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To want to go to the supermarket without being hassled over parking?

107 replies

WelshMaenad · 01/08/2012 12:36

My dd is disabled and has a blue badge. I also have a toddler. I do generally try to park in p&c spaces but if none are free/convenient I will park in a disabled space.

I am sick to the back fucking teeth of busybodies harassing me on the assumption that I'm just a um of two who is abusing the space. I've just had some mardy troutfaced bitch stride over and inform me that people like me are disgusting. she didn't even fucking apologise when I pointed out that I was displaying a blue badge and disabled class road tax disc, she just sniffed and walked off.

What business is it of other peoples? Seriously. Fuck the fuck off then fuck off some more!

Breathes.

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gallifrey · 01/08/2012 14:14

My daughter once said they should have parent badges for parking in P&C spaces like the blue badges for disabled parking!

Pixieonthemoor · 01/08/2012 14:16

People who have a go at others for parking in disabled spaces when they are perfectly entitled to do so are completely vile.

But then I do think that people who park in disabled spaces who are perfectly able bodied, not entitled to but can't be arsed to walk further are the scum of the earth.

Sigh. It's just all so depressing.

Jamillalliamilli · 01/08/2012 14:37

If it's any consolation to those with invisible disabilities or children with them, I'm in a wheelchair and get a steady stream of crap over using my blue badge in supermarket car parks.

I could write a book on the stupid things people say, but the most common one is related to how unfair it is that I'm getting nearer parking when I'm able to sit down all day.

I can't use an adapted trolley, (or any trolley) and that seems to upset people who demand to know why I'm not using one, then think I'm being 'difficult.'

People just feel the need to thrust their opinions on others and I doubt the disability being visible would get you a better deal tbh, just a different one. Chin up.

Kladdkaka · 01/08/2012 14:53

Sympathies OP, been there, got the dents on my bonnet to prove it.

nailak · 01/08/2012 15:00

I am just saying instead of ranting maybe we should try and understand the other persons perspective,

soulsource what are you on about?

What is a religious fantasist?someone who fantasises about religion Confused anyway I would say the same about any group, that it makes more sense to understand where they are coming from and deal with it through education then to just condemn.

FalseStartered · 01/08/2012 15:01

what other perspective?

that they are ignorant enough to abuse a stranger?

nailak · 01/08/2012 15:03

yes that they are ignorant enough.

nailak · 01/08/2012 15:03

obviously if they was educated about it then they wouldnt be abusing people in the first place would they?

FalseStartered · 01/08/2012 15:07

ah, that's ok then

it's just ignorance then

no need to get upset, OP and others, it's just ignorance/another perspective Hmm

your BB says nothing

lurkedtoolong · 01/08/2012 15:17

I think there must be something wrong with me. I don't notice who is using disabled or P&C spaces, I just park my car and get on with it...

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WelshMaenad · 01/08/2012 15:20

The ignorance people show is astounding. I'm sorry for everyone FBI has had unfair abuse.

We get all kinds of looks and mutters when we take dd out in her chair. Because she CAN walk but not long distances, we take it on days out etc. I was called 'ridiculous' at a farm park because dd got out of her wheelchair to jump on a trampoline.

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FalseStartered · 01/08/2012 15:27

it's shit isn't it, OP? that people can see a snapshot of your whole life and decide you deserve abuse for it?

i know a wee girl who can one week can use a trampoline by herself but the next has so many seizures she can barely hold her head up - it's really sad but remarkable at the same time.

spiffysquiffyspiggy · 01/08/2012 15:42

BIL has a rare type of muscular dystrophy and really struggles walking so has a blue badge. He also has more money than sense a flash car. DH went to the supermarket with him once and came back from dropping off the trolly at the supermarket entrance to find a traffic warden giving BIL a lecture on being a "selfish young toerag" who "only thought of his own convenience". DH interrupted the tirade to drag the traffic warden to the front of the car and point out the clearly displayed blue badge. His response? "Well how was I to know? It doesn't look like a disabled person's car". DH said he was so close to throwing a punch but decided that a formal complaint that got the wanker sacked was better.

OP, some people are fuckwits. Hopefully she will have learned her lesson. Failing that we can only hope that karma will have something particularly unpleasant in store for her.

CailinDana · 01/08/2012 15:42

I honestly don't understand why people get so incredibly worked up about parking. Why on earth would anyone challenge anyone else about where they're parked unless it was right in front of their house or something? I found too that when I used to drive (no car now, sick of the fucking thing) people with me insisted I park as close as humanly possible to wherever we were going. Why? Why? I'm not disabled, I don't need to park close to the shop or wherever, whereas people like you who are disabled or have disabled children/parents, do. I can park a mile away and walk if necessary. Cars are a privilege and convenience for most, but for disabled/ill people they are a lifeline. Yet people seem to act like the fact they have a car gives them an automatic right to behave like an entitled asshole.

hermionestranger · 01/08/2012 15:45

What does a disable persons car look like then? What a prat.

fiverabbits · 01/08/2012 15:51

In our local Morrisons a young lady got out of a car by herself having parked in a disabled bay. I was walkng into the store whilst my husband was touring the car park looking for somewhere to park as all the other disabled places were used. I said to the young lady you haven't put out your disabled badge, she said she had left it at home, so I said well you can't park in a disabled bay without one it turned out that even if she had the badge it was for her grandmother who was at home. I complained so much that she moved.
The laugh of the day was the way the couple who had parked opposite and were putting there shopping in the boot of their car just stood there with their mouths open and said to me well done, more people should challenge people who park in the disabled places that shouldn't be there. My husband needs a disabled badge as he has had two knee replacements but he still can't bend his knees and needs the car door open wide to get in and out. We had more than one occasion when parked in a normal place that someone parks so close to our car that he can't get in and has to wait for the driver to return.

spiffysquiffyspiggy · 01/08/2012 15:56

hermione- I can only conclude that the tosspot thought that disabled people had to agree to trade in their sports car for a sensible little run around before they can get a blue badge.

The sad thing was that BIL was standing there taking all the shit from this man and later did get a slightly more sensible car as he never felt comfortable driving round in the old one after that.

DilysPrice · 01/08/2012 16:03

I would stand up for the old lady who asked "Have you got a blue badge?". It's busybodying but it's a fair question, and heaven knows people do abuse disabled spaces, so keeping an eye out is not unreasonable. Maybe she'd have responded "Great, sorry to ask, but I do see a lot of scrotes taking these spaces, so I sometimes ask" if the poster hadn't jumped down her throat.

AnitaBlake · 01/08/2012 16:06

Mu mum has been asked a few times not to use the disabled bays at her work as there were VIPs coming in and they needed to make sure they had reserved spaces. Everytime she's pointed out her blue badge and adapted chair at her desk. They've always apologised, but she world for an ambulance service ffs!

Can't believe people going on like that, makes me ashamed tbh.

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WelshMaenad · 01/08/2012 16:07

Only is she goes and asks everybody, DilysPrice. Only asking younger people/those who don't 'look' disabled is discriminatory and fucking infuriating. Especially when I see a lot of people without blue badges parking in disabled spaces without challenge, thinking it's their right because they are just old.

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Kladdkaka · 01/08/2012 16:09

It's not a fair question DilysPrice. I have a blue badge to prove to the appointed authority that I can park there. Some random in the carpark is not the appointed authority and it has nothing to do with them whatsoever.

fiverabbits · 01/08/2012 16:12

SEE MY ABOVE POST

I asked the young woman not because she was young but the fact that she didn't display a blue badge.

fiverabbits · 01/08/2012 16:17

My husband now works at the local Morrisons and after getting a telling of for parking in the disabled parking with his blue badge displayed, he was told by the manager that staff had to park at the top of the car park. Then my husband said it was discrimination not to have disabled parking for staff, he now has a special ticket allowing him to park in the disabled parking.

DartsIsFun · 01/08/2012 16:21

nailak Ignorance is not considered an excuse in the eyes of the law if someone commits a crime, so why should I excuse someone who abuses my dad, who has a blue badge, on the grounds they may be ignorant?

And he has had abuse on a couple of occasions.

A blue badge entitles someone to park in a disabled bay. End of story. I have no qualms about talking back if someone abuses my dad or anyone else who has a blue badge.

maddening · 01/08/2012 16:26

yanbu obviously - just a pity she worked herself up to challange someone over misuse of a space reserved for blue badge holders only to have a go at a blue badge holder!

also - I would never challange or dispute a bb but the only thing that does occur as a thought when I read this thread is people who use their friends / family bb when the bb holder is not with them -maybe she wrongly thought this was the case?