To want to go to the supermarket without being hassled over parking?

[WelshMaenad]

My dd is disabled and has a blue badge. I also have a toddler. I do generally try to park in p&c spaces but if none are free/convenient I will park in a disabled space.

I am sick to the back fucking teeth of busybodies harassing me on the assumption that I'm just a um of two who is abusing the space. I've just had some mardy troutfaced bitch stride over and inform me that people like me are disgusting. she didn't even fucking apologise when I pointed out that I was displaying a blue badge and disabled class road tax disc, she just sniffed and walked off.

What business is it of other peoples? Seriously. Fuck the fuck off then fuck off some more!

Breathes.

I think maybe they look at u and think whatever your disability others are worse so need it more?

Nothing to do with anyone else only your GP who has deemed it necessary for you to have one.

I would never challenge anyone in a disabled space ever

My aunt is disabled and they had to park and run in once (due to nature of her disability and bowels) and forgot to display. They got a ticket and abuse and were v distressed. Luckily it all got sorted out when they explained and aunt nearly collapsed

I have had a go at people who misuse p&c spaces but never disabled spaces. I feel for you, but think you would be far better off letting it roll off your back - and venting on here than getting involved in a shouting match in a car park in front of your DC.

Why would you have a go at anyone ithink?

The thing about having a go at anyone on reality is that people can prove to ne unpredictable and or dangerous to provoke.

Well exactly sole - also it is absolutely not anyone else's beeswax if someone parks in a P and C space.

Someone on here has a son with SN and he wrote out a little card and carried copies of it to hand to people when they said horrible things, explaining his SN and asking them to think before judging. I think that's a really great way of a)not having to talk to the people and b) make them think about being such utter, utter, cocks. Do you think you and DD would feel like doing something similar?

(actually I know it was Pagwatch but she won't know me and I don't want her to think I'm her stalker )

I'd never challenge someone using a disabled space - though if they don't seem to be displaying a blue badge I do judge.

But the real problem is the amount of people who think that they are entitled to park in the disabled bays because (a) it's raining, (b) the P & C spaces are full, or (c) they just don't fancy a long walk to the store entrance.

YANBU What a horrible, horrible woman. It must be infuriating and I would find it really hard to remain calm, but it might be worth having a few choice phrases up your sleeve for such a time - the old 'I really hope you didn't mean that to be as rude as it sounded' whilst pointing at your windscreen?

It's awful

A very close and dear family member had a heart disease, just a young man. He couldn't walk far at all. So he eventually (after a battle) received a blue badge. Back then it was more about yellow line parking than supermarkets - he was young and looked v fit and healthy but he so wasn't. I'm sure he had some looks and a few .

People should understand that not all disabilities are visible, and don't always require a wheelchair.

I have never had a go at someone for using a disabled space, I have raised it with customer services if I have seen it being abused, by that I mean a plasterers van in a space without a BB. The supermarkets don't challenge it here as their employees have been abused in the past. Aren't some people lovely.

YANBU.

I have a blue badge and walk with sticks and I still get it. The other week I told an old woman, who was following me round my car ( I was going to the boot to get the bag out) to piss off and called her an interfering old bag! . It wasn't my finest hour but she wouldn't shut up and leave me alone even when I proved she was wrong!

I had a note put on my car in the Car park in my doctor's. It said that the space was for "proper disabled people, ie old ones, not younger people who could walk a bit further!"

It pisses me right off!

I think jeee is correct, the real problem is the number of people who just use the disabled spaces as a matter of convenience. There are lots of us (of course) who find this really offensive. I now have a blue badge and I know before I got it last year that I would definitely "tut, tut" people who I saw parking in these spaces without an appropriate badge - I thought that if I looked my disapproval they might feel some shame at what they were doing. I always checked to see that they did have a badge, though, and never ever said anything in any case. (And, to be honest, I am ashamed that I didn't say anything, either, if they didn't have a blue badge).

It seems some of the.elderly generation feel their needs are more important. This is why the attitude.

give over nailak

this sort of shite comes from all ages

It has been like this for years unfortunately. I have never had so much abuse when parking in a disabled space with children. My disabled dependents badge has run out atm though so i am using p&c spaces instead and get dirty looks of mothers of small children now though have received no verbal abuse yet, but the month is young

Yes because only old people can have disabilities.

Tobe fair to nailak most of the harassment I get over parking in a disabled space is from the older generation.

It has always been older people who have been abusive to us as well, never anyone below the age of 65

Same could be said for lots people Nailak including what some may deem as religous fantasists.

I get the exact same treatment, OP.
They never apologise, do they?

Someone actually criminally damaged the motability car to make his feelings clearly known too.

Well, I have challenged someone parking in a disabled space without a blue badge or disability. not because I needed the space, but because the next disabled driver might, and might not be fit to challenge him.

he did threaten to kick my head (and my DH's!) in if I reported him. DH was raging at me for causing a scene, but maybe able-bodied people should stand up for disabled spaces, and not just think "not my problem, mate- let the mum struggling with the disabled child fight her own battles withe ignorant yob"

Slightly off topic, but DS2 (nearly 3) has decided that the picture on the disabled spaces is of a man sitting on a toilet, rather than a wheelchair.