to get a bit peeved about people moaning about 6 weeks of holidays with their DCs?

[Abgirl]

Have seen at least 2 facebook messages this morning complaining about how long the summer holidays are - 1 has even worked out the number of days until their DCs were back to school! It might seem like a long time now but the days are long and the years are short - I work FT and would love 6 weeks off to spend with my DCs :(.

Yet you want number 3? ^

Sorry x posts.

I am having number 3 thanks because however hard it is I love my children and wouldn't change it. Doesn't mean I can't moan when it's hard!

People who complain yet go about making the situation worse for themselves...

Have a ghost ship, not everyone finds things easy and yes people may moan. If it bothers you don't listen. As it happens my dc3 is a very much loved and wanted child. It may well be hard when I work but I will get through it. Thankfully I have friends who are not as perfect as you and understand you can find something hard and yet still want to do it!

My kids are off for 8 weeks. I am self employed and work at home. My husband runs his own business. We are somehow managing to get things done with the kids at home, but it's a whole lot harder than term time. Its lovely not having to get up for the school run, we are much more relaxed, but it is hard going when I have to organise one or the other of us to have the kids if we have to do something where the kids can't go, it's very complicated and our work is suffering to a degree!

from me too ghostship. I had dc2 and dc3 because one day they will be able to walk even though Dd1 can't. It will get easier. Right now its fucking hard.

I suspect this appplies to lots of mums (my situation is pretty extreme) - they have 2 or more kids knowing it will be hard sometimes, but that it won't be difficult forever.

Good Lord, ghostship. There's a difference between acknowledging the difficulty of one aspect of parenthood - in this case, working during school holidays - and being WRONG to want another child

If someone complained that fish didn't agree with them, would you tell them to stop eating food?

This all depends on whether you are a SAHM or WOHM, how many DCs you have, how old they are, whether you have a supportive partner to help and how many holiday activities you can afford to fork out for.
When you have ascertained which camp you slot into then you have your answer to looking forward to the hols or not.

agree with lowestpriority, here;s another one that makes the difference

hsving extended family that regularly take the kids away for a day or more to give you a break

must make all the difference between moaning here or spending the day in town with your mates drinking wine

It's no different to those parents whose other half is a teacher say, and they are a Sahm and half dreading being on top of each other for 6 weeks. No matter how much you love somebody and enjoy their company, you can get on eacothers nerves. And kids can get sick of their parents too. None of this means the relationships are dysfunctional!!

It all depends on whether your life gets easier or harder in the hols. I work in schools everyday, dashing out early, working in the eve etc, so for me the holidays feel easier. If someone is a SAHM, maybe with one pre-schooler, and two older, suddenly they have three at home, bickering, no groups on etc. Their life just got harder.

I'm a bot confused about (NT) kids who are 'bored and whingey' in the holidays, tbh. I remember loving the holidays when I was a kid, and DD did too. Very little money was spent. Whoever said you can;t just let them play out anymore, why not?
I appreciate that flat-bound city dwellers might encounter boredom with more justification, but where has this idea come from that holidays are a trial for the kids? Even MN has an ad to that dffect over >>> most of the time.

cardibach Sun 22-Jul-12 21:47:15

Whoever said you can;t just let them play out anymore, why not?