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AIBU to think men have it easier disguising their grey hair than women?

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Itsgottabebags · 02/08/2012 08:53

I have just seen a Just For Men advert where you just comb in the colour and it sops developing automatucally when its finished developing I assume.

So AIBU to think that men have it easier than women disguising their grey hairs as I know that if their was a product like that for women I would buy it!

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CakeCrisis · 02/08/2012 08:54

So buy Just for Men then?

Mrsjay · 02/08/2012 08:57

my DH just went grey he didnt care although my dad a few years older than my husband isnt grey weird that he has been using JFM for years now. maybe you have to use jfm more often

Trills · 02/08/2012 09:02

Men have it easier because they are not expected to "disguise" their grey hairs.

If you think this great leap forward in hair dye technology works then it'll work for you as well, men's hair is not that different to women's hair.

LaurieFairyCake · 02/08/2012 09:02

It's an easy product to use as most men have no experience of dying their hair - women's hair isn't different but all the marketing aimed at women is about multi layered, multi dimensional highlights rather than all over boring colour.

You could easily slap JFM on your head - any you will get brown, flat colour - that won't matter as much if you have a short back and sides - again most women don't have that.

Tee2072 · 02/08/2012 09:03

I have it easy because I don't worry about it. I do nothing to cover my grey. Why would I? Because a woman's magazine tells me I have to?

Mrsjay · 02/08/2012 09:06

Tee I dont read womens magazine i dont wear make up and have no real interest in fashion , but i hate grey hair on me it really is a choice if you dye or not I maybe a wee bit vain but i dont want all over grey just yet , my aunt has been grey for as long as I can remember she keeps her hair short and it suits her I don't think women should be slated cos they like a bit of colour in their hair I have been dying my hair different colours since i was 15 now i just dye it to cover the white hair,

pictish · 02/08/2012 09:08

I think women have an easier time covering up the grey actually. Men look terrible with dyed hair, whereas women look smashing!

CMOTDibbler · 02/08/2012 09:09

I'm with Tee - I dyed my hair for 18 years as I started going grey very, very early, then decided last year that the hassle was too much, so I stopped. I'm 39, white haired and proud now.

Tee2072 · 02/08/2012 09:11

MrsJay if society didn't tell you grey was bad, with adverts (whether you read the magazines or not, I guarantee you see hair dye adverts) and having entire sections of shops with hair dye, you wouldn't mind your grey hair.

Just like if Victoria Secret's 'Love Your Body' Advert didn't show anorexic women, girls wouldn't be dieting to death.

Everyone grows older and their bodies change. It's as sure as death and taxes.

Don't kid yourself that you do it because you think it looks better. You do it because society tells you it looks better.

Bonsoir · 02/08/2012 09:12

I like my DP's grey hair. In fact, I have made him promise not to shave for a month because I want him to have a grizzled beard to go with his sun tan!

Mrsjay · 02/08/2012 09:20

Of course you are right tee but but i will continue to dye my hair because I like to do it nothing wrong in that is there ?

ByTheWay1 · 02/08/2012 09:21

I'm white and proud too!! Coloured my hair for 15 years to "conform" and look "younger" - but now I love my snowy locks....

I stopped for many reasons - I wanted the money for other things, I was frightened by a girl in our neighbourhood dying from allergic reaction to hair dye (after using it for 3 years! ), I just got fed up of sitting there for 2 hours to get my hair done.. and finally I thought my mum looked really nice with her white hair - not old, mature - it gave her "presence", so I thought I'd give it a go...

Some people still ask why I don't dye it (I'm mid 40s), so I just say vaguely "oh I'm allergic to stuff" and they go away!!

pictish · 02/08/2012 09:22

Bonsoir my dh is grey with a short grizzly beard and I think it's luffly.

I dye my hair too - I'm nowhere near the stage of giving in to my grey yet. I'm nearly 37 now, but nah - I'll keep dying it bright red for a while yet. I'm just not ready to concede defeat.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 02/08/2012 09:27

I think its because men who are just grey at sides can comb it in rather than dye their whole head. My DH is most excited about this one :)

Mrsjay · 02/08/2012 09:35

there is a powder to hide mens bald spots i was a bit confused how it worked and how it stayed on

IM 41 pictish dont do it till you are ready, I had a neigbour who was in her 80s with raven black hair I WILL BE HER AT 80 she was fab

Tee2072 · 02/08/2012 09:36

"Concede defeat"?

manicbmc · 02/08/2012 09:39

I can't dye my hair. Had a skin test when I had my hair cut and the patch scabbed really badly. So I shall be training my grey into a distinguished streak instead.

My dad never went grey at all. Jet black hair till the day he died. But my mam was grey by 35.

pictish · 02/08/2012 11:01

Tee - if you don't want to dye your hair that's perfectly fine - all power to you! You are enlightened and righteous - well done.

Why get the snipe on at us that do though? It's up to our silly heads and we're quite happy! I dye my hair bright red because I like to look different and stand out from the crowd a bit. Don't deign to tell me why I do it, in that sneery tone - I don't give a fuck what the magazines say.

Tee2072 · 02/08/2012 11:19

Little defensive there, pictish. Hit a nerve, did I?

pictish · 02/08/2012 11:20

No - but you you got on my nerves Mrs Preachy!

Tee2072 · 02/08/2012 11:22

Really? Huh.

manicbmc · 02/08/2012 11:24

Because no one would want to dye their hair just because they like the colour? And anorexia is an awful lot more complex than people wanting to look like some Victoria Secret model.

I would dye my greying hair if I could because I'd like to, not because society tells me I should.

Tee2072 · 02/08/2012 11:25

Okay. Y'all keep telling yourselves that you do it because you like it and not because you're trying to reach some ideal of womanhood presented to you in advertising.

Feel free to be deluded.

Bored now.

pictish · 02/08/2012 11:26

Go away then.

Mrsjay · 02/08/2012 11:28

Tee you are sort of saying but not using the words that women have not a brain cell and only follow what society tell them

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