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Afternoon naps

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cheekypickle · 22/07/2012 15:13

Another weekend and DH is having yet another afternoon nap. He did let me lie in until 9:30.

What would you guys do with DD for 4-5 hours on a Sunday afternoon??

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lagartija · 22/07/2012 15:36

That's ridiculous! 4-5 hours???!!! 6am isn't that early, for goodness sake. Iirc he goes to bed by about 11pm, doesn't he? So even getting up at 6am he's sleeping 7 hours at night and then another 4 or 5? WTAF? Is he ill? If not, he's a lazy bastard, I'm sorry. Let him sleep an hour and then go and wake him up and tell him you're all going out for a walk.
I wasn't in bed til 1130 last night and I was up at 630 with DD and I don't feel the need for a 4 or 5 hour nap. You need to talk to him, he's taking the piss.

kinkyfuckery · 22/07/2012 15:37

Do you even like each other? Want to spend time together, or as a family?

It's just such an odd setup. Can you imagine when your LO goes to school and is asked if she did anything nice that weekend? "No, daddy gave me my breakfast whilst mummy slept, then I played with mummy whilst daddy slept" Unless there's a medical reason, prioritising sleep over family time is just weird, imo.

Why don't you switch it so one of you sleeps in til 9 on Saturday, the next on Sunday, then you have the full days to spend together?

Original poster
cheekypickle · 22/07/2012 15:37

Am I not lazy for laying in until 9:30am when DD gets up at 6am though?

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lagartija · 22/07/2012 15:38

x post.
You both go to bed at 9 or 10 pm and DD wakes at 6 or 7? So, you've both had 8 or 9 hours sleep when she wakes? Why do EITHER of you need a nap? Am I missing something? Get up, have breakfast early, potter for a bit and then do something TOGETHER!!!!!

SlipperyNipple · 22/07/2012 15:39

You said he got up at 6 and you lay in till 9....that's three hours you got is it not?

And you want to bed that early and need that much extra sleep. You are all sleeping too much!

Original poster
cheekypickle · 22/07/2012 15:39

DH naturally wakes up early anyway which is why he does the mornings and why I do the afternoons

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kinkyfuckery · 22/07/2012 15:39

I think you're both fucking lazy.

lagartija · 22/07/2012 15:40

Why do you need to do shifts like this if you're both sleeping from 9 or 10pm til 6am? That is a LOT of sleep. You're sleeping your lives away!

SlipperyNipple · 22/07/2012 15:40

Or depressed?

kinkyfuckery · 22/07/2012 15:41

Do you both go to sleep at 9-10pm? Or do you just go to bed? If you go to sleep, I think it sounds like you are both doing your best to avoid actually having to spend time together, and that'd be something I'd want to address in a relationship.

rubyslippers · 22/07/2012 15:41

When do you spend to time all together?

Your home life sounds off kilter TBH

insancerre · 22/07/2012 15:41

I don't understand why a grown adult needs 4-5 hours sleep on a sunday afternoon, unless they are ill.
I would find some hoovering to do.

CouthyMow · 22/07/2012 15:41

I think that you're both wanting too much sleep! How old is your DD? Why don't you take one weekend morning each to lie in, then you can do 'family stuff' together?

SlipperyNipple · 22/07/2012 15:42

I'm very puzzled by your set up. It's very odd. And depressing. I agree with lagartiga: you are sleeping your lives away.

lagartija · 22/07/2012 15:43

I don't get this. Your dd sleeps through, right? And she's only 11 months and yet you feel the need, after 9 hours sleep to take turns sleeping as much as 4 more extra hours, in shifts???? WTF? Why do you need so much sleep? When do you ever spend any time together?

FormerlyTitledUntidy · 22/07/2012 15:43

Ok so you don't have a problem with you dp sleeping in the afternoon since you sleep in the morning. Do you ever both get up at the same time and do something together?
Is your real problem that you don't know what to be doing with your dd when he is in bed? Could you not bring dd to the park for a walk or bring a ball to play with on the grass?

CouthyMow · 22/07/2012 15:44

I sometimes grab an afternoon nap when 17mo DS3 sleeps, but I am a Lone Parent and DS3 only sleeps for 4-5 hours maximum at night, with a 1 hr afternoon nap. And I have epilepsy and fibro...

Are you both depressed? Is your DD waking you through the night or not a good sleeper? Are you both trying to avoid problems in your relationship?

HecateHarshPants · 22/07/2012 15:44

what do you do as a family during the weekends? the three of you together?

I like a good nap as much as the next person Grin but I had an hour. And it's once in a while.

Sleeping away your whole weekend, every. single. weekend. - it's not normal.

You are, I assume, young, fit, healthy people?

What's with all the sleep? Grin

Is your child one of those who is up every hour? (My eldest was until he was 15 months old) if so, then it's understandable that you're both grabbing all the sleep you can Grin but if not, then I hate to break it to you, but the teen days of lazing about in bed are gone gone gone and they' ain't coming back Grin

GnocchiNineDoors · 22/07/2012 15:45

The thing is OP, your extra sleep doesnt seem to infringe on the weekend and doing something together, which your DHs regular naps do. Once you are up and ready to go, the whole day can be enjoyed if it weren't for his needing a big chunk of it to himself every saturday and sunday.

Crimebusterofthesea · 22/07/2012 15:45

You know, sometimes the more sleep you have, the more tired you feel. I think there is way too much sleeping going on. I would be livid if my DH wanted to go to sleep for 4 hours in the afternoon, every weekend - that just isn't a nap!! Does he not want to make the most of the weekend and spend time as a family?

Original poster
cheekypickle · 22/07/2012 15:45

I'm 25
DH is 50
DS is 15 (step son)
DD is 11 months

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CouthyMow · 22/07/2012 15:46

What to do with your DD while he sleeps? Go out to the woods and take time to point out all the flowers and things, go to the park and push her in the toddler swings? Play bricks with her? Read her a story?

HecateHarshPants · 22/07/2012 15:47

third time lucky Grin

what do you do as a family?

If you ignore me again I shall take the hint and shut the hell up and stop asking Grin

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cheekypickle · 22/07/2012 15:48

We don't do much as a family. We went swimming once. Sometimes we walk into town and get lunch

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rubyslippers · 22/07/2012 15:48

I also asked the same Hecate

I thi k the answer is that they don't

How can they? They are sleeping through the weekends in shifts