to be pissed off at DS's nursery?

[JollyHockeyStick]

Ds goes to nursery one full day a week on a Monday from 07:30 until 17:00. He is 15 months. I drop him off in the morning and DH picks him up.

DS has two naps a day. A half hour one at 09:30 and a longer one at 2pm ish. Nursery have this written down and fully explained in great detail.

2 weeks ago he refused his morning nap at nursery. That day I got home very early from work and picked DS up at 1. I had told nursery I'd be doing this when I dropped them off. They told me they'd put him down for his morning nap but he had refused to sleep. Fair enough, these things happen, I said, we have tried moving him to one nap but he's not ready so we're keeping him on two until he's a bit older.

Last week I got home and had a read of his nursery book. He only had one nap, 1.5 hours at 12:30. Dh says they didn't mention anything to him at pick up time.

Today I get home to discover that DS is ridiculously tired and has only slept half an hour all day, from 13:05. They apparently mentioned to DH that he hadn't slept well but that was all.

AIBU to be pissed off that they have taken it upon themselves to change DS's routine after being specifically told that it was that way for a reason?

bit young for a nursery ?

If it "shouldn't be too difficult" to make a nap dropper nap PLEASE share your wisdom! I'ld love to hear how to get DS to nap again!

I don't think its appropriate to put a wide awake child with no intention of napping in with the actual nappers while they chatter and sing away to themselves actually, won't it just disturb the ones who WANT their naps?

Not read the other posts, but that sounds like the Contented Baby routine you are trying to do. Maybe they can't get him to sleep at that time so they put him to bed when he is erm..sleepy? If he is only going one day a week then it will all seem very different to him so not surprising he is not able to sleep at the prescribed time.

I understand your pain OP. When DS was that age a bad days naps resulted in a whiny overtired child for the rest of the day. An early bed often a night time wakening it felt like it'd take days to get back on track.

However you're going to struggle to find a nursery who'll go that extra mile to ensure your DS naps. They have their own routines and the other children to consider. It's the downside of a nursery, I think you have to live with it or consider a nanny who can dedicate all of her time to your child.

A nanny is not possi

Sorry, a nanny is not possible, We live in a village 45 minutes from the city. We also only require childcare 1 day a week. I can't see any nanny being able to work with that arrangement.

Maybe look for a childminder who will do 1 day. They hAve far fewer children during the day. But again, he might not sleep to the same routine. Both the lo's I have, the parents tell me they sleep for an hour in the am and at least 2 hours in the afternoon. I'm lucky to get them to have an hour in the afternoon. They have a powernap, realise that they're at my house where their little friends are, and scream to get out the cots and play.
there's certainly not much you can do about it if lo's decide they don't want to sleep.
On the plus side, they sleep fantastically on those nights and don't wake their parebts at arrghh o' clock.

Oh no, he sleeps less well when he's overtired and was pretty restless in the early part of last night. Normally he goes 7:30-6:45 without a squeak.

I'll see how nursery respond when I speak to them.

And maybe consider alternative provision after that, but I doubt it will come to that