to ask that my dad doesn't do this

[two2blackcats]

My dad has my DDs 2 days a week and when the weather has been nice which admittedly hasn't been often he takes them to a sort of sprinkler fountain in the city centre, and has them run around naked.

I really, really don't like it and have asked him not to but he just gets huffy and thinks I am being ridiculous.

AIBU? I probably am but I can't help how I feel about it.

I'm going to make sure DS does run around naked as I can't countenance being part of the cover up crew :(

Basically the OP isn't happy & her father needs to listen to her.

To other posters: I don't understand why any mother would deliberately want your child to run round naked?
When the sad fact is that anywhere in public they may well get filmed or photographed without your knowledge, & those photos would then get used by paedophiles.

I've got no 'issues' here... i'm just telling you the deeply unpleasant truth.
If you choose to ignore it then it's your choice - but remember your children are being allowed to run around naked & unlike you they DON'T know these people exist; they don't know that images of them naked can be made & shared by the most disgusting people.
I don't think 'paedos are on every corner' but many men are regularly, on a weekly basis, seen locally filming / photographing children of all ages - as i said, people report & try to stop them, or warn them off - but they are rarely convicted. That's just in one small part of the UK.

We have lots of splash pads here in Canada because it gets very, very hot in the summer. It would be completely unacceptable for anyone to let their child run around naked in one; you wouldn't at a pool, right? And it's a public open space. Any old Paedo could be lurking around.

YANBU.

Latara
Sorry but you are wrong. I have never, ever seen any men filming locally, I live in a rural but touristy area, and haven't seen anyone local or otherwise, filming. Not even at our local open air pool. I'm afraid your posts does demonstrate, very clearly that you really are a 'paedos on every corner' person.

Yep, we have lots of those in New Jersey too, Sriracha and it's exactly the same: they have to be in a swim nappy at the very least. In fact, because it's hot, most kids are in those swimsuits that look like a wetsuit. Much easier to get a wriggly toddler into one of those than be sure you've covered every inch in suncream.

And there's the rub, for me: a swim nappy to at least catch any possible crap, and if it's hot enough that they're naked then it's probably so hot they're burning.

Not i'm not wrong. Ask your local police, lifeguards, social workers, etc etc.

Sadly it's true; i live in a large coastal town with a transient population & i know what goes on because i've heard about it from professionals who have to try & arrest these people, & from friends / family who've seen this happen while at work or on days out -& actually i've seen it myself too. I regret that i didn't challenge the men involved; but i did report them.
Anyway, there's no point me wasting time & effort bothering to say any more - if you don't believe me, or won't listen then that's your choice.

If your Dad is anything like mine, then even if you ask him not to do it, he will probably ignore it and do the opposite anyway and so you would be wasting your breath.
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YANBU. From what you say it sounds like your dad quite enjoys framing you as a straight laced prude so he comes off as the liberal rule breaker. It's very undermining and I think that's the angle you should tackle it from, rather than the appropriateness or not of it all.

I'm not disturbed by naked children, nor do I have weird or warped thought processes, neither am I hysterical or over protective - I just don't want my kids to be out and about in public in their birthday suits. I don't think it's remotely odd.

How old is your child catgirl?

I dont know anyone who would let their children play naked and i live on the coast where at the first hint of sun parents rush to the beach.

By the very fact that it is hot enough to want to be playing in a splashpool means that the sun is out therefore young skin should be covered. A blob of sunscreen is not enough, they need to wear at least a t shirt, cotton shorts to their knees and a sun hat or even better a proper uv suit.

messy has hit the nail on the head. Your Dad likes feeling like a rebel, it seems... Well let him buy a motorbike or something.

You are the person primarily responsible for these children, and their auxiliary carers (whether family or paid or both) should therefore respect your wishes.

He's 8 months Proud so his nakedness is not really an issue. But it won't be an issue when he is 1, 2 or 3 either. It won't be an issue until he would prefer to wear clothes than be naked.

There is just no reason for him not to be naked imo, provided his feet are protected and he is protected from the sun.

I guess it's personal choice but I think it's sad anyone would think a child's body is something that needed to be covered up for any reason other than sun protection

Agree with blackcurrants but would add that on a personal note I don't want to see anyone naked in public, whatever their age or stage of development. Nudity is for private places, such as the garden.

Yanbu - I would hate this, both from the perspective of dc's dignity and that your dad is going against your wishes. ( I don't trust my mil with my DD either as she just does what she wants regardless of safety/my opinion)

If your dad has to have the dc, why not turn it around into something he wouldn't like/feel like a rebel by saying it looks a bit weird for an older bloke to have two naked little girls in public. I know I will be flamed for that suggestion but I'd do whatever it takes for him to stop - or pay for childcare and sod his feelings (as he is with yours)

i did make a similar suggestion, but it was removed.

lovebunny, your 'similar suggestion' went much much further, as you know. I feel no need to flame the poster above as her post doesn't include innuendo, insinuation or potentially libellous material.

I do think it's 'a bit weird' for someone to think that an older man with two naked children in public is 'a bit weird' though, and also prurient and sad.

I have to agree with LadyCCM

Thankfully, if I see a man with children, regardless of what they are wearing, I don't tend to make unpleasant assumptions.

I would hate to live in the head of someone who did. Purient and sad is correct.

Oh thank God, catgirl ? voice of common sense!

We appear to be a bit few and far between on this thead :(

I dunno, there are some others ? it's not all bad!

I will read through and take solace :)

Actually i have a lot of common sense. I would say that people who refuse to acknowledge the realities of life don't have any common sense.

I don't think 'paedos are on every corner' but many men are regularly, on a weekly basis, seen locally filming / photographing children of all ages - as i said, people report & try to stop them, or warn them off - but they are rarely convicted.

They are probably "rarely convicted" because it is not illegal to to film or photograph people in a public place.

"I don't understand why any mother would deliberately want your child to run round naked?"

Why? Why on earth not?!!

We were at the beach at the weekend with friends and our DCs (2, 3.5 and 4.5) all played on the beach naked.

I was really happy to see my DC run around naked as they were having such fun splashing in the sea, and it was nice to see them being so free, and unrestricted by society's hang ups about nakedness.

They're at an innocent age when they have no stigma about nakedness and I think this is lovely. I'm not going to deliberately poison their innocence by making them ashamed of being naked! There's plenty of time for them to get hung up about being naked when they're older - which they almost certainly will.