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AIBU?

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Original poster

to ask my sister to hide her pregnancy?

120 replies

3kidsNapup · 25/07/2012 21:41

Considering the way she got pregnant was to honey trap the father! They have one child already (but are not together) and she decided it wasn't fair that she didnt have a brother or sister so she got drunk to sleep with him but planned it so she was ovulating - obviously he knows nothing about her wicked plan.

I have a family function coming up and have told her I dont want it to be subject of converstaion (as totally embarrassed), AIBU????

OP posts:
Ariel24 · 25/07/2012 21:52

Yeah, your morals are evident for all to see OP......?!?!

gordyslovesheep · 25/07/2012 21:52

good for you - they will keep you warm in your lonely tutty old age - along with your extra snug judgy pants

McHappyPants2012 · 25/07/2012 21:53

dont be silly wrap that willy
no glove no love
Don't make a mistake, cover your snake

BelleDameSansMerci · 25/07/2012 21:53

Nah, you're just judge-y.

NellyBluth · 25/07/2012 21:54

Morals are one thing, but this is your sister and your future niece/nephew you are talking about!

If the topic comes up, just don't join in the conversation.

It is not the baby's fault. If you carry on thinking like this, you'll probably end up taking it out on the kid.

WithoutCaution · 25/07/2012 21:56

My uncles X did similar to him (but she got him drunk not herself). It back fired when he demanded full custody - suddenly she didn't think he was actually the father and one of the other blokes she'd slept with might be Hmm

WorraLiberty · 25/07/2012 21:56

Morals my arse!

You've got a pair of judgey pants and that's not the same thing at all.

EMS23 · 25/07/2012 21:56

So do all of us who disagree with you not have morals then?

JumpingThroughHoops · 25/07/2012 21:56

She had to get drunk to sleep with him? Why? Is he that awful?

samithesausage · 25/07/2012 21:59

I suppose you could say don't mention it til the 12 week scan, and mumble something about tempting fate/bad luck.... But that's pushing it....
What's going to happen at the guy fawks/ Christmas party... She's going to be mah-oosive by then!

McHappyPants2012 · 25/07/2012 22:00

Also what man sleeps with a women who is drunk.

LynetteScavo · 25/07/2012 22:01

If it were my son, I would tell him he should use condoms if he doesn't want a baby, be pleased my grandchild had a sibling on the way and support them all the best I could.

If you don't want to talk about the pregnancy, I presume you won't want to meet the baby when it's born.

RubyFakeNails · 25/07/2012 22:02

I don't understand she had to get drunk to shag him.

Was he sober?

How drunk was she?

Is he really hideous?

Is it only through alcohol she can hide her wicked immoral self?

LynetteScavo · 25/07/2012 22:02

And yes, sleeping with a drunk woman with no condom is well out of order.

I know who I would be Hmm with.

Moominsarescary · 25/07/2012 22:06

It's not the greatest situation, I don't agree with someone sleeping with a man with the intention of getting pg without telling him. However he could have avoided it by using a condom.

How is you judging her helping? Ffs she is your sister

msrantsalot · 25/07/2012 22:06

I would say it depends if you are embarrassed about the baby or think you're going to be embarrassed because you think she is going to tell everyone that she trapped him??

apachepony · 25/07/2012 22:08

In fairness, if she did do it on purpose - how do you know by the way - it's a very shitty thing to do, although the man should of course have worn a condom. If one of my sisters did this I would think them a fool and my opinion of them would drop like a stone. I know they wouldn't though because they do in fact have morals! Not sure the pregnancy can be hidden though, it's done now!

TheVermiciousKnid · 25/07/2012 22:08

There is nothing moral about wanting sister to hide her pregnancy.

msrantsalot · 25/07/2012 22:08

Also if it is a family function, then why on earth do you think you would look bad because of her behaviour anyway?

Ariel24 · 25/07/2012 22:09

Yes please give details of how you know she did this on purpose?!

picnicbasketcase · 25/07/2012 22:10

It sounds like what she's done is very devious and selfish but YABU for wanting her to hide her pregnancy. I don't know why telling people she's pg has to involve telling everyone she planned it without telling the father her intentions. Why can't she just say it was a bit of a surprise or something?

TheVermiciousKnid · 25/07/2012 22:10

I suspect there will now be a whole lot of drip feeding to convince us of the sister's wicked ways...

Original poster
3kidsNapup · 25/07/2012 22:12

She told me Ariel24

OP posts:
NellyBluth · 25/07/2012 22:14

She 'seduced' him, but he a) had sex with a drunk woman and b) had sex with a drunk woman using no protection. How on earth is this purely her fault?!

stemginger · 25/07/2012 22:18

So if someone did that to your son you would be happy???

I don't understand what you mean. Did you mis type your original post? (It says that she got drunk but you seem to then be implying that he is the injured party (ie as if she got him drunk and sort of raped him or something)