to ask my sister to hide her pregnancy?

[3kidsNapup]

Considering the way she got pregnant was to honey trap the father! They have one child already (but are not together) and she decided it wasn't fair that she didnt have a brother or sister so she got drunk to sleep with him but planned it so she was ovulating - obviously he knows nothing about her wicked plan.

I have a family function coming up and have told her I dont want it to be subject of converstaion (as totally embarrassed), AIBU????

Ok so even if she has done what you say she has, is she planning on making her 'wicked plan' public to the rest of your family? What exactly is the source of your embarrassment at this family function?

YABU to ask her to hide her pregnancy. How long are you asking her to hide it for, and is she really going to tell everyone how she got pregnant?

This reminds me of someone I knew. She was living with a bloke and told me all about how they were TTC. She then got pregnant and I was speaking to her OH and he said it was a complete surprise! So she was TTC but didn't tell him she'd stopped taking the pill!

I'm going to throw a spanner in here, my "friend" did this when she was separated. Invited her estranged hubby round on the pretext of getting back together - all because she wanted a second child and didn't want her children to have different fathers. She kept that going for quite a few months until she fell pregnant then threw him out again. She was a grade A bitch.

Of course he could have popped a sock over it, but I presume you assume that previous birth control methods are still in place.

So I don't necessarily dismiss the OP as having a flight of fancy.

However I have come to the conclusion, after reading this, and similar forums for far too long, that the only "cure" for infertility is to get blind drunk, have a rip roaring knee trembler with a passing acquaintance, and Bobs Yer Uncle. Job done! (TIC and not meaning to offend anyone one TTC)

Why are you embarrassed?? It's got nothing to do with you? YABU

Why did she have to be drunk, you haven't answered that one.

3kindsNapp what are your morals? Ie why do you think that what she did was wrong? Surely any man who has unprotected vaginal sex with a woman knows that the end result may well be a baby?? Am I missing something? (I genuinely do not understand - did she pretend to be on the pill or something (if which case I agree that it is wrong but still think that unless she stuck a pin through the condom when he wasn't looking then it is as much his fault as hers).

Isn't the morally dodgy thing here the assumption that if sex results in a baby then that is somehow the woman's responsibility?

obviously he knows nothing about her wicked plan Hahahaha!!

So if someone did that to your son you would be happy???

Did what exactly as you haven't clarified?? Had sex? takes 2 to tango and be responsible for contraception ...did you know this?

you should never assume ANYTHING when that assumption may result in a child being conceived

Ok so she knew he wouldnt wear a condom, planned the night around her ovulating time and had to get drunk to do it cos she really can't stand him

If they did go on Jeremy Kyle he would suggest this man put something on the end of it.

You are so being unreasonable. Loosen those judgypants, you have hoiked them up so far that the resulting display of camel toe is indecent.

What's that got to do with her not telling anyone? When the baby comes are you going to suggest she hides it in the garden shed?

She's done it now. Tough tits really it's too late to change it and you'll have to deal with it.

The man isn't your problem. However sneaky you think she was he was irresponsible to sleep with a drunken ex with no condom.

If you ejaculate in a vagina without a condom on your penis you take the chance of getting the woman pregnant.

Ok so she knew he wouldnt wear a condom more fool him.

If she hates him so much, why choose him to be the father of her baby?

This has nothing to do with you. It's their business. The family function is laughably irrelevant.

I did this, trapped an innocent man into becoming a father (well, his parents told him and everyone that would listen that's what happened).

Shocking.

I've no morals whatsoever.

OP you are not genuine.

Now please, in the most politest possible way, do be quiet and find something more interesting to bore talk about.

She sounds horrid I would tell the whole world EWWWWW!!!

YABVVVVVVVVU I'm afraid, and whatever cunning plan your sister had concocted is none of your business.

I'm assuming that the father of the child is a) old enough to have sex and b) presumably knows how babies are made - considering they already have one child together I'm assuming this is a given.

Therefore, he was also being unreasonable for going paddling without his wellies on.

Is this family function meant to be an event where all the attention should be on YOU, OP?

I don't understand this post. Who is she meant to be hiding the pregnancy from and why?

Morals? I don't bloody think so, someone with 'morals' wouldn't be being so vile about her own sister and an innocent unborn baby

I also fail to see what her discussing the pregnancy with the rest of the family has to do with you. Are all members forced to submit a list of suitable topics of conversation for you to approve or veto?

You love to throw this in her face. I think your Sister is better not knowing you. Snob.

Ok so she knew he wouldnt wear a condom, planned the night around her ovulating time and had to get drunk to do it cos she really can't stand him

did she pretend that she was in love with him? Unless she mislead him in some way then I can't see the problem.

That is your niece or nephew you are talking about. Believe me, your sister comes out of this tale looking a lot nicer than you do. Gah! You make me quite sick actually....