbut am puzzled by they would check into a YH if it rains? We camp a lot and tents these days are pretty waterproof. There is something about camping in a tent with the sound of the rain on the canvas while you are cosy and warm in bed and for me it's part of the spirit of adventure. Sure it's not such fun in the day when you have to smuse yourselves but that's what wellies and raincaots are for!

I don't think I am overruling anyone exoticfruits.

I'm very happy that DH is taking DS away camping and to a youth hostel in family rooms and I completely trust his ability to look after DS he is after all his father, I merely feel uncomfortable with DS being in a shared dorm tbh I'd probably feel the same if it was me with DS in a female dorm ( although not sure if this is allowed and don't want to start lots of hypothetical conversations about the ins and outs of it !) We had a discussion and came to an agreement I don't think DH had given it much thought and I don't think it upset him greatly to agree not to do something because it concerns me.

DH and I merely have different views about the safeness of different scenarios. For example I told DH about the thread about a 5 year old camping on their own in the garden, he couldn't see why that would be any sort of an issue at all whereas its not something I would feel comfortable about ( DS would be unlikely to want to camp in the garden on his own anyhow!)

aargh spelling went wrong there "thread" and "amuse" ...sigh

Thanks kim147 thats what I am trying to do is to canvas other peoples opinions and understand why I have an instinctive reaction to this.

I think that it is good to get other views-and for your DH to know that he had a perfectly sensible suggestion.

Have a look at farm stays - great value B and B, probably as cheap as a YH.

www.farmstay.co.uk/home/special-offers-content.dot?host_id=6008