to get a bit peeved about people moaning about 6 weeks of holidays with their DCs?

[Abgirl]

Have seen at least 2 facebook messages this morning complaining about how long the summer holidays are - 1 has even worked out the number of days until their DCs were back to school! It might seem like a long time now but the days are long and the years are short - I work FT and would love 6 weeks off to spend with my DCs :(.

You might think you'd love it, doesn't mean you actually would.

We have 10 weeks of holidays, am I allowed complain?

I agree, I'm really looking forward to spending more time with my dds.

In very lucky as my boss is letting me have some unpaid leave over the summer so we can have some time together.

Although I reserve the right to change my mind about this once the whinging starts

I'm not complaining in the slightest! I absolutely love the chance to spend the time with my dcs . It might help that I'm a teacher so if they go back to school so do I. It does annoy me a little that people complain about having to entertain their own children for 6 weeks, but most people I know have been looking forward to the holidays as much as I have.

Well it does seem a shame but then I suppose if you're in with DC 7 days per week it might get a big much.

I too work f/t and during school hols I drop down to 3 days a week which for me is the perfect balance...still get to come to work 3 days and then spend the other 2 with my lovely DS hence I love the school hols.

Mind you, even if I did hate the hols I certainly wouldnt brag about it on fb!

Complain all you like, I never said each day would be easy but IMO it does seem to me likehaving children but preferring when they're at school and you don't have to spend time with them.

Yanbu!

Wait till their teenagers and all you do is worry where the hell they are

YABU because you are only peeved that they can do it and you can't.

I love having my boys home for the holidays. No school runs, no packed lunches, no nagging to get out of the house in the morning and most of the time I don't know they are here! But thats because they are now 11 & 13 and easy peasy compared to having a houseful of toddlers or whingy 7/8 year olds.

the grass is always greener and all that :)

Betty would love to go part-time during holidays but it's our busiest time of year and I've had to fight for the annual leave I have got booked at the end of August.

Abgirl Fri 20-Jul-12 11:22:40
Complain all you like, I never said each day would be easy but IMO it does seem to me likehaving children but preferring when they're at school and you don't have to spend time with them.

Yet you work full time!!!

YABU - not everyone feels the same as you - school holidays cost me a fortune as I have to work and pay £150 a week for holiday clubs!

nokidshere I guess it's part of a 'decision' to work FT - not that economically there's any choice about that in our house. I think they are BU in moaning about it on facebook.

OP I work FT too so I know what you mean.

I absolutely love my job and think I've got a good work/life balance - but I always say life would be perfect if I could have six weeks off every summer.

That said, it's bloody hard work being with kids all day every day and finding them things to do so I appreciate the moaning too!

I always feel a bit too when I hear people moan too.

I'm lucky enough to have the holidays off - some days are stressful, most are great.

Plus when they say it in front of their children I always feel really sorry for them :(

YABU.

It's great for the kids but it's not like when we were kids and holidays were just about playing outside with your friends. You can't just chuck the kids out like that these days, or at least not as young as then, so it's harder having kids underfoot and trying to think of things to do with them. It also depends on the weather and finances. If you're flush the holidays are a wonderful opportunity to go out, visit places and have a brilliant time. But, especially if the weather's lousy, there really aren't that many indoor places which don't cost ££, and taking them to the park isn't an option, so it's more likely that the holidays will be a chore rather than an opportunity.

If you've got a tiny house and you're cooped up in bad weather it's going to be horrible compared to having a spacious house and room to just do stuff.

In my opinion, it totally depends on your circumstances, and your own personality.

Olympia sometimes there's no choice :(

No choice? Well you do have a choice over fb friends!

I could say the same to you about you preferring to go to work and not see them, but that would be unfair, mean and unnecessary, so I wouldn't.

If you work full time, obviously the idea of having a lovely long summer holiday sounds fun, as its different from what you normally do. If you are at home with them all the time anyway, its no treat, its no different, its just means you have them ALL the time, and no time ever to do anything for yourself, like you might have squeezed in during school hours. And for a lot of us, no money and lots of rain means being stuck indoors and bored a lot of the time.

Try and see it from a different perspective before giving out about people in different situations to you.

Olympia have unsubscribed from their posts already

People like a good moan about everything...it's seasonal just like the moaning about Christmas, Easter, Valentine's etc.

It's just the turn of the summer holidays now.

It doesn't bother me on FB or here but it does make me sad when I hear parents actually moaning about it to or in front of their children.

That must make the kids feel like shit

This the first time I have ever had the whole holidays off with my DS. He goes back in 3 weeks so I'll give my verdict then.

why are you complaining? you must not see your kids too much if you work full time, the people on facebook might never get a break from their kids and think you have it easy!

pot and kettle

Those posts are always from people who have time to themselves during the school day - and presumably the main complaint is that they don't over the holiday.

And they tend to be the ones moaning about the school run during term time

penis and ssd - I suppose it's because I don't go on facebook to lecture them about lucky they are, but they're on there moaning with trying to 'see it from a different perspective'. I came on here is see if i ABU to feel how I do and think it's pretty much in the balance so far.

if you dont like them dont read their posts, but surely you can see the contradiction in your post saying "Complain all you like, I never said each day would be easy but IMO it does seem to me likehaving children but preferring when they're at school and you don't have to spend time with them."

you dont have to spend time with your kids when you work